I’m starting to dislike this story he keeps reassuring her for every little thing because she’s too lazy to go see a professional and talk about her issues or maybe see a therapist. This is becoming toxic I dont see a happy ending. I don’t like her guilt tripping him just because she chose to stay playing the victim card the best example of what I mean is Monique go watch what she’s said about it when she gave that interview at club shay shay. Monique said everything right about this whole thing and it relates to this one too well Monique’s story is more brutal considering it was her own brother.
while it sucks that you're starting to dislike the story (and not just her decisions?), you have a right to your opinion. she definitely has work to do, but i personally wouldn't say that she's guilt tripping him or playing the victim card, at least that was not my intention for her to do.
i watched the monique interview and while some things seem alike (she was sexually abused (raped?) and became guarded), she described herself as sleeping with many men (more than she seemed to think was good?) and being "aggressive" in turn, as well as having people tell her that she couldn't use being molested by her brother as a crutch her whole life but needing to take accountability for herself.
and while that seems to have worked for her, i don't think you can say that it's what reader needs to do, or that reader is "lazy". because their stories differ a lot, and i don't think there's a one size fits all solution. reader has never had a good relationship with men and she's seen the absolute worst of them, not only being raped by a colleague herself, but the cases of missing, beaten, raped, murdered women that she sees at work. instead of sleeping around, she didn't want anything to do with men (and they were actively trying to kill her...) and the man she's currently trying to trust treated her like shit, himself. so it's not really an illogical thing for her to be careful, i'd say. personally, i would say that she's 100% working on herself because she wants to feel better, and she wants love with jk. she realizes that if she doesn't work on herself and tries to trust him, that she's missing out on him, who could very much be the love of her life and someone who can make her believe in both men and love again.
she faces her fears every day, especially getting into that shower with him. and she's not making him do anything, or treating him badly (imo, she's not "aggressive" like i interpreted monique saying she was). he's there by his own free will, acting the way he is because he wants to (didn't look in the shower even when she offered etc). to me, he's very reassuring but not because she needs it for every single thing, but because they're getting to the bottom of some of her struggles to establish a stronger foundation, understanding why she might feel the way she does. it might not be the best option to use someone non-professional as a therapist, but he wants to help her and since a lot of her concerns have been regarding him, his words and reasonings will probably carry more weight than a lot of what a therapist can say (even though she surely could use that help as well).
that's just my two cents. i don't think it's necessarily wrong to have other opinions but this is what i've been trying to convey at least.
