Anon Advice Asks - October 15
fearless anon, draft anon (new), @emmypotter7, male friends anon (new)
fearless anon
hi cas it’s fearless anon
so um a lot of things have happened/are going to happen.
firstly, i’m no longer friends with P. which is a bit hard for D and R to reconcile with and they’ve asked me multiple times to forgive her because “that’s just how she is” and like, no, i’m not going to do that because what she did this time (confirmed that i like one of the girls i used to like to her friends) is something she did like 1.5 years ago. how does someone have no character development in almost two years??
secondly, i’m so happy i get to introduce two new characters, V and M. i made friends so that’s great, i went to hoco with M and her friends and i have french with both of them and i sit with V at lunch.
now this introduction was a bit relevant because of my ecs. i tried out for mun with M and her friends but my second tryout was awful so idk if i’ll get chosen for the conference the school attends in january.
and i joined scioly. which is great, even if it means i can’t do robotics with V, and my tryouts start tomorrow. i signed up for five like an idiot and now i’m suffering the consequences. my main competition from my year are these insanely smart people who are in ap calc ab. the good news on the other hand is that i’m in the same classes as them otherwise and in some cases ahead of them since i’m in ap chem and ap physics.
except i’m kinda freaking out. there are people in calc ab while i’m still in precalc. i feel so behind. and what’s not helping is the 9.5/15 that i got in ap physics and have to write two essays and do a bunch of problems to remediate.
Hi!
I'm so glad you made some new friends! Honestly, I think it's awesome to have multiple friend groups, that way if you need a break from one, you have another. I think you have every right to take space from P, and if your other friends don't get that, then getting closer with V and M is a great idea. You don't have to dump your old friends or anything, just having multiple groups is awesome.
As far as all of your extra curriculars...I think it's important to remember that there's a balance between doing a lot and having cool things to put on your college resume and also not stretching yourself too thin to the point where you exhaust yourself. Maybe wait to see what you get in to and then pick a couple of your favorites from there? Because you want to have enough time to commit to those things and do them well, you know? Plus...mental health is important!
Sending love!
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draft anon (new)
Sometimes if I’m lying in bed trying to sleep but I can’t because something is bothering me I just draft out an anon ask to you in my head
And I don’t send it because trying to sleep + screen time = bad but just the process of articulating it in my head and imagining sending it to you is actually helpful
So ig what I’m trying to say is thank you for being a safe space for so many people
Awww that's so sweet! I'm glad that helps. Honestly, sometimes when I can't sleep, writing down all the thoughts in my head helps a lot- it sounds like you're doing something similar. We all need time to process the day, you know? And I think with always being on our devices, we tend to miss that time until we lay down at night.
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@emmypotter7
So, I have a crush on my friend, but idk if he likes me back. We are on our forth year of knowing each other, and we have recently gotten a lot closer. Should I tell him? I kinda get the feeling he likes me back but im not sure.
(also this is a picture of me and him and the raccoon plushie he helped me win at a fair. your microfic with barty reminded me of it lol)
awww okay first of all that picture was adorable! I'm so bad at answering these asks thought because I always go back and forth- I'm always terrified of losing friendships! But I think the thing is, looking back at the friendships I was terrified to lose that I ultimately lost anyway...it's usually better to know. Like it's better to say something, and know you did all you could to put your feelings out there. You just have to be prepared for that possible rejection and know that if you ARE rejected, it doesn't make you any less of a cool person. <3 But yeah...I think usually, it's better to ask and know, that way it doesn't eat at you for years.
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male friends anon (new)
Words won’t explain how much I yearn to be friends with boys irl. I’m trans and I’ve never really been friends with boys. I guess I was as a kid but that was before I realised I’m trans. I’m also friends with a couple boys online but that’s not the same thing really. I don’t really have a dad and irl I have one boy I’m friends with but we’re not close and he doesn’t know I’m trans but it feels like to cis guys their male friends are such a big part of their lives and I’m honestly insanely jealous.
OH MY GOD WHEN I TELL YOU I FEEL THIS SO MUCH.
I'm transmasc and like...I work in a girl-dominated field, most of my close friends are girls or non-men, and most of the men I know misgender me and YES THIS IS SUCH A REAL FEELING. Like I enjoy being part of girlhood sometimes but want to be one of the boys so badly, too. Please know you're not alone and your feelings are so real <3 I think my brother and my brother in law are the only people who treat me like a 'bro' and it's such an affirming feeling. I hope one day you find people who do that for you, you deserve that so much.
