#demeaniac

[freakxwannaxbe]

demeaniac said: 

literally me in C 10. you can block me now but i felt like asking compulsively.

Noooo ur a cutie to draw, I’m okay with it I wouldn’t block you!!!

Also I don’t know what ur current hair color so I went with your current fb profile pic

[butchviking]

why can't you see that not every country is like the UK? i've been going to the gender therapist for 3+ years and only now am i getting the permission to go on hormones. and i have never questioned that i needed it - it's just common practice to wait. and detransitioning is extremely rare, they (the only gender therapists in the COUNTRY) had like 1 or 2 causes in the last 15 years..? just sayin', everywhere is different.

i dont really know what youre asking me bc ive obviously never said every country is like the uk. there are different countries where different things happen and very often they influence each other. that’s true of like, literally every issue. i happen to live in the uk. what do u want from me

also i wanna be clear that i really do not think several years of ‘gender therapy’ is even necessarily useful like my solution isn’t “everyone should put their lives on hold for 10 years in therapy in case they change their mind” my issue is therapy seems to generally b either absent or fuckin useless. most trans & detransitioned ppl who DID receive pre-transition therapy don’t speak particularly highly of it in terms of how their gender issues/dysphoria were addressed, and we’re certainly not getting the same kind of funding poured into research & treatment as we are into transition. the uk is ofc where I’m most familiar w/, and here we have abt 4? maybe 5? ‘gender identity clinics’ w/ waiting lists a mile long, and you could be in therapy at one of those for a year and have maybe 3 appointments. you can contrast that with informed consent clinics where a kid just needs to sign a form to get a double mastectomy, or with ’gatekeeper’ models where people get held up in therapy for 7 years because they didn’t play w/ the right toys as a child. there are lots of different models transition runs on, and yeah, things are done differently country to country. imo, none of them are doing right by trans people. 

[butchviking]

i get it now that you've elaborated. and yeah, in those 3 years i have received NO psychological help, just medication for depression and anxiety, so i agree it's upsettingly useless. i live in serbia, and i can't back up my statement about detransition rates being so low - my therapists wouldn't share any more than that, so it might be untruthful.

yeah see thats exactly what i’m talking about, what I want is more addressing & understanding root causes which just doesnt seem to happen with dysphoria - bc more often than not, the cause is written off as “being trans”, like that explains anything. so even when you are getting people going through the system and doing the therapy, they haven’t actually been addressing what’s causing their dysphoric symptoms, nor usually learning any other helpful ways to cope either without transition or even in the meantime while waiting for transition. i think that’s also a big part of why so many people are in such a rush to transition, and then that leads to its own issues when other places do let people fast-track their transition.

here, you’re usually still offered some measure of therapy before going to a GIC, but it’s no longer a legal requirement so most people (at least my age) don’t even bother bc everyone knows they don’t actually help - just ask invasive questions abt your sex life and how gnc you were as a kid. so ppl demand a direct referral to the gic, and two years from their first appointment there they’re getting surgery. 

tbh all i really want is more viable options for trans people. it really just feels like there aren’t even options rn.

[phantomensemble]

they didnt really think it through when they designed those pokemon go teams, now did they... i mean could it be any more obvious that 70% people would join the blue team (im going for team instinct because i like the description but ye)?? its kinda boring tbh

On the bright side it is a little fun if you can find a group of other people on the same team to fight the blue menace- today I spent like 2 hours at the mall going back and forth with the blue team there and it was hella fun

[cosasystuff]

you are the bug pokemon type dont even ask me for an explanation

Is it because I always bug you?

[freakxwannaxbe]

demeaniac replied

mind if i ask what is going on?

Nothing special, just the new season of Star vs The Forces of Evil premiered yesterday, and already the entire tag is nothing but shipping dicourse and both sides being annoying

I just want to go in to the tag and find pretty art and gifsets ;_;

[freakxwannaxbe]

demeaniac said:wwhhhhhhhhhhyyyyyyyyy do i always forget to apply for the art contest

Ughhhhh I know the feel, I always forget to apply, it's horrible :'D

Maybe we'll both remember to apply for Japanizam

hopefully ;_;