#fantasy>reality

[kesaluliloveyou]

🕯️ - do you keep candles in your home? what kinds of candles do you like? what kinds do your f/o like?

This question is right up my alley, using my self-ship with Ronaldo this time! And I say it’s right up my alley because, just sitting where I am right now, there’s five candles within my eyesight within my home. I am weak when it comes to candles, haha! I see new candles and I’ll either buy them because they’re a pleasant scent, either something gourmand, woodsy, or lavender scented, or I’ll buy them because they’re shaped really cool. I also have just plain taper candles at all times, along with some cool candleholders, mostly because they’re really useful when it comes to power outages.

It's not really a problem, in my mind, because I don’t get to the point where they’re cluttering up surfaces or such. They enhance the décor of a room to me and I style them right. Ronaldo though? Would not agree to me, not at all. He thinks I have more than enough candles whenever I go to buy another one and, at his grumpiest, would consider them a waste of money. He might grouch when I go to buy another one.

Funniest thing though? He’s the one who actually burns them the most. While I buy the candles, I burn them only rarely, a lot less than one would assume by the amount of them in the house – during power outages, on nights when I’m feeling just really down or stressed out because they, for some reason, relax my brain, when I take long bubble baths, or during nights that I want to feel ‘romantic’. They get burned, by me, maybe two or three times every month or two. Ronaldo though? Despite being the biggest grouch about the candles, and not hesitating to call them stinky every now and then, ends up burning them more than I do. He’ll burn them just because he genuinely likes the smell, because he says they help him concentrate on writing, or because he reminds me – candles are there so you can burn them.

It's a cycle – he’ll complain I’m buying too many candles again, I insist on buying them anyway, he ends up burning them until they’re gone, giving me the excuse to go candle shopping to replace them. Rinse, repeat.

[kesaluliloveyou]

🎂 - do you have any special birthday celebrations you partake in every year?

I did this one up for my polyship with Tyler and Reid from The Covenant. The truth is that I actually struggle a lot with my birthday every year, though its gotten a bit better over the years. I really do rely on self-ships and such to keep my spirits up and make me feel like the day might even be something semi-close to being even marginally celebrated.

When I think of our relationship, when I think of me, Tyler, and Reid as a couple, I do think birthdays are celebrated. Unlike with my own, I’m super passionate about celebrating each of their birthdays. I do everything I can to make sure that each of their days is celebrated in different ways though, because each of the boys are so different. We all compliment each other really well, but just at their cores, both Reid and Tyler are different and like different things for their birthdays.

Reid loves having his birthday be a huge thing. He’s someone who craves attention and excitement. He wants that big birthday party. He starts hinting, about a month in advance, how nice it would be if someone were to throw him a surprise party. He hints about gifts he’d like. Of course, me and Tyler pick up on his hints…it’s pretty damn impossible not to and we work together on planning out a big party for him. If Reid’s on at least semi-decent terms with anyone, they get invited. To Reid, the bigger a party, the more people to adore him and celebrate his birthday, to make him the center of attention, the better. However, because we want to celebrate him in a more personal manner, we make the party in the evening. We take the day and make it all about him. We wake him up with morning sex and then a long hot shower together. After that, Reid gets to relax completely while we make him breakfast. We take him out for the day after that. We head up to Salem. Reid’s a big fan, for some reason we will never understand, of Count Orlok’s Nightmare Gallery so we check that out, catch a late lunch at a resturant, check out the Misery Islands. Tyler makes up an excuse about needing something for Reid so that I can head back a little bit early, where I set up everything for the party, with the help of the other Sons and their partners. When Reid and Tyler do get back, he fakes (badly so) the surprise part of the surprise party but is incredibly happy to party way into the wee hours of the morning.

For Tyler’s birthday, he’s much more subdued in how he wants it celebrated. Since I figure he’s born in the winter months, probably December, it’s peak snowboarding season. We celebrate his birthday a little earlier with his parents, as he’s the one of us who is closest to their parents but for his birthday proper, he likes to get away for it. We pack the car and do the three hour drive up to Great Barrington’s ski resort, alongside Pogue, Caleb and their partners. We do a weekend get away up there for his birthday. It’s small, intimate and a ton of fun.

