#forced forgiveness

[furiousgoldfish]

'forgiveness for inner peace' is abuser propaganda

[furiousgoldfish]

Somewhere along the lines, the abusers convinced the society at large that tolerating, forgiving and defending abuse is a moral virtue. That in order to be a good person, you must excuse vile actions of abuse, you must find rationalizations for it, you must take the abuser's point of view, you must feel sorry for them, you must forgive them, and you must push others to do the same. Otherwise it would be 'a world where people would take revenge on the abusers and be just as bad', or whatever other bullshit fear-mongering they're spreading around.

No, it is not a moral virtue to tolerate or forgive abuse. No, the victims would not go on a revenge campaigns if they were not silenced and told to get over it. No, the society would not descend into chaos if we forced people to take responsibility for actions of abuse towards their immediate family and loved ones. And no, pushing victims to forgive and accept abusers, is not an act of moral virtue. It is an act of evil.

All that this accomplishes is more abuse, more frequent abuse, more freedom to abuse, and more isolation and helplessness for the victims. Which is exactly what the abusers want.

The only moral action is to stand up to the abuse and to stand with the victims. If you can't do this much, you can cowardly withdraw. Siding with abusers, defending them and degrading victims for their 'lack of morality' for not forgiving the abusers, is the act of cruelty and viciousness. You are gloating your virtue on the site of a wounded, devastated person. Be ashamed of yourself.

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Whiskey: Days, Weeks

When I threw my hands up for a hug, I wasn't gesturing to you. You, Sir, still piss me the fuck off. However, the pathetic excitement I saw on your face for you having thought I threw a peace flag down was something I was just to happy to destroy. You're welcome. You're lucky I was in a good mood.