How I finessed £850 for a pair of Jimmy Choo’s off a man I’d known for one week and NEVER met in person before... Okay ladies, story time. I met a guy, 10 years older on an app, very successful, handsome, lives and runs a business in my neighbourhood. Easily searchable on the net, his office is five minutes from my house. HOWEVER, I have never met this man. We’d been in deep WhatsApp messages for a week, sharing political views, discussing dreams, aspirations, hopes etc. For a penpal this felt like a deep connection already. I made myself available to communicate with him as intense as it was at times. We had planned to go for a little walk and coffee to meet a few days after connecting but it didn’t happen, but I was open for a low key meet up just to see him in person. How I use 'cause and cure' to finesse. I generally create a problem, this can be a joke or a real issue, e.g 'I can’t believe you missed our one week anniversary!’ (always add playful emojis when finessing ladies) allow him to reply and then always ask ‘how do you plan on making it up to me’, fortunately in my finesse story this man loved spoiling women, so he suggested 'heels or lingerie', naturally, I said ‘both'. After some back and forth flirts I sent him the link to the Jimmy Choo’s and we discussed how hot they were. I then sent my Paypal details and told him ‘let’s see how much weight your words hold’. TIP. MOVE fucking fast. When a man is ready to drop that cash, you don’t take your time and message back after you done eaten your pasta, or had your bath. No sweetie, you reply immediately. And once that money drops you keep the momentum going. Reading this, it sounds fairly straightforward, and I literally had no idea it would be this easy especially as we had never met. I had however engaged in ALOT of back and forth messages with this man about trading, tech, dating, love etc. A connection had been established. Even though it had been just over one week it wasn’t like I was getting money from a complete stranger, some of the messages exchanged were more deep then men I’ve known for months. He opened up to me and I created space to continue to talk to him even when I was busy. There was time, energy, investment. Tips: Firstly, make sure you are dealing with a man that loves to spoil women. Make time for him if he is willing to talk, go deep, ask questions. YOU ARE VETTING HIM at this stage. Find out his motives, what he wants, what has worked for him, what makes him tick, what is missing from his life right now. Stop being so surface level with the chats, everything is behind the screen so who even cares. Once the CONNECTION has been established, then you can progress. LOOK THE PART. Your social media. I never really realised the importance of this but if you want to manifest that luxury life ENSURE your IG is on point. I recently got back from a beach holiday with a girlfriend so I had the IG photos to support the aesthetic of a luxury life. This is how men will perceive you. If you need some inspiration, start researching women who look like they are spoilt, think photos in high end restaurants, outside beautiful homes, bikini snaps, holidaying in luxury locations. Be creative. Final note: There is an abundance of wealthy men that enjoy spoiling women. So if you want this life, make sure you're focusing on your type of people. Stop wasting time on people who aren’t for you, men who don’t spoil, men who don’t spend, men who don’t provide you with the life you’re already providing for yourself. Stop choosing dusty men who choose you, start choosing men who are able to provide you with the dream life you already created for yourself and more. 💕