#datingish

[anmaquibe]

#readromancechallenge Day 14: Blind Date #DatingIsh by @reidromance Blind dates aren’t always the best, and Marie and Matt’s blind date was a complete disaster, but what’s meant to be, it’s meant to be and they were meant to be together. More about Dating Ish http://pennyreid.ninja/book/dating-ish/ #topbookboyfriend #topbookgirlfriend #topseries #topauthor #collectorofbookboyfriends

[blizzard-of-1]

The days when you just want to read, drink coffee and eat chocolate. #datingish

[devoika37]

How to be Romantically Unique

Being romantic is a concept that seems lost on most people these days. Those who believe they are romantic rarely think outside the box. Sometimes, it's nice to take a new approach to some of the most out-played classic acts of romance. Gentlemen, here's what I mean: 

Instead of making her a mixed cd of songs that supposedly remind you of her, make a bunch of cds of bands, artists, and songs that you like and think she might, too.

Call her at a time when you know she won't answer. Leave a "just thinking about you" message.

E-mail her just for fun.

Ask her if she wants to go shopping and, instead of following her around, pick out stuff you like for her to try on. Have her do the same for you. Even if you don't buy anything, it's still fun.

If she drinks coffee or tea, go to a place like Color Me Mine and paint one for her.

Make a list of all the things you like about her or about your relationship. E-mail her one a day and number them in the e-mail subject line.

Rather than buying flowers, go pick them yourself and give them to her on an ordinary day for no reason at all.

Instead of massaging her to get her in the mood, massage her after sex. Hit the spots that may have been aggravated during the act. She'll feel more appreciated and will appreciate you more in return.

Send her snail mail. People love getting tangible mail in the 21st century. It just seems so... old-fashioned and chivalrous. 

Guys, what do you do to be romantic? 

Girls, is there anything you find romantic that hasn't been mentioned?

[myknowledgeblog-blog]

*This article is not written by me. The author is AsylumBlue at mancouch. It was featured on xanga under the Datingish section. No copyright infringement is intended. I am just sharing it because I think it has a lot of wisdom to depart.

Much like going to the doctor, men tend to be terrified of women. Crossing them together and concocting a female doctor in a lab somewhere will yield results similar to immigration officers chasing after illegal marathon runners. You'll never see a man run that fast ever again in your life. The fear may seem illogical, but there are various reasons why approaching a female can be the equivalent of walking towards a loaded pistol. Men don't want to get shot down. The ego is just as important as dick length is to gay size queens.

Getting rejected for any reason can bruise an ego for weeks, especially when it's a crush shutting you down. It is a dreadful feeling and sometimes sticking to your hand, some lube and a computer screen can be satisfying enough to keep your mind away from coming in contact with women. It's a comfort zone men have created for themselves. Some guys go to extremes and settle on RealDolls to keep away the loneliness as much as possible. This isn't an ideal solution, so I'm going to further discuss this matter.

Women are human too.

Always keep this in mind. Don't feel like you're a dirty sub-species of ball scratching simpletons, vying for the attention of goddesses with more value than you in their left tit goosebumps alone. Thinking this way is unattractive and a form of self-loathing. Not only are you putting yourself down, but in doing so, you're diminishing your value towards women. By realizing that you're on an equal level, it will make the approach easier because you can start off on a level field mentally. 

Don't approach women like you want to date them; approach them as if you were trying to make friends or meet new people.

Of course you'll initially want more out of a woman than friendship if she catches all three of your eyes, but it isn't the best way to go about it. Have you noticed how much easier it is to talk to and approach people you aren't attracted towards physically? Try making that the norm around women you find attractive. Don't go in with any expectations, and don't over-analyze the situation. If you spot someone you'd like to get to know better, just make a simple approach and start a normal conversation.

You don't need pick-up lines or impressive stories about how you once saved a bus full of school children with your pinkie. Forget that nonsense and keep it simple. If you try to impress, you'll look like you're trying too hard or you'll slip up. Be up-front and natural; you don't have to change your core personality. This isn't about becoming someone else for a quick fuck, it's about improving upon your core being in a non-spiritual sense. I'm not telling you to lead anyone on. Eventually, you'll have to be forward about your attraction.

You don't want to fall into the "friend-zone" either, so don't be a push-over. Being friendly doesn't mean that you have to do everything a woman says or buy her tons of free drinks. If you don't want to buy her a drink or do her laundry, tell her. Keep your dignity. She isn't going to hate you for being like the hundreds of other guys who do her bidding. If anything, she'll find you more attractive. Once again, just introduce yourself or point out something interesting that she may be wearing or doing. Talk about the setting, anything. It's easier to talk to women in interesting settings with things to comment on.

