the thing with ian is that i don't think she's ever confirmed what gender label she uses? i agree that people shouldn't call her a woman/female because all we know is that she uses any pronouns but.. it's possible to be nonbinary and a woman and that shouldn't be completely ignored. idk why i'm sending this ask cause i agree with you lol i hope you don't mind me just sharing my thoughts
as a nonbinary person and someone who has talked to ian about their gender (i was the one who asked about their pronouns and then they dm'ed me their gender on twitter) i know we shouldnt be calling them a woman without them saying its ok. most nonbinary people do NOT like being called women or men bc we dont fit on the spectrum (thus the whole “nonbinary” thing) and its just. leaning on transphobic. unless ian says that you can refer to them as a woman, dont. even if they refer to themselves as a woman, it doesnt mean people have the right. certain people get certain privileges (ie, my family can use she/her pronouns with me but everyone else has to use they/them).just. gender is a tricky thing and this need to be “supportive” is rubbing me the wrong way. stop calling ian a woman when you could call them what they are, nonbinary.