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[officialrobbycoates]

Vital Information Regarding the New Direction My Life is Taking

I figured it would make sense to post this on tumblr as well as facebook, since there are some people I'm friends with on this site who aren't on facebook. Anyway, I hope you'll take the time to read this, as it details some incredibly important changes happening in my life.

Jess and I are splitting up.

We don't hate each other. This isn't the result of a fight. As always, we are still really, really good friends, and hopefully always will be. But that is part of the whole reason for this. We are better friends than lovers. I'm not about to go into the explicit details of the situation, but a spark has been missing from our love life for a very, very long time. And when we look at where both of us are, and what we want from a life partner, we realize we aren't what the other one needs. And we realize this is for the best. We're far too young to already feel trapped in a marriage. Staying together won't make it better. Getting a house won't make it better. Having kids won't make it better. We'd only feel more and more trapped, and it would be best for us to both explore our lives and who we are before getting locked into something like that. We realize that now, and regret that it took so long to realize it. We're both looking into seeing other people, and both feel happier and more free than we have in a long time. Its a good thing, and I hope everyone else feels that way too.

I look back on the time I was with Jess and I have some regrets, sure, but I really can't regret having been with her. I've made so many friendships because of it, had so many fun experiences and made memories that will last a lifetime. I will cherish those forever. Our wedding was a wonderful event, and I am so grateful to everyone who was able to share that day with us, and also those who were unable to. I also want to thank those who have made sacrifices for us along the way. I don't think there is any way I can ever repay all of you for your kindness, but I don't want you to feel that this is a slap in the face or anything like that. If you have supported me and Jess in the past, I hope that you will continue to support us in our lives as they move in separate directions. I love all of you, and will never forget what you all have done for us.

So, what does this mean for me? Well, in some ways, things are going to seem very similar. Like I said, Jess and I are still the best of friends, so don't be surprised if you still see us hanging out at conventions together all the time. But to be honest, a lot of things are going to change. Jess and I will no longer be living together, and I'll be moving from Buffalo back to the east coast (I'm aiming to leave Monday the 7th, after I finish my last two weeks at work). I'll probably be in CT to start off so that I can reconnect with my family, but chances are that in the end, I'm going to ultimately relocate to NH. I would love a chance to reconnect with all of my friends and family who live out this way, as I figure out what my next move will be. It's a bit scary. For the first time in five years, I honestly can't say I know where life is going to take me. But I intend to take this opportunity, and make the most of it. I'm going to live life to the fullest, and make nothing but good memories.

One last thing. I know this whole situation is going to come to a shock to a lot of you. I think to a lot of people, our relationship was thought to be an example of true love. I don't want anyone to be disheartened by this. I still believe in love over anything else. We are doing this because of love, and I am not going to be closing my heart off. Instead, I want to be able to rediscover love, one stronger and more complex than the one I've known for the past 5 years. And I intend to find it. Never give up on love. It is the greatest thing there is.

Thank you, everyone. Feel free to message me about any of this.

[autisticsouda]

WHAT THE HELL WHY ARE MY FRIENDS SO CUTE FUCK YOU HOW DARE YOU

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someone looks familiar....

[jet-patrick-blues]

Tagged

Rules Always post the rules Answer the question from the person who tagged you and write 10/11 new ones Tag 11 people and link them to the post Actually tell them you tagged them

Questions from haterswillhateme

What color are the walls of your bedroom? white

What was your first fandom? uhhmm veggietales? winnie the pooh?

Favorite book you’ve read in the past few years? maybe the fionna and cake comic... or some collection of fairy tales

Do you believe in ghosts? i guess they could exist

If you had the time, money, and motivation to cosplay, who would you cosplay first? If you’ve already cosplayed, who are you doing next?  my next cosplay will hopefully be the 11th doctors sonic screwdriver

Do you want to build a snowman? i can't right now, there is noo snow where i am :p

Favorite cartoon character from your childhood? probably winnie the pooh

Do you have any siblings? 3 older sisters

Will you cry if you go see The Fault in Our Stars?  probably i cry at almost every movie

What’s the last thing you ate? some gummy bears

my questions

1. whats your favorite color for a car?

2.  who is your favorite non-princess disney female?

3. favorite angel (doesn't have to be from spn)?

4. what if people had velcro for skin?

5. favorite non-carbonated beverage?

6. if you could choose one show to get a genderbent special what show would you pick?

7. do you still own a vhs?

