#ex-con headcanons

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{ DANCING 🪩 } ----- What kind of activities does your muse like to do with their partner? Are they good at these things?

{ 🍵 You know you want: Ex-Con!Ben :// from this meme / not accepting }

Not dancing. Since you asked.  He’s never been all that interested in learning a foreign language.  “I wouldn’t mind teaching you how to make things,” he smiles. It's an impression he made of himself.    What will you make together? Things like vases, wood-burned frames, candle-holders (you could use more of those), and chairs, among other things. Practical things. Things that can’t be trained or disputed once they leave the ministrations of your own two hands.  And he sighs. Deeply, without explication.  Silence, too. Two people can sit in silence.

@southern-belle-outcasts

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Name: Ben.

Nickname(s): Occasionally, a friend, a foe, or a love interest will call him Benji or Benny. Obviously, all Bens are united in their hatred of this.

Relationship Status: Verse dependent. Modern!Ben's articulated the words 'I love you' to but one other.

Gender: Cis male.

Romantic Orientation: Exploring or unsure.

Preferred Pet Names: Music!Ben will call you 'baby' if he hates you.

Opinion on True Love: All Bens believe true love exists... but maybe not for hims.

Opinion on Love at First Sight: Music!Ben thinks he's fallen in love at first sight many, many times. Modern!Ben is somehow more suspicious. Ex!Con Ben has never looked another person in the eye (Jk, he's not a believer) and Smuggler!Ben...

How ‘Romantic’ Are They?: He's unpracticed, not unromantic.

Edited for E.: Music!Ben can charm the pants off anyone but I still don’t think that makes him a ‘romantic.’

Ideal Physical Traits: This one is tricky because mun struggles to understand what makes one physical trait more desirable than another :') but we shall try.

Based on copious evidence, mun believes Bens generally prefer longer hair for [women/femmes], short to medium curls for [men/mascs], notable thighs (strong, long, or thick), or other limbs and extremities (Smuggler!Ben). Striking eyes, chest hair for [men/mascs], a nice smile, a brazen or unique laugh (for Music!Ben especially, laughter is physical). Scars and other proof of life.

Because he's 6'4", he prefers his partners tall, but because he's 6'4", he invariably accepts smol.

Ideal Personality Traits: If he likes you, be yourself. All of yourself, preferably, because he's greedy.

All Bens find humility attractive in a person. Music!Ben covets meanness and whatever he interprets as power today. Let's not think about tomorrow.

Unattractive Physical Traits: We're struggling again, and that's okay.

Redubbing this part 'least desired observable characteristics.'

Shaved or bleached brows, dreads on heads where they don't belong, notable cosmetic alterations (Music!Ben specific), literal body language (Smuggler!Ben specific), worm physique (Smuggler!Ben specific), problem skin.

Unfortunately, Music!Ben can veer on fat-phobic (he's certainly weight-conscious himself) and Modern!Ben thinks women should shave their legs for him or something ridiculous like that. Not that he'd ever say it. (Dirty fingernails are fine by him, though. The more, the merrier.)

Unattractive Personality Traits: ☝️ Do not lie to him.

Ideal Date: bullets? Bullets.

Modern!Ben: movie/museum and dinner, in that order, because post-movie/museum-going conversations reveal much about a person.

Music!Ben: goes from 1 to 111. He's not dating you; he met you someplace awful and will never leave you alone again. Hint: He's never the dumper, always the dumped.

Ex-Con!Ben: Somewhere quiet, outdoors, away from the public eye. Said date must make it clear to Ben that he's on a date, or else he'll be utterly lost.

Smuggler!Ben: kidnapped Poe Dameron once—and it was awesome.

Do They Have a Type?: Bens are often attracted to sensitive, mysterious persons... or people who 'yell' at hims (Music!Ben, Smuggler!Ben).

Average Relationship Length: Six inches. One to two years.

Preferred Non-Sexual Intimacy: Smush-

Commitment Level: Fluctuates. Bens are serious about those they care for, but.

Ah, the various buts.

Opinion of Public Affection:

Modern!Ben: Outlook good/You may rely on it.

Music!Ben: Don't count on it/My sources say no.

Ex-Con!Ben: ???/Ask again later.

Smuggler!Ben: *loudly in the cantina* —we're NOT married?!

Past Relationships?:

Modern!Ben: Has entered two serious relationships. The first was young and short-lived. The second ended in California. She cheated on him, and he has never recovered.

