I usually get the vibes sometimes when I'm in a group that someone's actions are rude and disturbing the group. So sometimes I will confront the person in private and let them know because often everyone else in the group are meek and very nice. But sometimes later on I learn that others didnt find the persons actions upsetting. So now I'm paranoid when someone is being rude that I'm projecting and that maybe only I was insulted. I'm usually always the odd one out in how I emotionally interpret something so I guess this isn't news. I guess I could just confront people and just say I thought they were rude and ask for clarification on what they meant, rather than assuming they are disrupting the cohesion of the group. I'm still mindboggled no one else thought this persons actions were rude though.