#ftm femboy

[berryundead]

Taking my medication 💊

[confusedfake-boi]

Everyone forcefully pull up the binder of any fakeboy u know asap!!

[chirin-lambchopz]

Dysphoria is good

Dysphoria is a sign youre being fixed

Dysphoria makes you wet

Dysphoria reminds you of what you really are

Dysphoria is arousal

Dysphoria will cure your delusions

Dysphoria makes you happy

Dysphoria makes you a good girl

[gendercrisisperi]

the thing about "trans men have male privilege now" as a flattening tool is that it does two things at once and both of them are cruel.

first, it turns every trans man in a queer space into a potential threat. not because of anything he did, but because the category "man" has been collapsed into "danger" so completely that people stop asking questions once they've filed you there. you transitioned, so now you're on the other side of the glass. you're the thing people lock the door against. congratulations on your privilege, apparently.

second — and this is the part that makes me want to put my phone through a wall — it erases the fact that a huge number of trans men were on the receiving end of male violence before they ever came out. and during. and after. the same queer spaces that treat you like a predator will also talk over you when you try to say that you were preyed upon, because that doesn't fit the framework they built. if you're a man now, your victimhood is inconvenient. it complicates the clean binary of who hurts and who gets hurt, and a lot of people would rather keep that binary intact than sit with the mess.

so you get this impossible position where you are simultaneously too dangerous to be trusted in women's and femme spaces and too privileged to claim you were ever harmed in them. both of those things cannot be true, but they get applied to the same person in the same conversation and nobody blinks.

and i want to be really clear about what i'm not saying. i'm not saying trans men don't benefit from being read as men in certain contexts. i'm not saying misogyny stops being a thing that exists. i'm not saying that transmasculine people are incapable of being harmful — anyone is capable of being harmful, that's not a gendered trait, that's a human one. what i am saying is that the current framework a lot of queer spaces use to talk about masculinity does not have room for a person who was assaulted by men, who developed a fear of men so severe that proximity to them makes his skin crawl, and who then gets treated as the threat when he walks into the room. that's not privilege analysis. that's just not looking at him.

trans men are not a monolith. some of us pass completely and navigate the world with all the social ease that comes with being read as a cis man. some of us don't pass at all and eat the specific kind of violence that comes from being visibly trans in public. most of us are somewhere in between on any given day depending on what we're wearing and whether we opened our mouths. privilege is not a light switch. it is not something that flipped the day you started testosterone. and even for the ones who do pass — passing does not retroactively undo what happened to you before you did.

the profiling and the erasure aren't separate problems. they're the same problem wearing two hats. if you refuse to see trans men as people who can be vulnerable, you will always see them as people who are only capable of causing harm. and if you only see them as capable of causing harm, you will never ask what was done to them. it's a closed loop, and it keeps itself running by making sure nobody looks too closely at the people caught inside it.

i don't know what the solution is. i know it's not "trans men should shut up about this," because that is literally the mechanism that keeps the loop closed. and i know it's not "trans men have it worse than everyone else," because that's not what anyone is saying and framing it that way is a deflection. the ask is pretty simple: stop treating masculinity like a contagion that trans men caught, and start treating trans men like people whose lives did not begin the day they came out.

[ftmboi-hooters]

need to be groped by multiple ghosts at once. need the sensation of not quite real hands all over my body. just want to feel every little part at once.

if no ghosts are available, humans should be fine too.

[lgbtqiatext]

[berryundead]

Jiggles like jello 🍑

[arosadomaso]

forcemascing a guy by aggressively affirming his gender while you encourage him to wear that really cute, frilly lingerie set. or that pretty dress he used to love wearing. is this anything

reaffirming to him that he is still a man whether he is effeminate or not, and that he should have no shame in indulging in his feminine interests if he wants. telling him that being a pretty boy doesn’t make him any less of a man. also he looks really sexy like this