This is a random question but I've been struggling with how to message girls on tinder with the intention of setting up casual sex and I was wondering if you had any advice?
My advice is this.
1. Make it explicitly clear in your profile that hookups are at least on the table (”interested in hookups as well as dating,” “mostly casual,” etc.) and to message the way you normally would
2. Keep it short, and ask if she’d like to get drinks or coffee or insert thing at a public place near either of your apartments. It makes your intentions a bit clearer if you say “There’s a bar near me called X. Would you like to get drinks there this week?”
3. If you get the vibe during the date that she’d be up for more, it’s perfectly appropriate to ask if she wants to come to your place/if she’s feeling it it’s perfectly appropriate
You don’t have to explicitly discuss hooking up beforehand and in fact imo it’s better not to necessarily. That way there is no pressure or expectation for what happens next- neither of you is stuck feeling like you pretty much told the other you’d be down to hook up and are now kind of obligated to go through with it. I think the best route is to keep it clear that it’s an option for you and just take go through with what it’s been stated you’re open to, IF you end up feeling like you want to hook up after meeting. I hope this helps some!
