#gendercanon

[synpa-tee]

Gendercanon

when one allows others to “headcanon” oneself in terms of gender

Gendercanon flag:

Gendercanon (also called canongender, headcanongender, or HCgender) is a term for those who don’t subscribe to the concept of gender or otherwise feel a lack of gender and allow others to decide what gender to view them as. The term is not specific to any gender modality and can either be used on its own or alongside other labels.

Essentially, if a gendercanon individual is seen as a girl, they are a girl. If they are seen as non-binary, they are non-binary. If they are asked what their gender is, they might say they don’t know, use their AGAB, or say something along the lines of “whatever you see me as.”

Pronouncanon or canonpronominal can be used to describe those who allow others to "headcanon” them in terms of pronouns. In other words, they allow others to decide which pronouns to use for them and hold little to no preference.

This was a request.

[ring-rang-rong-blog]

((so have a slew of humanformer thoughts

i really want rung to be a neurodivergent woman so badly like

she’s such an insightful genius but misogyny in academia is so pervasive that she doesn’t get the credit she truly deserves

the whole tense relationship with froid? he could just dismiss her along with the rest of her ‘hysterical sex’ especially if he knew she was ND and in treatment for her own mental health complexities

no one remembers her name since she’s just ‘mary sue’

she’s not conventionally attractive with her bushy eyebrows and large nose and had to learn how to put up with bullies like froid from a very young age

that’s not to mention how people generally stereotype her as the shy nerd type since her anxiety keeps her from interacting sometimes, and heck, just look at those dorky glasses, i mean really

it doesn’t stop her from being assertive when she needs to be, and that in combination with both her smarts and her background make her a very, very good therapist. she’s highly compassionate, knows when to push and when to pull back, since she’s been there - she knows it’s a balance of hard work and copious self care

...basically i’m super gay for femme rung, but can you really blame me

[kingohats]

TIMMY TURNER IS A TRANSBOY

HIS PARENTS WERE EXPECTING A GIRL

THEY PUT HIM IN DRESSES WHEN HE WAS LITTLE

HE WEARS PINK

[fuzzy-robot]

Does it really need to be explicitly stated why a lot of misgendering/gendercanons where people choose to swap a character’s canon gender from male to female or vice versa based on physical traits/presentation and run with it is gross and transphobic? [Regardless of whether the person doing it is cis or trans?]

Do I gotta explicitly lay out why it’s gross to say a male character is actually a lady because he’s got thick thighs, or he’s got shapely legs, or wide hips or plump lips or a small waist or notable eyelashes, etc? Or even because he’s the target of misdirected misogyny or misdirected transmisogyny?... Do I gotta go into how those are the exact reasons I’m misgendered from the second I take one step out the door, and the exact same things I’m targeted with on a daily basis? Do I gotta lay it out that swapping a character’s gender/pronouns from “he” to “she” like this is an exact parallel of how absolutely nobody outside of my immediate friendgroup doesn’t do the exact same thing to me every goddamn day of my life?

Honestly the way people choose to justify it when they’re called out is what takes it from Questionable to straight-up Gross. If your response is along the lines of “this is the reading that makes me the most comfortable, but I’ll make sure to 1. think about the motivations behind my actions and 2. tag it to make sure nobody gets hurt so we can all have a good time,” then that’s at least being honest and conscientious and keeping others’ safety in mind. 

But what I’ve seen more often than not is this vehement denial that absolutely anything about this could be even slightly problematic how dare you, and then this additional immediate response to try and pin the blame on the person who brings it up? Either in the form of “you just don’t want there to be more female representation you enormous misogynist,” or “excuse me I’M trans, trans people are by definition incapable of perpetuating transphobia except for you, you massive transphobe” and honestly that has gotten old and tired as fuck. There’s also the “uhm you can’t ‘misgender’ a fictional character, they’re fake and this has absolutely no effects on the real world or real people, everyone is an island and all actions exist in a vacuum” which is just.. christ on a cracker, keep telling yourself that.

I’m not really sure how to end this post. I don’t really even know how to sum up my point, so how about 1. could you not, or at least, 2. could you at least put some thought into your actions, their possible effects on people, and not try and immediately make it the fault of the person pointing shit out?

Seeing this repeated a hundred times over just makes me so, so tired, and seeing actual people in the trans community violently defending why this is 100% Not Even Hypothetically Problematic You Actual Monster is even more draining and hurtful and just... pls don’t