#feyre slander

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God the irony

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F/eyre to twinkle town: I'm so sad that these people had to lose their homes and suffer from the consequences of the war

F/eyre to Spring: So my husband built this studio apartment–

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God I feel like the whole need to create a perfect strong female lead has ruined stories now, like everytime a character shows an ounce of flaws or a grain of femininity they're scrutinized to no end. So we end up getting characters like F/eyre to try and show people what a real woman should be like when a real woman isn't defined by just one person.

A scared woman can still have the strength to shoot a gun the same way a strong woman can be scared to hold one

I had a discussion with my friends about this, why does a woman need to be strong so their feelings should be identified as valid? Why do we need to impress men to be seen as worthy? If it's just make up and pretty dresses then why does it have so much power over a person to the point where it alone can be a factor of ones character?

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5. Because without working on her communication, Feyre is effectively cut off from anyone who can’t read her mind or who isn’t friends with the male who can, Rhysand. And that’s honestly really scary. Sorry for the long ask, it I have FEELINGS about Feyre's communication skills (or lack thereof) and how they change throughout the series.

“F/eysand’s dynamic heavily relies on the fact that R/hys can read minds and they feel each others emotions” Omg yes! I don’t like Feylin, but one of the reasons it works in book one is because both Tamlin and F/eyre, who are BOTH bad at communicating, are forced to work on that together. They learn to communicate throughout the book and fall in love. Compare how Tamlin talks to Fe/yre in the beginning to how he talks with her when he explains he’s sending away. He’s clearly better at it. 2. The same goes for F/eyre. In the beginning she’s frustrated with her family (especially Nesta) and she and Tamlin bicker a LOT. But they learn to talk, and when F/eyre leaves the Spring Court she takes her newfound communication skills home and actually uses them to talk with Nesta. They begin working out their issues, and Nesta wants F/eyre to teach her painting, because FEYRE has grown as a person and learned to communicate. Everyone benefits from F/eyre and Tamlin learning to communicate.

Yes! Book 1 is arguably the best book in the entire series atm mainly because our characters haven't gone off the rails yet.

3. Then comes ACOMAF, and that growth is gone. It’s one thing for characters to be traumatized, another entirely for them to both walk back on their growth. They miraculously forget how to talk, and F/eyre and Tamlin's relationship suffers and becomes abusive as a result. F/eyre's relationship with her sisters sours again. But Sarah J Maas's solution is for F/eyre's mate to be a mind reader? That exacerbates the problem! Instead of communicating what she wants and needs, F/eyre relies entirely on-

I have to disagree with the trauma portion since it is entirely possible for someone to walk back on their growth (though their are some exceptions) with that being said that doesn't mean they shouldn't work out their issues since this change in their personality isn't really good. I also highly doubt that Tamlin being so protective would've slept through all the nights where F/eyre vomits and breaks down, the book plays him out to be someone whose quick to notice everything she does cause he's so protective a territorial of her but they also contradict that by making him clueless which makes no sense at all.

4. R/hysand knowing because he can read her mind. And it’s not romantic. It’s creepy, and unrealistic. That, and it enables F/eyre to get away without growth. She doesn’t need to change, after all. R/hysand already knows what she wants, and if other people don’t miraculously know her wants and needs (like Nesta) that THEIR problem. F/eyre's growth in the communication department stops, and everyone, everyone F/eyre has a relationship with in any capacity, suffers from it. But none more so than her.

It's codependency at best (also Stockholm syndrome for both r/hys and tamlin)

5. Because without working on her communication, Feyre is effectively cut off from anyone who can’t read her mind or who isn’t friends with the male who can, R/hysand. And that’s honestly really scary. Sorry for the long ask, it I have FEELINGS about Feyre's communication skills (or lack thereof) and how they change throughout the series.

It's fine! No need to apologize, F/eyre's lack of communication skills kinda parallels with Nesta's except for Nesta she has Gwyn and Emerie, not just Cassian. So she actually has someone to talk to outside of the mating bond, so by the end of ACOSF some of the changes in Nesta actually make sense because of Emerie and Gwyn (despite the book acting like IC did that when they actually make things work)

Last thing, this codependency F/eyre and R/hys have could explain why she's so okay with him doing whatever the hell he wants because she's under this mindset of "Well he's my mate, he couldn't possibly do anything that would harm me." and you know who else was under this mindset despite their mate being an asshole? Tamlin's Mom

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Everytime I see canon F/eysand the urge to bitch slap them gets stronger and stronger

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Feyre is the gatekeep, gaslight, girlboss to Rhysand's mansplain, manipulate, misogyny.

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I hate how die-hard fans of A/COTAR have this mindset that "Oh since the author says this character is good then they must be good even though their actions say otherwise."

It's a stupid idea that the author can do no wrong and isn't problematic in the slightest, just because they wrote the book doesn't mean we can't critique it for its obvious bad plot and insane amount of loop-holes