Can you drop the link to the article your cousin used? Thank uuu in advance
https://aud.ac.in/uploads/1/admission/admissions2016/Anne%20Fausto%20Sterling,%20The%20Five%20Sexes%20reading%20for%20gender%20studies%20ma%202016.pdf
Be forewarned, this article is thirty years old. There author uses problematic language (hermaphrodite, she/her, etc.). There is a distasteful joke about different forms of intersex people going by shortened versions of the word hermaphrodite (ferm, herm, merm). The PDF above also includes comments and reactions to the article, and some of those comments are outright cruel and intersexist.
However, the article ends with the following paragraph:
"Still, the nuances of socialization among intersexuals cry out for more sophisticated analysis. Clearly, before my vision of sexual multiplicity can be realized, the first openly intersexual children and their parents will have to be brave pioneers who will bear the brunt of society's growing pains. But in the long view--though it could take generations to achieve--the prize might be a society in which sexuality is something to be celebrated for its subtleties and not something to be feared or ridiculed." - Anne Fausto-Sterling
I'm not intersex. I'm pretty sure that I'm not trans. I'm a likely-cis queer woman. I don't want to speak over any intersex and/or trans activists, so if anyone has any comments or thoughts, I'd love to hear them. I'm open to learning if there's more to this than presented.
