can i get some advice for a malachite fictive (from steven universe) who's been trying to calm her host down? i have three headmates, and my host disassociates very badly when she sees doubles of two of them. it's been very exhausting. i just (1/2)
(2/2) want the best for my host. one of the headmates is also very argumentative with me, and she often suggests impractical ways to "deal" with the double that's giving my host trouble. it's been very exhausting. thank you
Well, I suppose that depends on what’s practical to do. If a double is what’s causing all this trouble, you could try blocking the double and keeping the host away from that person. If you know of any tactics of helping people “come back” from dissociation, you might be able to help the host through a dissociation episode that way.
(A quote from me on a different post about helping with dissociation - “Unfortunately I don’t know firsthand how to help with dissociation, since I don’t usually have troubles with that ^^’ however, if you need help at all calming down from it, I looked up some things to help and suggestions that have helped someone else with dissociation include playing simple and repetitive games, causing yourself strong physical sensations (suggestions include putting ice on your face/holding ice, dancing, exercising, things like that), or doing things like watching TV or reading to help you step away from the situation and calm down. The article said that eating or taking a nap can also help if you’re tired or haven’t eaten in a while beforehand.”)
If you want to and your host allows it, you could also set up an agreement with her where, whenever she’s about to interact with a new blog, you could have her step back and take the front yourself to make sure they aren’t a double of whoever she dissociates when she sees doubles of. That might be safe, assuming she wouldn’t be able to see when you’re looking through or would be able to “look away” when you’re fronting.
All in all, be patient and figure out what your host is comfortable with and what’s practical to do. I have very little personal experience with dissociation, unfortunately, so if you need different/more specific advice or ideas, just send another message and I can try to help!
