It's really tough. I think, if you don't feel too self conscious to, you should still try and get dolled up. The way you're feeling is a direct result of being misgendered, of having your identity erased. What's most important is knowing that the way he sees you is not who you are, and if it can be helped, it shouldn't stop you from doing the things you wanna do. But I know the feeling; too often I have resigned to the way other people see me.
If it was just one person maybe but theyre a couple staying in there and its a little overwelming to essentially go to a bar on a double date with a couple that i have no idea of how theyll react to me being me, and are not super optimistic about based on my current experience. like, sure im not wearing makeup right now, sure i’m wearing jeans and tshirt, sure my hair is in a ponytail, yes i have stubble, yes i look like a boy - but literally everyone else in this house is saying her and Kat and you saw my cute pjs last night, and the pictures on the walls in my bedroom of me and my gf, and you saw my painted nails, and you saw my fluffy pink dressing gown, and you know i went to halloween as harley quinn, AND ALSO I CAME OUT TO YOU AND YOU ASKED WHAT TO CALL ME INSTEAD OF (deadname) and yet here we are. I’m just, i know its a learning curve and theyre super lovely people and its very alien to them. I just don’t have the spoons right now, ya know.