When i ask my mind "can I let go of this fear of XYZ happening to the body-mind" it often feels scared of doing so. The body starts reacting with anxiety about the thought of me letting go of the my fear of XYZ. There is this false sense of control telling me: "If you let go of the fear of XYZ, if you dont keep it in mind, you will not avoid the actions that may lead to XYZ and you'll end up experiencing what you fear".
I know it's a false sense of control, fear arises when I ask myself to let go of this anxiety about the future and this specific incident (XYZ) happening to this body-mind. Its been a few months of fighting this fear but it only grows
Often I will try to observe and let the thoughts pass, is everything the mind thinks of so true anyways? I will experience a few minutes of peace before I'm caught up in the tangles of my mind again, before I'm again saying this and that and avoiding this and that to avoid a specific incident from happening to this mind-body.
I wanna calm my mind down and let my ego know that it's okay if I let go, sometimes I will feel like I need some conformation that it's safe to let go. That if I act however I want, let go of the fear and ignore all these "rules" I forced myself to follow that I will still be okay and that this body-mind will not experience what I fear in the future. I feel like the missing piece would be to actually understand the point of letting go of a problem, does this problem actually disappear when I stop giving attention to it? Will the body-mind actually not experience the fear when I as self let go or this fear and break all the rules that "keep me safe"? I know self would be okay but what about the body?
Or does it anyways happen to the body-mind and there is nothing I can do to stop it from happening to this body-mind and I'm just letting go for my own peace?
I'm kinda new to this, I'm still learning and I'm close to finishing most of your masterlist but I'm not sure if I really get the concept of "not giving so much attention to a problem"..does it then cease to exist to the body-mind as well? Or is it just so that it doesn't impact me mentally as much (I'm not belittling this outcome, I'd love to have this outcome anyways) I know its very foolish to only let go of fear out of hope that this is the way to prevent any incident from happening but a part of me asks for an obvious answer telling me that this body-mind will not encounter what I'm fearing if I let go of the fear.
I see this type of question often getting answered with "You're not the body-mind, whatever happens to it isn't happening to you" but what if i don't want the body-mind to experience XYZ, do I have any type of control over that? Will letting go offer safety for the body and will it help this body-mind not experience its fear with the senses?
And generally do you have any advice for me other than to observe the thoughts and let them pass since this has a very temporary effect on me? Is there any other path I can experiment with to let go of my fearful thoughts?
Thanks in advance!!
"If you let go of the fear of XYZ, if you dont keep it in mind, you will not avoid the actions that may lead to XYZ and you'll end up experiencing what you fear".
how does fear help you get through xyz? it only makes it worse. just accept that if the fear happens and xyz happens, you'll just have to do your best and deal with it. deal with it if it comes, focus on now.
the fear does not keep you safe, it just keeps you in fear.
"Its been a few months of fighting this fear but it only grows"
this is why it grows, you fight it. it doesn't have to eradicated. the fear won't take you over and destroy you either.
kelly (4dkelly) has some asks on mind purification, those i really recommend. i also would suggest you looking through 'letting go' by david hawkins.
"Is there any other path I can experiment with to let go of my fearful thoughts?"
meditation, conscious releasing, surrendering... do what ever you want, the main objective is to let the fear pass through you fully, and then choosing what to do once you are neutral. there's lots of releasing meditations on youtube.
"I know self would be okay but what about the body?"
read this post by ada.
this post also.