For my own birthday, it was actually really hard for them to figure out how I best wanted it celebrated. That’s because, when I first got into the relationship with them, I couldn’t communicate how I like it to be celebrated because I hated the thought of my birthday. It was an occasion that had never really been celebrated before and to me, just wasn’t worth the fuss. I preferred it to be treated like any other day, but the boys were not okay with that. They both tried, in their own preferred ways to celebrate my birthday, to varying degrees of success. Over time, it gets to be a mixture between the two of theirs – my birthday is celebrated with a lot of together time, a nice meal out, and then joining up with friends for something spooky and Halloweeny, given the time of year my birthday falls in.

[kesaluliloveyou]

🃏 - if you and your f/o were to be snowed in for several days with no power, what would you two do to keep away boredom?

Ohh, this was just such a cute prompt that I couldn’t resist. Being a proud Canadian, I’ve actually lived through the situation of being without power following a huge snowstorm. It’s not normally all that much fun, being honest, but drawing on some of those situations and then imagining them with one of my fictional others, Tsuzuru in this case, was a lot of fun!

We’ve heard the upcoming storm was going to be a real doozy, so we went out early in the morning to stock up on storm supplies – chips and snacks, fixings for sandwiches, lots of bottled water. By the time we’re heading home, the snow has already started to fall. The drive home takes a lot longer than normal because once it starts to fall, the snow falls hard. By the time we get home, it’s reaching white-out conditions. We get everything inside and it’s all okay. The power’s still on and we get to enjoy the rest of the afternoon and the evening. We get chores done, work on hobbies, enjoy each other’s company.

The power goes out while we’re both sleeping and it’s not even something we notice until the morning. Tsuzuru sleeps more soundly and he sleeps a little longer than me. When he wakes up, it’s to find me trying to assemble and light a fire in the wood stove because the house is definitely freezing. Bundling up, between the two of us, we manage to get the fire going. Because it’s harder to heat an entire house with just a wood fire, we start the hard work – shutting off rooms that we don’t need to be in. We decide we’ll end up camping in the open area of the living room and kitchen, and we leave the bathroom open, but we shut and block off all other areas. When that’s finally done, I fill a pot with water and put it on top of the big wood stove. It’s starting to warm up and we’re both desperate for coffee. Tsuzuru makes us instant oatmeal with some of the heated up water and we sit down together for breakfast, looking outside the living room window and talking about how high the snow is out there. It’s insane to think that much fell, but we also talk about how it’s actually kind of beautiful, like something out of a traditional painting, a Christmas card, or some picture perfect holiday movie.

We keep each other entertained through the couple of days that the power is off. We talk a lot. There’s always some new point of discussion for me and Tsuzuru – books, movies, politics, religion, podcasts, our hopes and dreams, things friends are doing or going through, his next play, favourite architecture, what we’d do if we won the lottery, vacations we’d like to take, etc.

We raid the board game cabinet in the living room. Many hours are killed with card or board games. I beat his ass over and over again in Sorry, while he wins every round of rummy because he’s just that lucky and talented at it. I always have extra diamond dots and craft stuff around, so we might raid that.

One of the biggest ways we pass the time is story-telling. We tell each other stories, trying to top each other, but at some point, we start collaborating on a story. We build characters and a world. We’ll go without talking about it for hours, doing other things. Then something will come to one of us about the story and we’ll mention it to the other, getting into a heated discussion and long story-telling session. By the time we’ve finished the power-outage, there’s a real solid hook for a play or novel there that we agree we’ll have to work to finish.

Of course, there’s also long cuddle session wrapped in all kinds of blankets and lots of sex.

[lifeshappenings-blog1]

inspired by one of jay alvarrez’s tattoos

fantasy>reality

[tymencockaert]

Need more tat’s really bad ✍🏼

[youonlyneedallofyourself]

We gotta find reality in our fantasies, or at least try to make it.

never been loved

[disregardcanon]

dragons and unicorns don't exist but mosquitoes do.