#famdram

[midmorning-bomb]

Mom, telling a heartwarming story about how, in the 90s, she got asked by a fellow parent what she would do if her kids were gay. And she was like, I said I'd be sad because they couldn't get married, etc, but still love and support them. Some other parent chimed in that they'd kick them out and mom was like, I would never.

At which point I said, you kicked me out at 16.

"Yeah, but not because you were gay."

[teenwolftuesdaytrash]

Remembered Perks of Being a Wallflower and my mind went wondering. 

Imagine Derek and Stiles get together in highschool. But Derek's three years older, so eventually has to go to college and that's when he gets pregnant. 

He is 19 and in sophomore year and Stiles is in senior year, and there might have been suggestions and suspicions that Derek maybe, probably cheated and got pregnant by another college student, because him and Stiles have only slept, like, once in their time as boyfriends. And everyone knows some omegas tend to let loose once they step into college.

Besides, Derek had been complaining to Stiles about this alpha named Kate Argent who has been bugging him and giving him really bad predatory juju. 

Derek is hurt that people could think that way about him. 

Not like having to tell his younger boyfriend about the pregnancy, or having to tell his parents that he got knocked up after having sex that one time, or having to face all the judgments and hardships of being a young, unmated, pregnant omega was hard enough. 

He also has to face the heartbreaking judgement and second-guessing of the people he loved the most and thought knew him the most. 

The whole thing devolves into such a mess.

[midmorning-bomb]

In a very The Frogurt Is Also Cursed turn, while all the extroverted summer babies in the family are going to Punta Cana for a week, leaving my introverted, winter daughter self to enjoy the cold sans heavy cloud of negativity, I'm apparently hosting for two days on either end of the trip.

"You're so much closer to the airport!"

You know what's even closer? The hotel I would pay for to not be hosting four days of family.

[vibininthefields]

Yesterday my friends and I had gone karaoke and we returned rather late (1am back home) and today morning, I hear a voice note from my dad saying if this is how I am living my life he's rather cancel my sister's tickets to visit me and send her straight back home instead??? Like wtf is that, I'm 26, she's 21 and he's still talking like this. Honestly, disgusted.

[vibininthefields]

Need to do a mini rant

I was pretty upset and cried out my eyes yesterday, in fact when I woke up today it was pretty swollen and I had eye bags.

My family is putting pressure on me to marry ever since I found a boyfriend that I have introduced to them.

My boyfriend is still studying and he wants a job before he gets married for personal reasons.

I was excited initially to think about my wedding and such but with everyone wanting things their way I am least interested and was even rethinking if I want to get married at all

I was also bummed out that my boyfriend hadn't planned my bday out when it was his task to find out and settle the details on the trip we had discussed about before. It made me feel very unvalued and like he doesn't care. It also made me worry that like the last year, I'd have a bday trip which didn't go according to what was expected because we hadn't planned enough.

I spoke to him yesterday about it and was initially met with defensiveness and some dismissal since I cry easily when I bring up these topics and also do not go straight to the point and start with sorta an ice breaker question - in this case it was why do you want to marry me, which made him angry cause I have asked this many times before. And his reply is the same- cause he loves me... Maybe I am looking for more from the question. He said he doesn't understand what I want him to answer with this question. And how much he needs to convince me that he wants to marry me. When that's not why I had asked that at all.

I don't think marriage is a necessity, or that it serves any purpose in life other than for legal documentation. Under the government we are together with the marriage, and it's easier than having to explain to parents and relatives on why you're hanging out a guy or having just a boyfriend. That's what I think

I don't want kids at this point of time, I don't think I'm in a mental or financial state to have one. I do like the concept of kids but they too seem not that interesting to me- feels like work right now. Maybe my opinions on this will change or maybe it won't. He's told me he's ok with what I decide and I'm thankful for that.

With all this building up about getting married, I am not keen to marry. Fuck I didn't even get proposed to and idk if that's even happening.

I need to have that conversation with my parents - cause that's the truth, I am not interested in marriage right now, I'd rather focus on the RCVS exam which I have been planning to apply for since forever. And it's also - or majorly partly cause I do not want to force my bf into a marriage which he is not ready for. I don't want people saying around me- look you chose this yourself after being forced into something that should've come more naturally.

Also if I do not get married within 2.5 years with this man, I am leaving him. I am not a placeholder. That's march 2027.

[vibininthefields]

My mom is so stubborn.

And she wants control

She's not gonna get it from me.

But I respect the resilience.

[vibininthefields]

My dad and mom are such drama creators.

My mom is calling me a thendi for posting a bikini pic which happened like over 2 months ago. And my dad said that I have no values.

And now they're going off on my sister for letting her phone die.

[vibininthefields]

My mom and I are fighting again

The conversation started with her telling me to get avocados. I said I don't wanna get avocados. Cause 1. The avocados here are small and 2. They are expensive 3. I'm not even like a huge avocado fan. And then she asked what's sweet nows house address and his star sign. I pretended I didn't know because well I don't wanna tell her. And then she went on to say I need to find this out find out his info etc to see if he's from a good fam. I'm was like I'll tell u later . Because man it's still fucking December... I didn't even want to tell about sweet nows till Jan I gave so much info and she still wants more. I just don't wanna give anything more.

And then she proceeded to follow up with you need to have kids, basically there's this other guy working with dad his daughter is married and has A kid and she's like my age apparently (I'm not too sure about that tho tbh). She's like she passes the kid to day care and goes. And I was like rn I do not want kids. Why are u telling me to have something which I don't want. She said it's to keep the family line alive and such. And I was like I don't want kids rn, I'd rather not have a kid I might hate than have one and dislike it. And then she cut the call

And sent a pic of her crying to the family group

I called her back and she didn't wanna show her face to me, she was like there is a timing for certain things in your life, if you don't do those things then the opportunity passes, and she said she wanted me to get a job and then get married and then get kids, like basically she wants me married now... And I ... Lol I can't.