#ex-proship

[sagegreenyaps]

Hot take, but I believe that the ex-proshippers who say that being proship gave them trauma are just as valid as the proshippers who say that becoming proship helped them accept that they're objectum.

[mikurulucky]

has tumblr always been crawling with proshippers and proship views like this? has it decreased recently after the mass exodus? or did it get worse?

Since 2013 before I even saw anyone criticize that shit on a regular basis, hell I think people who criticized ships of that nature (adult/minor, incest, abusive, etc etc) they were called sjws back then. 2014 was when I saw the criticism and got confused because those kind of ships were so normalized to me, and then I saw death threats get sent to proshippers which only pushed me further into that sphere. Took me some years to actually hear out the other side and get out of the proship side of tumblr for good.

As far as whether it got worse or not, I think it's mostly the same as it always was for the most part, but it did get bad on twitter prior to twitter going to shit.

Also still seeing the occasional antishipper wishing death on proshippers which makes me think "Bro... that ain't gonna help, stop that." Like, it's better to educate others about this stuff than to go the aggressive route like that, and sadly a lot of the aggressive threat hurling varieties tend to be quite young.

Also took me until a couple years ago to witness a proshipper sending death threats to an anti, that's when I realized that the aggressive harassing types are on both sides of the whole thing and that basically just prolongs the proship issue and it ruins others' mental health. Like, if you post death wishes towards proshippers, a young or even underage person groomed into the proship sphere is gonna look at that and that'll traumatize them, or worse. It harms more than it helps, same goes with proshippers sending that shit to antishippers, how do y'all think underage antishippers feel about that? That shit's gotta stop on both sides if we want this whole thing to improve.

Sorry for the ramble, but long story short:

[mikurulucky]

Hey I know nothing about you I just found you in the results of google for searching up ex proshippers, I just wanted to let you know that I am in the same boat. I was groomed into the proship community when I was 12 and I didn't realize how much it fucked up my life until I was around 20 years old. I wish there was more posts about ex-proshippers like, it would be nice to know that I am not alone. Anyway hope your doing well, much love to you.

Thankfully, people have been supportive. I'm sorry you were dragged into the proship crowd that young. I barely talked to people online but that sure as hell didn't stop the internet from influencing me, like when the Kodomo no Jikan ED credits became a meme in the late 2000s when I was in high school, and some shit I found on deviantart over the years.

Just sharing both asks because I hear you. ^_^