8. if you had to completely forget one year of your life what age would you pick?

9. do you prefer skirts or shorts(or skorts)?

10. favorite month of the year and why?

i'm tagging

windupwings, icanseesometreesfromhere, krabbkat, tamtamlov, eternalzarya, iwatobi-titan-club

[officialrobbycoates]

super curious about this so how did you first meet your wife?

Ah, yay for curious anon who asks for me to relate stories that I quite enjoy telling! Just bear in mind, I won’t exactly be brief (though I will still give a somewhat condensed version. If anyone wants to hear the longer version, let me know!)

*”How I Met Your Mother” theme plays* Okay, so we must now rewind to fall of 2009. I started my second semester at Southern Connecticut State University (Technically my sophomore year; I had transferred from another school). At the first meeting of the anime club, I befriended a girl who was just starting school there, named Erika (sidenote: there was something of a falling out between us later on, and while its all in the past, I really don’t have any contact with her any longer). Anyway, as the semester wore on and I made mention of how I had never had a girlfriend, Erika made the decision that she was going to find me a girlfriend.

As it just so happened, Erika also happened to have another friend she owed a similar favor to. See, Erika had once before tried to play matchmaker for her friend Jess (who she knew through conventions). That attempt… did not end well to say the least. That in and of itself is another (incredibly hilarious) story, one I will probably write about some other time. Sadly, this is not the time for the “FapLeon” story.

At any rate, Erika felt she owed it to Jess to try setting her up with someone again, to make up for her first abysmal failure. Now, we have to wonder if this was due to some incredible foresight on Erika’s part (rather unlikely) or just blind luck (much more likely), but however the fates managed to align in this way, Erika decided to set me and Jess up together.

My first glimpse of Jess was from her facebook profile picture. Well… sort of. Funnily enough, she and I (and Erika, actually) were at Connecticon 2009, which had happened before all of this. At the con, a friend from college was looking for me. I was told she was dressed as Ada Wong. While looking for her, I kept seeing another Ada cosplayer (a far superior one, too) and, as I soon discovered from the facebook pictures Erika showed me, that other Ada was Jess. From those pictures, I was definitely intrigued. Her beauty was undeniable, and if she was willing to meet me, I was certainly willing to meet her.

Erika initially planned for us to meet for a walk around New Haven. As luck would have it, despite the fact that Jess is originally from Buffalo, she was going to school only 15 minutes away from my college. At the time I was also in a production of Othello (where I played Roderigo), so after the initial plans to meet fell through, Erika decided to have Jess come to see a performance of the play, and then have us meet afterwards.

I don’t normally get stage fright, since I first starting acting when I was 6, so this was probably the most nervous I had ever been going into a show. The way our production played out, there were several parts where the acting trails out into the audience, so I had told Erika to sit in a section close to where a lot of that action takes place. The very beginning of the play was such an example, where a conversation between Iago and Roderigo weaves its way through the audience. Well, the show started, and I glanced over to that section of the audience… only to find it empty. My heart was racing as I tried my best not to let doubt and confusion cause me to stumble over my lines. All the same, I couldn’t help wonder what must have happened. Later, once the action was back on stage, I happened to glance out and see the seats occupied by Erika and Jess. Given the darkness the audience was cast it, I couldn’t really get a good look at Jess, but I could tell it was her from her picture.

So the play went on, nearly everyone dies (myself included), and we took our bows. I changed out of my costume in record time, and back into regular clothes, then raced to the lobby. I found Erika with Jess and few of my friends, who were introducing themselves. I still remember the first time I saw her. What transfixed me from the start (as it still does to this day) were her eyes. A striking shade of green, not the dull grey-green you normally see. She exuded an aloof, confidant air, though she was still rather quiet and reserved. I knew she was pretty from her pictures, but I had no idea she would be so absolutely beautiful in person. It was around this point I was wondering just how far out of my league this girl was.

So, we concisely introduced ourselves, and shook hands. After that, Erika loudly declared she’s going to give us some alone time, and her and my friends scattered. Jess and I were left there to awkwardly stare at each other, not sure what exactly to say to each other, until we mutually agreed that it was shitty of Erika to leave us alone when we don’t even know each other, and dragged her back over to us.

