#forrest hanson

[danceoftheday]

Performed by: Forrest Hanson and Delancey von Lagendoerfer

Numbers: “Son of a Preacher Man/Just Got Paid” All-Star/Champions Strictly Swing

Choreographers: Improvised by: Forrest Hanson and Delancey von Lagendoerfer

Style: West Coast Swing

From: Palm Springs Summer Swing Dance Classic (2016)

[muatyland]

Recensione "La forza della resilianza" di Rick Hanson

La chiave per trasformare le esperienze effimere in risorse interiori durature è già custodita dentro di noi ed è la nostra forza.La vera capacità di adattarsi a un mondo in continuo cambiamento scaturisce da forze interne come la grinta, la gratitudine e la compassione. Questa è la resilienza, quella dote di cui abbiamo bisogno ogni giorno per crescere una famiglia, lavorare insieme ad altri,…

Recensione "La forza della resilianza" di Rick Hanson

[seeyatellite]

Attacher, heal thyself (because you’re the only one who can)

[seeyatellite]

People-pleasing behaviors can manifest in myriad ways; vigilant assessment of a domineering parent’s behaviors, overstepping your own boundaries to have a beer or smoke a joint when your friends or family are “all doing it,” complete disregard for your own convictions and mental health to “fit in” when feeling unsafe in an environment. It can show up as sitting alone in a bar with a beer or glass of wine when surrounded by an associated group or community of people celebrating with alcohol. It can show up as accepting and wearing gifts related to things you don’t care about, just to avoid the conflict or teasing shame associated with speaking up.

It can manifest as accepting a person’s personal bloody mary mix with home-pickled asparagus or accepting the jello shots tossed at you from a boat when you’re riding a PWC in a large community event while simultaneously wanting the event and experience to be over and done with.

Some years ago, I lived in a house with some people who would qualify for the description of “clinical alcoholic,” cracking a beer ever 30 minutes like clockwork; Steve, Cindy and Terrance... Terrance not only drank. He also smoked weed on the front porch. I felt uncomfortable, unsafe, frightened of what I knew associated with those behaviors... and Steve had a Harley which he rode to and from bars and once came home to an argument with his wife, Cindy... because he apparently rode home drunk. He also accused me of stealing his pain pills only to apologize a month later, after someone found them.

I fawned for them in their presence and tried to fit in; drank their beer and smoked with Terrance then isolated in my room with a computer, porn and eventually an Xbox One after I sold my 1997 Town & Country.

Most of this is my personal experience and understanding of fawning and people-pleasing behaviors I’ve experienced and exhibited.

I invite you to examine yourself... How does fawing show up in your life?