So like the thing about finding nemo, and I only started thinking about this recently cause the movie came out when I was 11 and I wasn't that great at critical thinking then, is like Marlin learns a lesson and all about parenting and shit but if I remember right the lesson was really framed as "you gotta let your kid stand on their own" as like just this obvious inevitable thing that parents gotta do but never really framed it from the kid's perspective as much? Like "do this thing cause this is right" but none of the "don't do this cause of how it makes your kid feel" and it's like sure we can get how nemo feels but Marlin doesn't really seem to get confronted with how he made nemo feel and frankly he made nemo feel like SHIT like I was so happy about that one line nemo had in finding dory because Marlin freaking made him feel like he couldn't do anything and he's telling him that he makes other people feel like they can't do anything like he literally says "he can't swim" he says it to nemo and he says it to everybody else, he hovers, he talks over him, he makes all these decisions about his son's life without even consulting with his son, and the culmination of all that, he literally doesn't trust him, he accuses him of something he didn't even do and he doesn't listen when nemo says otherwise and while yeah nemo swimming out to the boat is understandable to the audience after that I wanted it put in context of everything else that nemo lived through and experienced I wanted him and Marlin to have a conversation about it, an actual heart to heart but that wasn't really quite there and I dunno. Like whatever his intentions Marlin had to learn the REASON for letting his kid stand on his own because he was being emotionally abusive at his worst and nemo calling him out on that finally is so good
