I was reading different posts about Dementer's Hymn and how Hades and Persephone gets romantised and her grief ignored because horny girls/women are evil, yadda yadda. But honestly, I think the 'ignoring Dementer's grief and villainazing' it steams not (solely) on the fact that people want Hades and Persephone to be a romance but on the fact that, to a modern eye, the idea of being forever shackled to your mother is not a very comforting thought, even if she loves you so much.
Yes, the original source is entirely about Dementer and not about Persephone, her daughter is the object of her grief... And that's it. And yes it's a myth that explains the seasons so for that to exist the ending has to be bittersweet.
We live in an individualistic era and the idea of a young woman forever staying as her mother's 'baby' is not exactly something desired. Again, the myth is never really about what Persephone wants but about what Dementer or Hades want. Since Dementer is the protagonist, obviously her desires focus on her mother. Hades is the antagonist, so he goes against Dementer's desires.
It's also the fact that, unlike before many eras, child abuse is more recognised. A girl (or boy) getting abused by their mother is a more common occurrence than a girl getting kidnapped by her uncle. And again, as much as everyone wants the framing to be solely about how Dementer is suffering, some people are simply gonna focus on Persephone and for a lot of people, her staying forever as her mother's daughter with no identity on her own is no better happy ending than her becoming Queen of the Underworld. Because having no sense of self outside your parents is not a nice concept.
Am I saying that Dementer is abusive? No. She is clearly fighting as she can against Zeus and Hades' getting her daughter kidnapped into an unwilling marriage. I am just saying that is clear that the 'happy' ending for her is her daughter staying by her side forever with no deal with brother-son-in-law... or she destroys everything. Which to some modern readers just... tickles as sensitive nerve of something more common than 'my uncle kidnapped me to marry him'.
