Tips for handling anger
As a follow on from yesterday’s blog, ‘Evaluating anger,’ I thought I would look at ways to help us deal with anger. These are more important than the anger itself because without learning how to handle anger, we will always have anger.
Although it’s normal to feel angry from time to time, anger isn’t something we should move into our lives permanently.
These tips should help:
It’s important to recognise why we’re angry. Always try to look for and work through the initial source of anger;
Talk your anger through with the person you’re angry at. That way you stop yourself from taking your anger out on other people who primarily end up being in the firing line;
If it’s your child that’s angry, try to get them to talk about why they’re feeling angry. If they can’t then time out always helps;
Always come back in and apologise when you’ve come through the angry stage. That way you show children it’s okay for them to apologise too;
Write any anger thoughts down. Reading through our thoughts can sometimes help us understand the anger we feel and helps put space between us and the anger;
It’s far easier to get angry than it is to work through the initial source of anger, because anger is usually a culmination of a past experience in the present moment and something we’re dealing with presently.
Perhaps we need to evaluate exactly how we feel and incorporate more mediation into our relationships. I believe it’s important to talk about the things that could so easily turn into anger; and which usually come from nowhere.
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