From there, we all went to the dining hall. While Erika sapped some of the awkwardness between me and Jess by being incredibly awkward herself, Jess and I began to converse and get to know each other. As I recall, one of our first conversations was about sarcasm (“No, I’m never sarcastic.” “Yeah, sarcasm is something I definitely don’t use at all.”) After that, we went back to Erika’s dorm to continue hanging out and conversing (during which we confused the hell out of our friend in the next dorm over, who only knew Jess from conventions and had no idea she lived so close). As I got to know more about her, I came to see how smart and funny and just overall adorable she is. I was soon realizing that her inner beauty was just as magnificent of not more than her outer beauty, and I was beginning to think that maybe my chances with someone so perfect were absolutely zero. True, we began to warm up to each other, but I still had no idea if she had any interest in me as I definitely did for her. At the very least, I knew I wanted to see her again. We walked Jess back to her car, and departed with a hug. Soon after, I frantically texted Erika, wanting to know if Jess liked me, because I liked her. Erika informed me that yes, she did like me.

We met a few more times after that, and a week later we started dating. About a year and half after that, we got engaged, and just over two years after that, we were married. Since this was a story about how we met (and since it has already gone on longer than I had expected), I’ll leave it at that for now. If anyone would like to hear the story of our first date, my proposal, and any other miscellaneous details, I would be more than happy to chronicle those events as well.

(Also, I have to wonder who sent me this message. I assume its a follower of mine, but since I know most of my followers, it makes me very curious. Anyway, I’m a very open person, so especially when it comes to telling wonderful stories, there is certainly no need to conceal your identity. ^_^)

[noirandchocolate]

This is the face of a grown-ass 30-year-old woman who just got her responsible adult mitts on Pokémon X.

Awesome shirt by my friend Robby's (Sephizim) wife, Jess (EternalZarya, who you should check out for really rad cosplay).  I won it in a giveaway and it's so nice, the design is adorable and I love it. 

[autisticsouda]

Jess tagged me to answer questions ahhhh

Questions for you to answer:

1. How would you like the world to end?

Quickly and painlessly.

2. What TV show/video game character are you most like and why?

This is such a difficult question to answer because I see bits and pieces of myself in a lot of different characters. I'll just make a list:

Green Oak/Blue Orchid

Red (not as much as Green, surprisingly)

2012 Once-ler hhhh

Roy Mustang

Zuko

9

Mello

Dave Strider

Basically, I'm super curious, let my inferiority and past make me into a huge fucking douche who hurts other for validation, make rlly stupid mistakes, have good intentions, have a lot of regrets, like blowing things up, have a bit of a hero complex, and am a total loser yet somehow also really fucking cool and mean well and want to help people and be a better person even if I've been a massive cunt. I may be a cunt, but that means I have depth and warmth, right?!

3. What is your favorite ‘clean’ joke?

My entire life.

4. If you were stranded on a deserted island and could only have unlimited supply of one food, what would it be?

McDonalds

5. If you could have any animal in the world, including extinct, as a pet, what would it be?

I'd really love a Bengal cat, honestly. :'D Either that or a Green Tree Python. I love exotics, but they need the right temperament and I need to be able to take good care of them!

6. What do you hate most in the world?

Abuse culture :'D

7. If you could create your own video game version of anything, what would it be?

This post details my pipe dreams of making a Sheik game set during Ocarina of Time. /wistful sigh It was mostly the brainchild of my ex, so it's in her hands now, I guess. I hope someday she still goes through with it. But if I could, by some magic powers, oh man, this thing would be on the Wii U in seconds.

8. What are you most excited about in the next year?

I wrote about serious things like my sister having a baby and college and shit, but then I deleted it because let's be 100% honest: It's Pokemon X and Y versions, followed by Kingdom Hearts 1.5, Wind Waker HD, SSB 4, and A Link Between Worlds. 

9. What is your dream vacation destination?

Pokemon Center Tokyo? |D;; I don't want a vacation!! I just want to see my friends/go somewhere where I can buy mass manufactured injection-molded collectible plastic crap!!

10. If you could walk up to any famous person and slap them without retribution, who would it be and why?

I wanna choose one who actively supports rape/abuse culture and has raped/abused a woman and gotten away with it, but there are entirely too many to choose from. Probably Mitt Romney, because not only is he a raging misogynist, but he has a lot of power. Unlike other people of his affiliation, he does not have the excuse of being too stupid to know better, either. He's also a RICH misogynist with power, and fuck rich people, amiright? 

I'm not tagging ppl on this one 'cause Robby also tagged me oh god 

[officialrobbycoates]

Tagged by akikohime

Rule 1:Post the rules.

