#educational stuff

[urhighnessbitch]

hi! Tags on one of your posts made me think, and I realised I should probably have a safe signal because i find it hard to speak while i'm in subspace sometimes (thanks for the reminder!!). Problem is, the times I have trouble talking I usually also go a bit limp and have trouble moving my limbs.

Do you have any suggestions for really simple signals? Thanks Eli 💖

Hey hey!! If you tend to go a bit limp you'd probably need something that doesn't require too much movement, so I'd suggest having you hold keys that you can drop (preferably onto a hard surface so they make sounds). Or something else that makes sounds with minimal movement, like bells to ring! I rarely recommend those because if you don't have a super stable hand they might jingle on accident but l think with these circumstances it makes sense??

[urhighnessbitch]

Hi Eli, dumbing down anon, back to provide more detail! I'm on my own at the moment, but once I have a partner I'd love to have them involved too (if they're interested, of course!) so suggestions for both would be great! I'd want it to be just within a session. I *think* the archetype in my head is a toy sort of thing, but I'm not 100% clear on it, sorry! I think my main interest is the shutting of thoughts + being teased for it aspect, I love all the stuff you post!

(Dumbing down anone once again) I was running out of space in my previous ask, but I wanted to say I'm glad tou had a good day, I hope that continues for you :)

Hi hi! First of all, I'm sorry it took me so long to get back to you, l haven't had the most energy and l didn't wanna half-ass advice, especially not after you've been nice enough to answer my questions!

Okay so, I'll start out with things you can do on your own to help you shut off your head because that tends to be harder than it is when you've got a partner to help you out.

The first thing that comes to mind for me is routine. Now, l know that that sounds counter-intuitive because a routine takes thoughts to be maintained, but repetition can really help with automating processes and at some point not needing to think anymore when it comes to that. I'll come to different things that could be involved in a routine like that in a sec! But a side effect of routine can also be to write it down and, if you happen to forget a step, a possibly fun little moment of realising how far gone your brain is. And you can kind of train your brain with routines

Def something to be considered is clothing! It can help you get deeper into a mindset and, if you enjoy a little bit of humiliation, also be a source for that. Lack of clothing also counts into this! But if you were to associate certain clothes with shutting your mind off, they could cause that reaction on their own over time

Something else could be kneeling, or generally holding positions. These can, once again, also be used for a little bit of humiliation if you'd like that! And more hard to hold positions can get your brain from worrying about different parts of your life to worrying about how the fuck you're supposed to stay like that real quick (l can confirm this from trying to do planks bc holy shit)

Toy comes with the connotation of being used for me, so I'll also talk about involving that aspect! When you're on your own, there's obviously no one going to use you, but you could do that part yourself. You could practise giving head, you could practise stretching or having something inside you for longer if you enjoy bottoming, edging, overstimulating yourself (this one is p hard to do), there's plenty of things to do. Masturbation can often be the easiest way to get out of your own head and focus on something entirely different

These last two are mostly about getting you out of your head and into feeling your body more, until you can ultimately relax. And yes, that is very much inspired by meditative frameworks.

Also, a actions that might help with feeling dumber while doing these things is sticking your tongue, letting yourself drool, begging even if no one is there, actively moaning or whimpering, just being vocal in general. Keep in mind that that might not be for you tho, not everyone enjoys these things or has the abilities to do them. I'm also not trying to imply doing them makes someone dumb!! It can just help getting into a more "dumbed down" headspace, possibly because of connotations they come with that aren't so great

Something that can also be fun are audio files! From guided meditations, to hypno (where you should most def be careful and always vet the files as well as the hypnotist, if you want more on that let me know), to instructions how to get off. It keeps your mind occupied and often your body doing things. Not audio based but similar are edging games and challenges, if that's your thing! Often times, the more complicated ones can keep your brain busy easier

Now, with a partner, they can help you out with all of these things, and that's most likely the point when "being made fun of" will actually come into play. When l try to help someone let go of their thoughts, talking them through it and generally talking a lot are my ways to go. I usually think most when l can actually hear my thoughts, and attentively listening to someone else does slow them down some. They can also surprise you with touches (or pain, if you like that), keeping you on your toes about when something will happen next. Having a partner help you relax makes a lot of things easier, but as you've seen, it is still very much possible if you're willing to do a little more preparation beforehand

Something I'd like to mention is that this type of play can be intense and it can take a while to get back into your normal mindset! I wouldn't recommend trying it out if you've still got things to do that day, and generally being careful what you engage with after. I've found it to be especially nice to do before going to sleep because sleep usually "resets" it, but please still be careful. And have an after care routine ready!

