Ang traffic, lahat sila umusad at nakahanap na, ikaw naka stuck pa din. Ang dami mong tanong, “Sino kaya ang tatambay forever sa buhay ko?” Bakit lahat nalang sila napadaan lang pero nakalimutan na ata mag stop over. Naikot mo na ang restaurant at coffee shops sa Manila, Makati, BGC Take note” LAHAT ng yun IBA IBA ang kasama mo. Naunahan ka pa ni friend mo na akala mong magmamadre at magpapari na pero biglang nagkaroon ng constant dating life.
You are so tired of the routinary activities and moments when on your first dates(take note may "s" talaga to emphasize plurality) and became frustrated bakit di na naglevel up sa second date? You began to felt insecure and uncomfortable with your own actions. Then be tied up with the thought that maybe I must go for a change “The comeback is real” mindset.
Here are some factors bakit fail ang dating life mo.(Based from the opinion of few people I asked)
1. LOOKS- Aminin na natin sa lahat at wag tayo magpaka hipocrito, First consideration natin ang itsura ng makaka date natin. 9 out of 10 people will choose to date a sexy hot chic or a handsome boy next door rather than an ordinary “not so good looking” person. Practically speaking physical attraction comes first then the rest will follow I barely knew people who go on a date without fixing theirselves kulang nalang magsuot ka ng gown/barong or bilin mo ang pinakamabangong perfume para maimpress mo ang ka date nila. Pag di bull’s eye sa standards mo set aside na agad siya and goodbye second date na. Ganyan naman tayo e Mata na lang ata ang nagmamahal.
2. ATTITUDE- Madaming aspect ang attitude. Character makes up the integral being of a person. Hatiin natin mabuti.
I remember a person I hanged out with he’s handsome, tall, smart but I just don’t like the way he speaks. Hirap ako magstart ng conversation kahit anong daldal ko sa ibang tao pagdating sakanya SABAW ako. So i guess, maybe first consideration is on the way a person speaks, is he konyo?frank?parang tambay magsalita na period at comma ang mura? Sweet? Pabebe?or SABAW. May iba kasi na conversation ender talaga na ang hirap humugot ng topic. Meron naman na isang tanong isang sagot tinalo pa ang studyanteng di nakapgprepare sa unannounced graded recitation niya. We always want to see how spontaenoeus the conversation goes where it flows naturally, yung feeling na you’ve known the person for so long kahit first time niyo pa lang magkita. Coz you share the same field of interest.
And here we goes to letter B, interest, Chemistry and compatibility are what a single and dating person are looking for. Someone who can jive with your likes, hobbies, trips and even your dreams. KPOP ikaw AMPOP(American POP). Introvert ka Extrovert sya in that way you’ll realize It will not work out on a second date.
PERSONALITY, for me this is the most important of all, Beauty is deceiving. There are thousands of good looking people in the planet yet few are the ones with a good heart.Want to discover a peron’s true attitude? Bring them to a plce which are inconvenient to them. Try mo kaya makipagdate sa not so cozy place yung di air-con, pakainin ng street foods, wag magdala ng car at magcommute,yes! lets admit that there’s a big hit when they are no doubt an eye catcher but what will make the attraction last are their attitude
3. YOU ARE NOT YET READY- You are bothered why your dating life sucks? Maybe you’re the only problem. Kakabreak niyo lang pala ni ex and you’re still on a moving on process, gusto mo na sumabak sa gyera, take a break first.You go on a date just because you’re bored. Wag ganun hindi movie marathon or panonood ng KDRAMA ang dating, engage yourself into different activities instead. You cannot compromise dating, dahil nasa discovery stage palang kayo. You can’t compare the person you’re about to date sa past mo. BIG NO NO! Every person is unique. Ang problema kasi ang dami mong “BUTs”, you don’t give a person a chance to prove theirselves to you. You always close the opportunity that maybe he/she can do better on the next date. Try a second one then pag nothing happen, be open not to waste your time.
The truth is that you cannot run towards the idea of a perfect dating life, coz we will always screwed up, make a wrong move and do crazy stuffs. But one thing we must never forget BE YOURSELF. The person who is right for you will accept all of your flaws yet still see the best in you.