Something about Tommy being so willing to take on blame for things he totally didn't do suggests to me that he's probably spent his whole life knowing that his family will believe the worst of him. But also it's such a catholic thing, at least in my family, to internalize the shame and guilt of something you didn't even do. No point arguing just go about doing your penance and move on. Idk I wonder why he does that but I've def seen that happen in the very strict catholic side of my family too
Sorry for the late response, I kept forgetting to respond.
I’m not sure I have any coherent thoughts on the concept of Catholic Guilt in the context of the Shelby family, though I would love to hear other people’s thoughts on the matter.
Moving on to “was Tommy raised to believe the family will always believe the worst of him?” Overall, I think the dynamic the family has in the show where Tommy is always to blame for everything regardless of whether he actually had anything to do with it is largely a post-war thing. I especially think this is true regarding his relationship with Polly, because the impression I got was that pre-war they were basically equal partners in the running the betting shop and the Peaky Blinders. @deadendtracks mentioned in a meta once that it seems like the real issue Polly has with Tommy in s1 is with the fact that he’s no consulting with her the way he used to, and I’d agree with that. After that things just keep snowballing and eventually we get to where we are at the end of s5.
You could perhaps combine your thoughts with the “Tommy was a parentified child” theory and argue that Tommy could have picked some “people will always believe the worst of me” stuff that way, though I’m far from an expert on parentification and therefore probably don’t know what I’m talking about. That said, if you assume Tommy and Arthur’s relationship dynamic (where Arthur leans on Tommy to avoid having to make decisions for himself) pre-dates the war, that could tie into this, because it would mean that Tommy is long used to taking the blame for Arthur’s actions.
Tbh, I’m not quite sure where I’m trying to go with this. Does anyone else have any thoughts?











