So I found a dialectical behavior therapy book and there's a section on taking a nonjudgemental stance. In other words it means focusing on the "what" and not whether it's "good" or "bad" How the fuck do I do that? Isn't that the heart of self preservation? If someone seems suspisicously "bad" and threatening uh yeah I will apply judgement and avoid the theoretical person. There was another example involving not splitting a situation into either a black or white category. It said, "A friend has just thrown a chair down the hallway because a peer refused to let them use the phone. They have received a Major Infraction and are very angry. They are talking to you." The options on how to respond are: a. You listen, nodding. b. You ignore them, because you don’t want to give them attention for bad behavior. c. You state, “You were really frustrated, weren’t you?” d. You say, “You’re right! She never lets anyone else use the phone!” I picked B because I'd want nothing to do with them after something like that. I know that isn't right but it's what I'd be most comfortable with. How do you apply behavioral therapy techniques to a disorder when that disorder is wholly your personality?!?!