Don't give up yet...
Your childhood wasn’t all that great, your parents might have done their best but you were hurt often. And you can see now that their understanding was… misunderstanding.
You’ve read great books and blogs and you’ve been to events because you know what kind of parent you want to be, you’re ready to question what you do on auto-pilot and to make the efforts you wouldn’t expend on any other relationship.
You care about your children’s perspective, about their needs, about their developemental milestones and you are so committed to be a great parent.
But time and again, the impact of a new insight on your actual behavior with your precious ones fades so quickly that you hardly have more than one beautiful positive parenting story to remember for it.
You’re such a great parent! You’re so bent on becoming the great parent you want to give to your kids. Yes, you’re gonna get there!
You can’t remember to act upon your values when you’re under stress, you hear your mum’s voice freaking out instead of your own voice nurturing the relationship.
That sucks, and you hate yourself.
Brain science actually explains why that, no not why you screw up because you’re so great, but why you actually forget everything when your motions are aroused. Which might happen every fives minutes with your kids.
Rational brain is blocked up, you’re not dumb or mad or criminal, you’re just in need of dispensing of it to reach your parenting goal. Bypass the need to remain in control of yourself, so you stay on your tracks of loving brilliant parent, even with your eyes closed on an emotional roller coaster.
Yeah, I’m there too and and I’m building a solution, but in the mean time, please don’t give up, for your kids, yourself and the world at large that is so profoundly shaped by our earliest interactions. Keep rocking!