Music!Ben: Sadly. And before then, a fling with Rey, which he fucked up beautifully. And before, after, and somewhere in between, a thing with Armitage (verse dependent). It wasn't a romance, but it was certainly something.

Ex-Con!Ben: Nope.

Smuggler!Ben: Verse dependent but primarily occupied with and committed to Not Dying Between Now and Centaxday.

tagged by:// @godresembled <3 thank you, fren, for the much-needed distraction during my moving frenzy.

tagging:// anymun who hasn't already done this meme and wants to share~

singling out, @valkxrie, @debelltio, @itmeanspeace, @themckaytriarchy, @ofthestcrs (muse of choice), @certifiably-i (muse of choice), @ifyoucatchacriminal (muse of choice). @etoilebleu (muse of choice eris).

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𝕊𝔼𝕏, 𝔾𝔼ℕ𝔻𝔼ℝ, & 𝕃𝕆𝕍𝔼 ℍ𝔼𝔸𝔻ℂ𝔸ℕ𝕆ℕ𝕊

Note from original creator of meme, and key this is for lgbtqia+ muses if your muse is cishet this isn’t the dash game for you it was created by a queer mun for queer muses. bold: always, italic: situational, strikethrough: never.

♡ GENDER IDENTITY: cisgender (man) / intersex / gender-nonconforming / transmasc / transfemme / transman / transwoman / nonbinary / gender-fluid / genderqueer / agender / demi-girl / demi-boy / bigender / pangender / omnigender / two-spirit

♡ SEXUALITY: queer / gay / lesbian / bisexual / pansexual / omnisexual / asexual / androsexual / demisexual / fluid / non-labelled / graysexual / gynesexual / homosexual / monosexual / polysexual

Each version of this muse is still figuring things out. Some try harder than others. Observe—

*summons a list with a snap like fucking mary poppins ✨*

Modern!Ben: horrified by his attraction to men/does not explore/interrogate this sense of attraction/horror.

Music!Ben: more certain in his sexuality but weirdly hard on cis women due to some unconscious, repressed attachment to mom.

Ex-Con!Ben: could be demi. sadly, doesn't identify with any label he hasn't already been given on legal papers.

Smuggler!Ben: not human/near-human discriminate~

Murder!Kylo: never thinks about it.

Ren: are you powerful? Do you have the ability to make him suffer the ending of one thousand galaxies? Can you pull his crushed soul through... oh, that's too bad. *swipes left*

♡ DATING PREFERENCES: monogamous / ethically nonmonogamous / monogamish / relationship anarchy / open relationships / polyamorous / doesn’t date / dates casually

Ren is Ren.

Ex-Con!Ben and Modern!Ben are strictly monogamous.

Music!Ben could be closeted poly, but he doesn't want to put the honest emotional effort into maintaining multiple authentic relationships, doesn't love one partner to know about another, doesn't like the idea of hierarchy, amatonormativity, etc. So, la-di-da.

♡ ATTACHMENT STYLE: secure / anxious-preoccupied / dismissive-avoidant / fearful-avoidant

♡ SEXUAL INCLINATIONS: sex favourable / sex adverse (particularly Ren/Ex-Con!Ben) / sex indifferent / hypersexual / sex-repulsed / bottom / top / versatile / vers bottom / vers top / service top / power bottom / stone top / pillow princess / submissive / dominant / switch / brat / baby girl/boy / soft dom / pleasure dom / caregiver

Ren: soft violence, the erotica of pulling molecules apart- you're not dead now; you're different. <333

♡ LOVE LANGUAGES: words of affirmation / quality time / acts of service / receiving gifts / physical touch / activity / appreciation / emotional / financial / intellectual / practical

Murder!Kylo: are you going to help me complete my Project or not? :/

♡ PHYSICAL ACTS OF INTIMACY: holding hands / kissing / cuddling / massages / bathing together / washing partner’s hair / skin on skin contact / forehead kisses / playing under the table (e.g. hand on thigh, footsy etc) / playing with partner’s hair / playful tickling / seeking them out in bed to hold / eye contact / reading to your partner / being read to / napping together / couch cuddles while doing separate activities (head in lap etc)

No shower/fresher sex with short people.

