chat is it normal for your system to have one member who's like. the embodiment of perfection and all of your good traits? is there a word for this?
there's almost always someone who's able to do things we usually have a hard time with almost effortlessly, speak eloquently and charismatically; who has a sharp mind and sharper sense of humour. and what's more, they just... feel perfect. we can't quite put our finger on it. the role seems to transfer from member to member. our golden child was Lily until Avalon formed just recently.
Does anyone else experience this? Is it associated with certain origins, system types, or neurotypes?
Further context below the cut because I yap. A lot. Most of it is unclear and irrelevant; I'll edit it soon. You have been warned.
Context
Our system is full of dualimates — for us, that manifests as pairs of linked headmates whose opposing traits balance each other out. (i.e.: inside of us there are two wolves. /ref)
I'm a dualimate myself. I try to investigate our past and why our system works the way it does; Avalon tries to prevent me/us from doing so if she believes it'll cause us harm. She's co-con with me as I'm typing this, so apologies for any inconsistencies in wording or opinion / grammatical/syntactic/spelling errors due to blurriness.
Her being the System's Golden Child™ would imply that I'm the System's Black Sheep™ (and therefore that some key part of our subconscious believes she's in the right), but this isn't fully the case. We're not enemies or rivals. We're both multifaceted; neither of us is completely good or bad.
