grrlcookery replied to your post “Youre like this loud brash brilliant older sibling/cousin figure and...”
I raise my coffee mug in your general direction you total paladin
radio-charlie replied to your post “Youre like this loud brash brilliant older sibling/cousin figure and...”
u are truly the real OG. am a fuckin angry vicious motherfucker so reading 'satisfying my anger is not as important to me as effecting change' was a big wake-up call. thanks for sharing this and seriously u rule
dienaziscum replied to your post “Youre like this loud brash brilliant older sibling/cousin figure and...”
bruh i love you <3 <3 <3
momoyomaki replied to your post “Youre like this loud brash brilliant older sibling/cousin figure and...”
You have no idea how badly I needed to hear this tonight thank you. And I 100% go reread your stories whenever I need that reminder
SHPANKS LADS. and not to be emotionally aware on main but a personal high five from me to you for every time ya have to box up your EXTREMELY JUSTIFIED RAGE and have to perform whatever else instead. and like - sure! everyone is capable of change for the better! but plenty of people don’t want to! and plenty of others have definitions of “better” that are uhh bad! I got told “pick your battles” almost nonstop my entire life and only now i’m learning UGH IT’S FUCKING TRUE
BUT NOT IN THE WAY THEY MEANT IT, ACTUALLY
when you pick your battles, you are choosing who and what is worth spending energy on, and what approach to take. I know how my brother grew up. I know what he did and didn’t learn in our family. i know there’s a chance i can influence him for the better and make changes to his behavior, and part of that is i have to model healthy behaviors for him. there’s some things he just doesn’t know, and unless someone teaches him he won’t know. i have to think about how i learned, and what changed my mind. Did i learn and grow in situations where i was yelled at and insulted for what i perceived to be petty reasons, or did i double down? what helped me change?
ON THE OTHER HAND, there are PLENTY of people who would not have a SINGLE REDEEMING QUALITY even if they DIED IN A COMPOST HEAP because their very vileness would TAKE CORPOREAL FORM and SURELY POISON THE COMPOST. INTERPERSONAL IMPROVEMENT IS A TWO WAY STREET. DON’T WASTE YOUR PRECIOUS KINDNESS ON SOME MISERABLE GYM SOCK WHO’S DECIDED THEY WANT TO DIE STUPIDER THAN THEY WERE BORN. THEY’RE NOT FOR YOU. SOMETHING OR SOMEONE ELSE WILL GET THROUGH TO THEM - OR IT WON’T. NOT YOUR PROBLEM. AS THE ANCIENT SAGES SPOKE IN THEIR WISEST OF PARABLES: SOMETIMES YOU JUST GOTTA SAY YIKES AND MOVE ON
