Guys, i'm such a crappy feminist -_____- is there like a class I can take?
I really don't speak out much, I haven't been very good with expressing my thoughts and feelings lately :/ and nothing really happens in my life where I have to get all fire and femtastic on someone, probably because I never leave my room lol but I should still be doing my part none the less. that being said, i've compiled some goals for myself
Eliminate the words "bitch" and "slut" out of my vocabulary - i use them WAY too much and they should never be used at all.
Stop judging other women and veiwing them as competition - this is going to probably be the toughest thing i ever have to do. since i was little i was raised (brainwashed) to think that i HAVE to be prettier than and smarter than and skinnier than other women or else i won't find a husband or even matter to society in general. that really needs to go. that type of thinking is hurting myself and others and is only helping to perpetuate this disgusting cycle.
Stop caring so much of others opinions about me.- i don't do things i like, i don't wear or say things i want because i'm always worried of what others will think of me, it's seriously hindering my personal growth and my ability to speak up for myself and other women
Don't be intimidated by other feminists - sometimes i find that those with the same beliefs as me are my harshes critics :{ i've been told that i can't be a feminist and wear skirts or like to bake or sew or wear heels, that i can't be a feminist and want other people to open doors for me and carry my heavy bags, that i can't be a feminist and be a femme lesbian. well guys guess what. i can do what i want and believe what i want. why not instead of trying to put me down you accept me for who i am and welcome another ally. your just as bad if not worse than the misogynistic jerks were working against.
Take a womens studies class
Speak positivly about and towards other women - I find myself judging other women, celebrities, chicks on the street, just anything with a vagina i'm SO judgmental of! it's awful! and i don't mean just negativly i mean like "oh tyra has on a horrible outfit"! or "that chicks hotter than that chick" who i am i to judge?! the minute someone even sounds like there going to call me ugly or tell me that my outfit isn't flattering i burst into tears, i've no right nor any room to talk about or judge other women.
Don't hate men - I must admit, men have put me through a plethera of bad situations and have caused me a lot of mental harm. I can't deny that. I can't deny that I have no respect for them, I can't deny that to a degree they even disgust me. But I refuse to hate. Hate is not the answer to anything. ever. it's always the cause of something horrible and I want no parts of it. It takes too much time and energy that I honestly don't even have to hate other people. I will correct them, I will try my best to educate them and If all else fails I will pray for them. But i won't hate them. It's bad enough they already hate me. Theres enough hatred going around. I don't need to add to it. So that's it ^^ sure I might not be at any rallies anytime soon or kicking down frat boys's front doors and macing them but i'm still doing something. Hopefully the changes i'm trying to make in myself will inspire someone else :}