#false assumption

[geekgirles]

Please, attention, my dear Spanish/Portuguese/Italian-speakers.

This might be the silliest thing ever but it really makes me wonder about English-speakers' educational system:

Are you tired of seeing, or have you ever seen an English-speaker assume Italian is Spanish or Portuguese, or Spanish is Portuguese or Italian and such?

Because I have and I'm a bit tired of it, honestly.

[just2know4real]

Where did sarabixscar say that person was Maddy?, stop making false accusations about sarabixscar.

You misunderstood me. I was talking about Kash.

Proof:

If you look at the end they are saying one of youdroppedonme's accounts is Mad while still insisting my friend is also Mady. What's worse is not only did they claim publicly on Dev that Agent459 was Mady but, then they lie on a different platform about it behind her back no less. Agent459 didn't and still doesn't even know this blog existed. Which made it more confusing when old friends questioned "Are you really Blaze?" The account was closed years ago on a different because she removed her stuff and changed the name before closing.

As you can one of the last post ever made goes way back to 2017, long before Queenmad was ever heard of (at least in the Spyro community) so it makes no sense for Kash to throw around such accusations based on nothing besides an OC character, Possibly coincidental timing assuming they aren't mistaking about it, and not believing they're new. When did Agent459 claim to be new? Everything they said to us said opposite. The fact that they knew private information about former Spyro fanfics helped us realize it was indeed Blaze come back. My main point was simply to educate those in doubt that Agent459 is Blaze not Mads and to simply block Kash. If Kash can't admit they are mistaking then they aren't worth our time. They should just grow up and admit they jumped the gun without truly background checking. If I recall Agent459 explained why they weren't Mads in the comments when asking Kash to delete the deviant comment claiming them to be the same person. And the response? Let me just blog you on another site and let someone else harass you and you have 0 idea where it's coming from. Sorry but, that's wrong.

[bills-bible-basics]

FALSE ASSUMPTION -- a poem and song by BBB 

#Poetry #Poem FALSE ASSUMPTION by Bill Kochman https://www.billkochman.com/Poetry 11-29-2016 Looking back o'er the years, When you fussed and fumed, God has surely abandoned me, How you so wrongly assumed. Though you did not see Him, And feared the rising tide, He has always been with you, And constantly by your side. It is you who stepped away, In His shadow failed to abide, And simply ignored His voice, Even though He often tried.

[deborahmarchantpoet]

For Extra Sanity

I have a Sanity Meter My meter regularly has an arrow that floats in the area of Far Left It spikes Far Right when I fall for believing in all I am hearing reading and thinking – going along with a reactive defensive group think – without fact checking I replenish and boost and maintain my Extra Sanity as a poet using language as a map, not a rule Regularly checking my pulse and my…

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[bills-bible-basics]

FALSE ASSUMPTION -- a poem by Bill Kochman is on Bill's Bible Basics Blog at https://www.billkochman.com/Blog/index.php/false-assumption-a-poem-by-bill-kochman/

[holliswoodny]

IT SEEMED LIKE A GOOD IDEA AT THE TIME - Marilyn Armstrong

IT SEEMED LIKE A GOOD IDEA AT THE TIME – Marilyn Armstrong

Between pretty good marriage one and fabulous marriage three, there was unspeakable marriage two.

To explain it by saying it seemed like a good idea at the time is not entirely true. I knew it was bad idea. Not only did I think it was bad idea, but everyone who knew me thought it was a terrible idea.

No one said, “Follow your heart!” because it was clear whatever I was following, it wasn’t my…

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[rhodasommer]

Making Assumptions about Others Can be Very Creepy & Cheats Intimacy

Assumptions are all about avoiding vulnerability. Assumptions cheat us out of the possibility for real dialogue. It is only through honest dialogue that we can have intimate relationships.

Why do we like hiding out in assumptions? 1. Assumptions are shortcuts. 2. They avoid the messy uncertainty of dialogue. Assumptions are one way to pretend to ourselves we know what’s going to happen.

Why are assumptions creepy? 1.We don’t have enough respect for the other person to risk asking what’s going on. 2. Assumptions cheat us out of the opportunity to understand someone else for real. 3. Believing you know them better than they know themselves is arrogant & self-serving.

I’ve watched couples where one person decides the other is angry even when the other person goes on to describe a different feeling, they are still not believed. I find this ordinary and remarkably awful. I also have the pleasure of watching couples melt the ice of their assumptions and end up surprised by what they learn about each other.

An example of a common assumption would be: “He is being affectionate & probably just wants sex so I’m going to turn away.” You comfort yourself in isolation with the idea that you know what will happen and then you avoid being vulnerable and finding out whether or not it’s true. It’s just so much easier to decide you know and then the silence leads to layers of distance that pile up over the years.

Truth depends on tolerating messiness; instead of politeness or the exaggerated fear of “hurting” someone else or the safety of deflection.

Intimacy requires truth, vulnerability, & respect for the differences which leads to understanding. Assumptions erase respect & the opportunity to explore differences so there can’t be mutual understanding.

Texting is all about assumptions. Texting is preferred because it avoids the voice tone, the attitude & the messiness of a conversation. Texts end “conversations” with premature conclusions based on far too little information.

Assumptions harden the distance between two people. Talking is the only way we can really go about softening the differences and learning to accurately “see” the other person. Talking about hard things may require 75 conversations over time. It’s the respectful layering of these conversations over time that leads to greater depth in intimacy.

Assumptions are internal superficial judgements that take place without any risk of involving someone else.

Making Assumptions about Others Can be Very Creepy & Cheats Intimacy was originally published on Therapy Ideas

[walkforthirty]

Week 9, Day 7: False assumption

Week 9, Day 7: False assumption

Although I woke up late, I was keen to complete the walking session as it would mark the completion of Level 6 of the Walk For Thirty Challenge- so I thought!

Walk over, I checked the challenge to discover that I had completed Level 6 at the end of week 8 itself- all this while, I thought Level 6 would be over after 10 weeks!

Fortunately, I had taken physical measurements that day- that was the…

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