#gender normative

[darkandtwisty83]

Just wanna say

My brother got my 4 yo niece a tool kit for Christmas and her dad (my other bro) got her a train set. Props to you bros for not conforming to those gender stereotypical presents.

Side note, my niece absolutely loves both presents. She's sidelining the tea sets in favour of her tool kit and train. 🙃😬

[gimmetheax]

What do you wear at home?

I have four wardrobes.

1. Work clothes, which I keep pristine and rarely wash. Most pieces are at least ten years old.

2. Party clothes. Trashy to sacred.

3. Grunge. I used to have an entire wardrobe of grungy clothes and shoes that I would wear on dog walks but my dog died one year ago today.

Now I wear my grungy clothes to cook, clean, or weed the community garden. I don't like to sweat in my nice clothes because then I would have to wash them more frequently.

I have grungy workout clothes. One of the only times I feel gender non-normative is when I'm working out in band tees and thrift store running shorts in un-feminine colors such as BLUE and the other women are wearing $90 leggings. I went on a hike with ten other therapists and I was the only one wearing jeans!! (My ex's Carhartt's duh.) They were ALL wearing BLACK YOGA PANTS to go hiking, why??

I'm not a Pink Pilates Princess but maybe I want to be.

4. Beautiful loungewear. I have sexy pajamas -- classic Victoria's Secret nighties, vintage when I bought them in 2008. I have one matching classic PJ set.

But I'm looking for LOUNGE WEAR. Like the normal girls wear. They look so cute in their matching sets! That's what makes it am OUTFIT and not an Adam Sandler costume -- matching!

I have never understood it. I wore real pants to work all throughout the pandemic.

So what do you wear for crucial time, from 9:30-11pm, after dinner is cleaned up and before bed?

[im-a-singular-stupid666-blog]

Fucking make me

[dreamofknightmares]

I work at a ticket arcade.

You buy a card, play games, earn tickets, then redeem those tickets for prizes. One of our prize cabinets contains strictly pink/princess-y/ “girly” prizes. And one thing that severely irritates me is when young boys go over to that cabinet because it has brighter colors and maybe they want an owl bracelet or a red valentine rubber duck or a pink lei And before they can look at those prizes, their parent or guardian takes them by the shoulders and leads them away because “Oh, you don’t want anything in there. It’s all girly. Why don’t we look at the candy again?” Like... why discourage something that the kid might enjoy and encourage something that’s going to give them a sugar high on the way home? And the worst part is I can’t speak my mind because I’m afraid of being disrespectful and losing my job.

[childofaugust]

I'm re-watching Friends for the 100th time and I realize more and more OMG I HATE ROSS

[sulami7]

Is it me or do unnecessarily gendered products piss me off? 

Because the boys McDonalds happy meals always had by far the better toys 

Because I'd either have to put up with fucking judgemental looks when I'd ask for the 'boys' one 

or be green with envy whilst watching my brother get it without him even having to breath a word

Because a toy car isn't necessarily a fucking boys toy

Because me building lego or playing scalextric made me a 'tomboy'

Because my parents still don't remember which I prefer

Because the boys toys were always more active, practical and educational like 'build your own...' sets

Because even kids kits for looking at wildlife and bugs were advertised for boys

Because I wasn't given a choice when my room was painted fucking pink, nor was my brother when his was blue

Because today girls are still being told to be pretty princesses and boys are told they have to be able to build stuff or race cars

Because why can't kids today allowed to be who they want? Without any of these fucking gender normative expectations, why can't the daughter ask for a cricket bat for christmas and the son ask for a doll without being judged. Why can't kids, these days, live life without people, even their parents, making assumptions on what they ought to like and dislike just because of their sex? And then they're either judged or ignored when they try to express their own opinions that don't conform to these norms?

Because why doesn't society see that here is more than just boys and girls, blue and pink, toy swords and hello kitty.

There are shades of grey, in betweens, bits of this and bits of that, and you know what? It's this that makes each and every kid unique and human, it's this diversity of likes and dislikes in one individual that makes them who they are, for it is this that makes them our children.

So why not embrace it? Take it for everything that it is and more, let it expand and grow, let us share it. 

Lets not put into boxes and label it, let it be free.

[sunshinemoonbeam]

Freud said he didn’t know what women wanted. I know what women want. They want a whole lot of people to talk to. What do they want to talk about? They want to talk about everything. What do men want? They want a lot of pals, and they wish people wouldn’t get so mad at them.

Vonnegut via Lang