[valvatti]

Don't date someone out of pity.

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[valvatti]

Dear religious people (christians), stop trying to fucking convert me. I don’t care what you believe in, but I let you do it in peace, let me not believe in peace.

It makes me so fucking angry when you do not.

[gothcocteaus]

im pretty sure it’s illegal to smoke in public areas, like my university

hahahaha

[valvatti]

I just randomly remembered a thing that made me lose (even more) respect to one of my teachers when I was 9 or 10 years old. After that the thought got a bit more steam and here, have some gender(role/identity) thoughts from little-Aletraidi:

We had art class and I had drawn this beautiful lady with a hat and was really proud of it. When I showed it to our teacher, he told me women don’t have shoulders that wide and I should make them more narrow.

I looked at him like he was crazy, because even as a 9-year-old I saw that the result would be anatomically incorrect (even more than 9-year-olds art usually is). Another problem was, that I had quite wide shoulders. So you’re telling me these shoulders of mine ain’t girls? Fuck you teacher.

I had always felt like a girl even though I had soooo many times heard that I look like a boy, mostly because my hair was relatively short. When I grew older I cut my hair even shorter, started using more and more pants and “boyi-ish” colours - such as dark blue *gasp* - instead of colourful skirts and flower prints. It was mainly because of I honestly preferred them, but at some point I actually doubted if I was a boy. Or if I was supposed to be.

My shoulders were wide, my hands and feet were (still are) quite big, my hair was short, I had a hobby that was not considered girly (my boobs didn’t grow omfg). I remembered reading from a book that the protags (or their friends) parents had wanted her to be a boy. I asked myself if that was the case with me and was it because of that I acted and dressed the way I did. But I mentally slapped myself almost immediately. I had lil’ bro (if my parents wanted a boy they had one) and I had always had the opportunity to choose my clothes and hobbies.

Boy and lesbian has been tried to use as an insult against me, but boy didn’t hurt and at first I didn’t even know what lesbian was so it really didn’t have any effect on me. Later when I found out what lesbian was, I was like “Ok, so what, what if I am?” so it didn’t hurt either. (Thank goodness I had such a strong whatever attitude towards bullies as a teenager... or “I am small but will shout/snap back at you and you will fear me.” -attitude.) 

When I grew older I discovered makeup (I saw one of my friends apply eyeliner and thought it looked amazing) and started using more dresses and high heels. Still preferred jeans and couldn’t escape my wide shoulders and big hands and feet. I’ve had to buy bigger shirt because my biceps and shoulders didn’t fit, even though it otherwise would’ve been perfect. My shoes are usually size 40 and gloves that are “made for women” don’t really fit.

Pretty women are depicted to have round or heart shaped face. My face is a square. I’m built of squares and rectangles, even my nails grow as rectangles and not as pretty round edged as they should (?). I haven’t heard a whisper about looking like a boy in a long time now, even though at this point I have completely embraced the fact that sometimes I do look/feel like a boy(or manly, wtf I’m a grown-up), sometimes I don’t. 

Only recently have I wondered if I’d actually could be labeled as genderfluid. And it’s not only because how my body is built, it’s the mindset I’ve always had but just didn’t realize (that there is a word for it). I do not stress much about labels or finding boxes for myself, but sometimes I do think those things and then these kinds of memories surface. 

Sorry for the long post, hope it helps someone. :’D

[useless-swedenfacts]

a guide to simple swedish

yes = ja

no = nej

maybe = kanske

of course = självklart

me = mig

my = min

i = jag

you = du

it = det/den

who = vem

am = är

are = är

is = är