Rejection doesn't mean you're undesirable to everyone.

To better understand yourself and women, you're going to need to keep this in mind. It's impossible to be attractive to everyone you come across. While society's standard of beauty may give one person better odds, they'll still falter and get rejected just like everyone else. Don't expect every girl you fall for to like you back in the same manner. Leave your options open, and keep meeting new people even if you're just making friends. The more women you approach, the better your chances are of finding someone you like and who likes you back.

Similarly, the more friends you make, the more people you'll end up being introduced to. By sitting around alone with a dick in your hand, you aren't going to make your chances any better. It's difficult to change and become more open to this idea, but it's worth it in the end because it will improve many facets of your life. You'll become more confident with job interviews, for example. You'll become a better team player and lose your social awkwardness in the process.

After every rejection, just like every break-up, use it as a learning experience and go over things you could improve upon for the next time. Keep building yourself, because we aren't perfect and life is about changes and growing to become the best possible self. Early on, relationships aren't likely to last because of the very fact that we're still growing and changing. Remember this as well so you aren't caught off-guard when the woman you thought you loved becomes a different person.

Dress nicely, and dress for confidence.

Looking your best will always boost your confidence level. Always. If you don't find yourself to be physically appealing, change up your hairstyle. Try on some new clothes. Cleaning yourself up and wearing nice or matching clothing can work wonders. If you're already comfortable with the way you look, that's wonderful. Just make sure to remain your own self, and wear things that please you, first and foremost. If you can do that, the confidence boost will help you approach women and attract them. You can certainly consult friends for advice on what they believe would look good on you, or do a search online. Some hairstyles look better on certain face shapes, etc...

Also keep in mind the type of women you're into, if you have a type at all. If you're into nice religious girls from proper families, you may not want to stretch your ears out and get Satanic images tattooed across your neck. You'll also want to avoid ironic t-shirts with swastikas on them, if you're even being ironic. I don't personally have a type, but I do find myself attracting more "alternative" or "artistic" types of women with the way I dress. I don't do it for that reason, but I feel good in my clothing and I think it's noticeable. That's what you want to do.

Learn to keep eye-contact.

You're not having a staring contest with the sun, for fuck's sake. If you really need to, wear sunglasses at all possible times, even at night at the expense of looking like an asshole. It's not the best idea, but if you need to train your eyes to remain locked with women, this is a start. Looking away constantly will reveal your insecurities. This is key because the eyes can be powerful in drawing people in or away from you. You'll project confidence once you're able to make eye contact and keep it, whether you're looking across the room or talking to women. 

Don't be all creepily wide-eyed or blinking like you've got strobe lights for lids. Look more relaxed, pretend you're squinting a bit at a bright screen, trying to read small text. Throw in a smile while you're at it. It's not as complicated as it sounds, and it's a great thing to master. Before you know it, you'll have your own little fan-club of 70-year-old women wanting a piece of that. Maybe even younger!

Don't give up, even if you have small set-backs.

Things won't always go smoothly, and you may be tempted to give up and go back to your RealDoll, but WE'VE ALL BEEN THERE. Don't expect everything to go swimmingly and happen on its own. You need to put forth the effort to change, and you have to want to change. Your quality of life will skyrocket to fucking Mars and back if you make these self-improvements. Being alone and hopeless will definitely drag down your happiness. Pills alone won't save you. When you're put on drugs for mental disorders, they always recommend exercise and social activities. It's not one or the other, it's a combination of the two.

Follow that guideline, and realize that you aren't going to get everything handed to you. You'll find support if you look for it which should help to give you motivation. If you can find support groups for RealDolls, you can find support groups for people dealing with these issues and helping to better one another. Give it a try if you're serious.

Repetition. Repetition. Repetition.

Keep repeating the steps and bettering yourself. The more you go out there and approach women, the easier it will get over time. The first time you try anal it will probably feel uncomfortable, but if you apply the proper amount of lubrication and work on it often, it'll feel better. Maybe. Make yourself a schedule, or just practice approaching women and making friends wherever you go. Supermarkets are great places to strike up conversations easily and meet great people. The best people ever are all probably in the cereal aisle, actually.

Make notes if it helps. Just do whatever makes you feel comfortable, because this is all about improving yourself, and making your quality of life better. If you just want to get laid, well, become a pick-up artist and disregard my post. This isn't for you.

Sincerely, Nuñez Love Doctor

Certified with a PhD in Bad ANALogies (hah) and Nazi Dating.