#gendery things

[monotonous-minutia]

can my gender just be trouser role I so much feel like a girl who's a boy who's actually a nonbinary lesbian

[bi-gray]

So I was talking to @vagaybond about this, but I don’t know if I *was* a girl and my gender shifted somewhere, or if I was always genderqueer and just didn’t know that was an option? It’s really hard to determine these things in retrospect.

[deathandcommas]

i got married this month and one thing i didn’t anticipate is how weird and wrong it feels to be called ‘mrs’

[eponym]

i’m like a soy boy but a girl

[soft-demon-bitch]

I might slowly come back out of the closet in terms of being genderqueer. I’m adding the identity to my profile for now as I test the waters once more. I let myself get shamed out of it a few years ago, but like it’s just who I am. I’m tired of being ashamed of it. I probably still won’t be super out in front of most people, but I don’t want to hide it from everyone any more. At least I’m gonna be out to my friends I think.

So that’s what’s up. Gender is confusing, but this is a recurring feeling and I was always worried about not being nb enough to claim the title, but thanks to the anti-truscum people I feel like I can just... be what I feel I am.

[spookysehlat]

Okay but if I got on t I could sing judas priest better and isn't that what's important in life?

[bi-gray]

I find it...interesting...how there’s this issue with positivity posts infantilizing trans men/transmasculine people on Tumblr, but the alternatives posited are usually “big, rough, muscular, super masculine”—as if that were the only way to count as an adult man.

I think that says a lot about where the bar is set for acceptance. There’s no acknowledgement that trans guys and other transmasculine individuals come in the full range of shapes, sizes, and personalities as any other diverse group of people. Adulthood does not and should not have to mean hyper-conformity to binary gender roles.

On a personal level, I think this (not the Tumblr posts, but the mindset they spring from) is a major reason why I still have trouble working out my relationship to maleness or masculinity. It feels like there’s no room for nuance there.

[spookysehlat]

I’m so mad that endometrial ablation isn’t considered a gender dysphoria relieving surgery.  istg.  everyone just expects you to get a hysterectomy if you have dysphoria about those parts which means you have to be sterilized and get a major support structure removed from your pelvic region and it’s a massive fucking surgery that lays you up in bed for at least a week.

but endometrial ablation exists.  it doesn’t even require incisions.  they go through the hole that already exists and then fry the hell out of what makes period blood.  nothing’s removed, it’s an out-patient procedure, and it’s wayyy cheaper.  this is the thing I ultimately want for trans-related surgeries and I’ll probs never get it because it’s only approved by insurance for people who have incredibly heavy periods.  so even if trans surgeries continue to be covered by insurance and I manage to get health insurance, I’d probs still have to pay out of pocket. sooo I’m gonna be stuck trying to get an IUD.