Being A Trans Boy and Dating Eleven Would Include...
REQUESTED: @strawberryandcigaretteboys Can I get a head cannon for a trans boy reader dating eleven please?
A.N: I hope I did okay!! I am a cis girl but I did do my best and I hope I wrote this properly!! Thank you for trusting me to write this, I hope I did it justice! 💝
When she first me you, she genuinely had no idea you were trans
She met you and she saw that you were a really cute guy
She saw the way you dressed, how you presented yourself and was like, "ok"
She had no reason not to believe you or not take you seriously
El had never heard of such a thing, given she had grown up in isolation, and even after she escaped it wasn't a common thing for the time, not widely known anyway. So when you told her you, she was confused at first.
"Yes, but, I wasn't born a boy"
Once it was explained to her, she got really excited.
She had no idea people could do that!!!
It changed nothing between you guys
You were still the guy she had crush on before she even knew what a crush was
But if she hears anyone, and I mean anyone make fun of you, or misgender you she gets really mad.
She'd stop in her tracks and face who ever did it
Or really, any pronouns you felt were right. Point is, she would not have a problem correcting them
If they wouldn't listen, or they'd make some offhanded remark, she'd do little things like make them trip and fall
It genuinely baffles her that people didn't find it as cool as she does
But most importantly, she'd set her anger aside and shower you with love and affection
Her top priority would be making sure you were okay and happy and feeling safe
Eleven is affectionate AS HELL
Given her past and how she grew up, she is starved for affection
So this means lots of hugs, lots of cuddles, lots of touching - she always had to be touching you and that meant either holding your hand, hanging off your arm like a monkey or just having a hand on your arm or back somehow cause damn it she just loves being near you
BUT if you aren't into that, if that's something that you don't like or are uncomfortable with she TOTALLY understands
She doesn't like it when people she doesn't know really well or trusts pat her or tap her on the shoulder etc cause it reminds her too much of the bad men and it feels too much like she's being grabbed
And whose to say she won't be
Even after all this time she still has some PTSD from several different things and she just doesn't like people she doesn't know well touching her
Especially her tattoo, people always go to look at her tattoo and think they can just touch it
So if you ever say you need space, you don't feel like being touched or you're just someone who doesn't care for that stuff, she will 100% respect your boundaries
You're her boyfriend, of course she want you to be happy!!
Of course, you didn't know about her reasons for not wanting to be touched by other people, cause at that point you had no idea about her or anything she had been through
All you knew was that she was pretty elusive around most, a little quirky - in the cutest way possible - and weird things always seemed to happen to people who harrassed and/or misgendered you until it pretty much just stopped
You didn't find out about all of that until later, after you had joined the party
Meeting the party was quite interesting
When she first introduced you, everyone was acting super weird and kinda nervous and almost scared??
You thought it was because of your identity, and they weren't comfortable with it
But it was weird cause it wasn't nearly as bad the next day
Everyone was way more relaxed and you found out why
El had intimidated them pretty bad before they met you the previous day, and they were all just so nervous about screwing up and getting yelled at - or worse - by El
As far as your identity, they didn't think much of it
Sure they had a few questions but they were polite about it and before you knew it, the topic changed when Lucas and Dustin got sidetracked and ended up fighting about Star Wars for forty five minutes
They all thought you were pretty cool and it wasn't long before you were officially the newest member of the party
They all love you, and they all love how happy you make El and vice versa
Before, you had El looking out for you - which by herself is death wish for anyone who thought different of you - but now if anyone, I mean ANYONE so much as breathes wrong in your direction they have the party to answer to
And Robin too for that matter, oOF SHE'S SO PROTECTIVE AND SCARY
being apart of the LGBTQ+ community she knows how terrifying it can be to be yourself, and how dangerous considering once again how conservative everything is, but oh my lord she sees herself in you and immediately wants needs to make sure you are okay and are embracing who you are and that you are comfortable and safe doing so
Immediately she became the protective older sister
Yeah, just don't mess with her, she's smart she can mess with people
Point is, you've got all these people that love you, care about you, respect you, and look out for you [not just in this headcanon folks 😉 I got your back too]
They've faced rogue government labs, Russian spies, and an interdimensional monster army so some small minded terf is no problem ;)