♡ KINKS & TURN ONS: dirty talk / quiet in bed / loud in bed / having hands pinned / pinning partners hands / having hair pulled / pulling partners hair / being watched / watching their partner / voyeurism / receiving oral sex / giving oral sex / receiving penetration / giving penetration / praise kink (he could not handle this) / biting / marking up your partner / being marked up / impact play / edge play / teasing / being teased / using toys on partner / having toys used on them / choking / being choked / being restrained (good luck) / restraining their partner / shibari / breeding kink / worshiping their partner / being worshiped / humiliating / being humiliated / degrading / being degraded /pegging / being pegged / frotting / face sitting / dom/sub dynamics / DDLG dynamics / aftercare / anal / bdsm / light bondage / outdoor sex / sensory deprivation / roleplay / rough sex / threesomes / wax play / sensory play (eg. pinwheels etc) / knife play / blood play / caging / cbt / sounding / collars / exhibitionism / rimming / fisting / pet play / dressing up for partner / partner dressing up for them / daddy kink / mommy kink / master/slave dynamics

Ren: inducting [partner] into the Knights of Ren. big turn on.

*Ex-Con!Ben's sexual experience is quite limited. Also, do not degrade him. He's not comfortable with blood play either.

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tagged by:// last sinday leveling a revolver at my brain

tagging:// *sets revolver on table* take it or leave it

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muse/mun meme based on this, lifted from @ifyoucatchacriminal who got it from @brooklynislandgirl who got it from @southern-belle-outcasts

pass it on.

modern!ben

eggs: scrambled steak: medium milk: oat alcohol: whiskey; sours warm drink: a variety of craft coffees

music!ben

eggs: sunny-side up steak: rare milk: whole alcohol: mezcal* warm drink: 'coffee' (hint: it's not coffee)

ex-con!ben

eggs: -__- (boiled) steak: >:/ (he doesn't eat meat) milk: -___-' there's one kind (whole) alcohol: whiskey warm drink: -____-; (he prefers cold drinks)

k™️

eggs: over easy or super soft scrambled steak: rare or tartare milk: Absolutely Not alcohol: tequila warm drink: black coffee, no sweetener/sugar

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{Ex-Con!Ben at a glance}

Note on locale:

In this verse, Ben Prestor Solo is born and raised in the town of North Wetyin, Yavin, a fictional American county in Washington State (near Florence, Snohomish County, Washington, and neighboring areas). 

Around the time Ben joined the cult, the First Order's chapters spanned the fictional prefectures of Yavin, Washington, {Takodana}, Oregon, and Canto Bight, California. 

Timeline:  

Age 16

 -Left home for the "farm collective" with First Order missionary Phasma. 

Ages 16-18

-Indoctrinated by various active members and assimilated into the cult. 

-Became one of cult leader Snoke's favorites. 

Age 18-19

 -Aided Snoke's most trusted confederates in carrying out brutal physical punishments, a few of which Ben himself suffered. 

Age 19

 -Shot his father by coercion.

-Murdered the girl known as 'Rey,' who confronted the First Order at their Yavin property and threatened to go to the authorities with what she knew—unprovoked. 

-Arrested upon the dissolution of the First Order Yavin chapter. ('Rey' is traced by Federal Republic authorities two weeks after her disappearance. People cared.) 

Ages 19-29

-Dontamo Prison. 

Age 29

-Granted parole for 'outstanding' behavior. 

Age 30

-Early release.

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*would be remiss if I didn’t embarrass give a shoutout to @debelltio for getting me to synthesize my very basic thoughts.

[kylo-wrecked]

19. how many serious relationships has your muse been in? are they experienced or inexperienced when it comes to dating? SPILL THE TEA ON ALL THE GUYS

{ 🍵 You know you want: ALL THE GUYS }

*all muses are multiship. mentioning a few of youses muses cos i feel it's important.

🫗 music!ben 

He is experienced, and he enjoys new experiences, sensual/sexual encounters included. However, as you can imagine, Music!Ben bores easily, and as a jumper, tends to keep a few sex partners at once. Music!Ben really doesn’t like to be alone. (* Unlike the other Bens, he is most comfortable surrounded by people, and things, and noise. The ‘biz’ is his war zone. *) Thankfully, he’s responsible about the physical aspects of sexual health, but he doesn’t like his partners knowing about each other and won’t tell one partner whether or not or who else he’s seeing unless directly asked. 

That’s the thing, too. A lot of his dates wind up being sex. If not sex dates, drink dates. Maybe dinner dates, maybe something completely random. Oddly, he won’t usually take his dates to shows. Going to shows is a serious enterprise and he doesn’t need someone hanging on his arm when he’s stalking Beck. (Who he hates.) 