Rule 2:Answer the questions the tagger asked you, then make 10 new ones.

Rule 3:Tag 10 people and link them to your post.

Rule 4:Let them know you’ve tagged them.

Questions I was asked:

1. What would be the ultimate concert for you to attend?

The Beatles reunion concert that's going to happen in the afterlife one the other two die? I dunno, I haven't been to very many concerts at all, so I'd really appreciate seeing any performer I really like in concert. Maybe something where Nobuo Uematsu was actually a part of it?

2. What book could you never live without and why?

It is really hard to pick just one. You know what? I'm gonna go to what seems like a very random choice, one from my childhood. "Wayside School Gets a Little Stranger." (Well, that whole series in general, but that book in particular.) I can't tell you how many times I've read that book. The writing style has influenced so much of how I write and tell stories that not having it as part of my life is something I can't even imagine. I should really go read it again, after how long its been...

3. If you could cosplay anyone with no regard for money or anything else that might stop you, who would you cosplay?

To be perfectly honest? Kefka from Final Fantasy VI. That would be the most difficult outfit to make, but I would SO play it up the entire time I was wearing it. Someday, maybe...

4. This is how the horror movie starts: You are on the T (the subway for my non-Bostonians). Suddenly it screeches to a halt. Shit gets real. Zombies, aliens, giant dinosaurs, whatever the fuck start ruining everything. Are you the badass hero who leads survivors to glory, the freakish loner in a bunker, or someone who randomly gets shot or stepped on or whatever?

I like to think I would last longer than your average victim. I think it largely depends on whether or not I was with Jess. If I wasn't, I would be the guy that risks everything to find her. If I was, then we would start work on holing ourselves up and outlasting the whole thing. Which is what we'd do after I found her in the other scenario. You know, unless I died before that.

5. To what art form do you wish to devote your heart and soul? This includes photography, sewing, drawing, writing, anything that requires creativity and skill.

Writing, of course. Even though I'd love to be the best visual artist, piano-player, or any-other-myriad-of-instruments-player, I would be lying if I said my truest passion was anything other than writing.

6. What plant do you want to be?

Cacti are pretty cool. All spiky and shit.

7. If you could be from another country, what country would that be?

The otaku in me is inclined to say Japan, but I'd probably even more of a social outcast there than I am here. So, I'll go with Sweden. I do have some Swedish heritage, too.

8. Fill in the blanks: “I’ve _____ed _____ in somebody’s _____, and if found, then ____ could get _______ed.”

"I've initiated Third Impact in somebody's EVA Unit, and if found, then everyone could get tanged."

9. What obscure reference do you often make and what  is it from? 

I really want to name something specific, but really, what I do the most is intentionally make references to things that the people I'm currently with wouldn't get. Some of it is obscure, some of it just from things they haven't seen.

10. Here’s something for your self-esteem! Obviously you’re awesome because I have tagged you. Why do you think you’re awesome? Or, if you somehow don’t understand that you’re awesome, why do you think that I think you’re awesome? Also, accept that you’re the best.

I'm awesome because I fight for my friends. I dunno, in general I just try to be the best person I can be. I guess that's worth something, right? I try my best not to take anyone's shit either, and that's pretty cool, too.

Questions for you to answer:

1. What is the one thing you've never done before that you want to try doing the most right now?

2. You're all perfect just the way you are, but all the same, what is one thing you would change about yourself if you could?

3. Now that I've made you self-conscious, what about yourself would you absolutely never change?

4. Imagine you get to do one completely and utterly selfish act without any repercussions or consequences. What would that act be?

5. Same question as above, but this time, you aren't restricted by the normal laws of the universe.

6. This is not a question about your pet peeves. Instead, what common pet peeve that other people display really gets on your nerves?

7. I have an undeniable weakness for incredibly girly J-pop and J-rock. Now that that's out of the way, what's your guilty pleasure?

8. The inevitable time-travelling question: If you could go back and change any one event, either for the good of mankind, or for purely selfish reasons, what would you do, and how would you do it?

9. Congratulations, because of your actions in that last question, you've created a time paradox, and the universe is slowly unraveling. Before the entire space-time continuum get destroyed, now that you've changed that event, how do you make it happen again with the same results, thus restoring the timeline to normal and saving reality?

10. Mankind has often wondered what the meaning of life. But life is so short that the only meaning we can truly find is what we do with our short time on this earth. With that in mind, what do you think is the best way for a person to spend their life?