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[twodementedducks]

"If you don't ask the question, you're not going to know the answer for sure"

 - The Duck

[twodementedducks]

Bullying; Advice

Hey guys! 

I'm going to talk about something serious for a change. Bullying. I've been bullied the most of my life, and just as so many others, I've got invicible scars. I got rid of the bullying about a year ago, but I know that a lot of people isn't as lucky as I am, so I'm going to give you some advice on how to get through times with bullying and maybe get rid of it.

 - I don't try to tell you what to do, and I don't claim to know you, your feelings or your problem. I'm just giving some friendly advice, that helped me and have helped a lot of people too. You can listen to it and you can ignore it.

#1 - Realize that it isn't your fault. 

It's VERY important to know that it isn't your fault that you get bullied. You can't control what other people think and do, and I'm pretty sure that you didn't walk straight to them and said "Hey! Bully me!". And no matter what they use as an excuse to bully you, you weren't the one who asked for it. So stop blaming yourself for it.

#2 - Tell someone about it.

I know you've heard this a LOT of times. And it's because it's VERY important. Don't even think about being alone with all the feelings and shit. It's not a solution. Tell someone about it. Your parents would probably be the best choice, but if you for some reason doesn't trust them or don't feel like you can tell them, there's other possibilities. Maybe a teacher that you like, an older sibling, a close friend... Hell even one of your friends parents, if you trust them. Just someone you feel like trusting. An online friend could be fine too, but my advice is that you tell it to someone in person. It's hard. Very hard. I know. But when you find out that the person wants to listen to you, it feels all better. It's also possible that the person can help you with stopping the bullying.

#3 - Move away.

If you can, then change environment. Move to a new school if someone there is bullying you, or stop hanging out with your friends, if you feel like they're bullying you. 

#4 - Confront the bullies.

By confronting people, I don't mean that you should go beat someone up or anything. That just moves you to their level. No. Open your mouth and tell them how you feel and ask them to stop. Try to keep your calm, because it's hard to listen to a person who shouts. Don't be overdramatic either, because that will make it seem like you just want attention. Just sit down and talk about it, face to face, and if you feel comfortable about it, it's a good idea to be alone with the person, when you talk about it. If it's a larger group of people who bully you, #3 is a better option.

#5 - Self harm. Not an option.

You've probably heard this at least 100 times too. But self harm isn't an option. I've been in it myself, and it doesn't make anything better. It makes it better the moment you do it, but when it's over, it doesn't solve the problem at all. It just leaves you with ugly scars, that'll remind you of your bad times for the rest of your life. If you already do it, then find something else to do, when you feel the urge to do it again. I usually start drawing or painting, and doing something productive like that is a way better idea than damaging yourself. It also lifts the mood to get your feelings out by painting or drawing it. If you play an instrument you could use that too, or write something. Just do something creative and productive, instead of harming yourself, because you end up regretting it. Some people also deal with it by bullying others, and just don't do that. NEVER bully others!

#6 - Don't demand people to understand you

People have different ways of feeling things and different ways of thinking, so don't expect people to understand your thoughts and feelings 100%. It's not a bad thing, though, because sometimes you just need someone who wants to listen to you, and not someone who understands you. To know that somebody wants to listen is actually a big help.

#7 - Therapy.

If you've been bullied for a long time, don't be afraid or ashamed to seek out therapy. It's NOT degrading, embarrassing or anything of that sort to talk to a psycologist. It doesn't make you insane or weak or anything like that. But if you're showing signs of depression, self harm or maybe have suicidal thought, you should really consider seeking out a therapist. Open up and don't lie or hide anything from them. It's going to get a little worse at first, but I promise that you're going to get better, if you just give it time. Don't listen to the people who've seen a therapist once and then believes that it doesn't work. You have to give it time.

These pieces of advice fits most situations, but if you ever need advice on your particular situation, just talk to someone and don't be afraid to ask for advice. Just remember that there's good or bad advice and you have to learn how to tell them apart.

 - And if you need to share your story with someone, I'd gladly listen to you. Just send me a message, and I'll answer. It's a promise.

[twodementedducks]

Let's give Eridan quadrants!

Hey guys! Now that Eridan doesn't have any quadrants at all, I'm thinking about writing a fanfic about him getting quadrants with EVERYONE! Not at once, of course, but this is going to be very interesting.

Like this if you want this fanfic to happen, and reblog. If I get 50 hearts on this one, I'm going to make it.

Feel free to tell me who you ship him with, and in what quadrant! Only kismesis and matesprit, please.

- Demented Duck