Serious relationships? Three, and at least two were genuine and reciprocal. One with a Scandinavian avant-garde artist named Susanoo, one with indie folk singer Rey, and one with none of your fucking business. 

He’s deeply committed, maybe too much so. He can spin into obsession, he can be possessive. He never cheats. 

☕️ modern!ben 

Never cheats. Having his heart shattered in California was a learning experience. He left an attempt at a life with another human being in San Fransisco, or at least within a few dozen miles of San Fransisco. That makes one serious relationship, ended. 

Apart from that, there was an attempt. He fancied one of his childhood friends, Marciela Hodgson, who rejected him with a little laugh. Modern!Ben has never recovered from this. He should probably stop being friends with Marci. 

In other threads, in other futures, he’s involved with his best friend Beth in what mun and muse believe to be quite a serious relationship. In another world, with Brunnhilde, who even follows him across oceans. In another, he’s reconnected with the childhood crush, Shiloh, and in yet another, he’s just slept with his friend Rashad, and he’s confronting his interest in exploring sexual intimacy with men. 

Many of his partners/subjects of affection are friends first, which must mean he’s good at finding fun and interesting things to do around cities, or, or that he’s somewhat tolerable, and they’re awfully patient.

🍺 ex-con!ben 

Nope. 

All right, well. He’s committed to someone named Beth. That’s one world, one dream. Then he. Well, he might have taken a shining to a guy named Tony, but that’s not… 

He doesn’t know a lot of people.

So. So, no. 

🧊 smuggler!ben

Can’t answer his comm right now. He’s left a note. 

It’s practically illegible. It may say,

“Trapped in sham marriage with the Inujan Queen send help.” 

Or it may say, 

(He doesn't know any Tynnans)

“No time to explain!” 

🍷 ren

Lifelong sacrament to the Ren doesn’t typically include dating.

@birkenzeisig

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{ one could argue this of people at large, but Ben is a study in cis man. }

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the Bens's sleep styles 💅 - e.

the Senator's Son

Three things, very simple:

Blanket thief.

Use you as body pillow unless you get him body pillow. (You may want to invest in one, depending on your size).

Facedown smush on any soft surface. Goodbye, oxygen. Only sleep now.

the Hot Mess Frontman

Turn him over. Turn him over now! Don't let him fall asleep on his back or sitting up with his skull and neck in retrograde unless you want to be the one who calls the bus in the AM. You don't even have to touch him, you can use a broom handle. Once turned, you can simply leave him there.

He can and will fall asleep anywhere. In a small tour bus bumping along a steep cliffside roadway from Bursa to Istanbul, where everyone is vomiting in bags? He's sleeping. Hair and makeup chair? He's sleeping. On a slab of artful concrete in a city park somewhere, during a photoshoot? He's not posing, he's asleep. Basically, if he stops for 'one second,' he will fall asleep.

Cars are among one of his most favorite places to sleep. Backseat sleeper.

He’s also an active sleeper. He doesn't toss and turn; he's not a somnambulist, but his eyes always seem to be half-open, and if you infiltrate his field of vision, he might say, "Hey!" in a horrifyingly friendly way. Like a parrot. Only, he's actually asleep.

(That's how my brother sleeps lmao^. Ever since we were kids. Bro your eyes are dry cos you sleep with them OPEN. I love him but he’s a pod person.)

the Ex-Con

Probably don't touch him, if you know he doesn't trust you (you'll know), and if you can help it. He's a light sleeper, ready to throw hands at a moment's notice. He sleeps in a variety of defensive postures—stomach sleeping mostly, to protect his front ribs, stomach, chest, lungs, and throat, and so on. Due to prior…incidents.

Corrections officers ‘jokingly’ called him “Chief Faces Walls,” as he would often, and often still will, press his entire front body into a wall (with arms braced to his chest) if his bedding is close enough.

He can’t sleep with the lights on after ten years of merciless fluorescents; whether he was in the hole or under a stairwell due to overcrowding, it was lights on 24/7 at Dontamo.

If he doesn't use thick, blackout curtains, he'll bolt in shutters. (Shutters are a generous term. They’re not decorative. They’re for “if the house looks condemned they’ll go away.” )

the Dice Killer

Don't fall asleep first. He’ll want to examine your eyes.