I have not always been the luckiest guy in the world. In fact, I have been depressed several times. Some people are naturally happy, while others I have been working hard for it. I am happy to say that I am pretty darn happy these days! I would say I am a success story, and my struggle has led me to become an expert in the subject. Most people think happiness comes from certain conditions are met. For example, they believe that they will be happy when they find their soul mate and have the relationship story, or they think happiness will find them when they are rich and no longer have to work for a living. Maybe their standards are so high, and they all think it would take to be happy is a bit more money, or a slightly sexier girlfriend / boyfriend, or a bit more free time, or a fun job. Maybe they'll be happy when they finally own their own homes, start their own business, or get a new car. Perhaps they are waiting for retirement to be happy. Then there are those who think happiness comes when they are more spiritually enlightened, or they have healed enough from his childhood emotional wounds. Maybe they'll be happy when their health problems have been resolved, or they weigh what they used to weigh in high school. Maybe they'll be happy when they get married, or after they divorced. Do any of these sound familiar? Think about it. If you are not happy now, you probably have some ideas in my head about what it would take to be happy. Am I right or am I right? I want to expose this lie for what it is. LUCK is not from the outside! It is not from the conditions. It happens when you stop lying to yourself that something must be different than it already is. It comes from the inside. It is your natural state, and it occurs when you let it happen. It is something you generate recognition, radiate, express and share, not something you acquire, possess or receive. This quote says it so delicious: "Happiness can grow in any soil, live in one location, it defies the environment it comes from within, it is the revelation of deep inner life as light and heat proclaim the sun .. they radiate happiness consists not of having, but to be. not for holding, but to enjoy it is the warm glow of a heart at peace with its own Happiness is the soul's joy in the possession of intangible Happiness is paradoxical ... because it can coexist with trial, sorrow and poverty. There is joy in the heart, rising superior to all conditions. "- William George Jordan Many of us have been taught mainly by example, to be happy for no reason was unproductive. People showed us by example that it is better to be unhappy, dissatisfied and unhappy to motivate yourself to work hard to change your situation. The fear is that if you let yourself be happy, you can become lazy and self indulgent. Sausages! You can be happy and motivated at the same time, even ambitious. Misery can be a powerful force, but it is unsustainable. After being miserable and productive for a while you start looking for distractions just to get some temporary relief and feel good for a while, and this can lead to abuse. To be happy for any reason you are not in opposition to have goals, dreams, desires and ambitions. The future that you live in a major impact on the quality of your present moment. If the future we live in is a future of exciting possibilities, your present moment to be rich in energy, meaning and purpose. Conversely, if you do not consciously design the future we live in, you'll probably fill this void by thinking about your future is a different version of your past. It may be acceptable to you, but is it exciting? Is it getting you out of bed in the morning and fill your cells with energy to live? So keep your goals and dreams, and continue to work for them, but drop any idea that you can not be happy until you achieve them. Feeling sad, angry, annoyed, bored, scared, and alone is okay too. Let's face it. Life is a rollercoaster. Learn to enjoy the ride. Do not go wrong if you are not satisfied at any given time or day, or stretch of days. You are human. Accept yourself and your current state of mind is important to go to the next experience. What you resist persists. If you numb your pain, you become numb to the joy too. On the other hand, if you allow yourself to feel the painful moments without resistance, you will go through them quickly, and you will feel happy moments in life more complete. Just do not become a pain junky, home of the drama, in order to know life through your suffering. Tips and tricks to be happy Gratitude: This is my number one success tip. Thank. Give thanks for everything you can think of to be thankful for, and do so frequently and regularly as you can remember. Do it quietly to yourself, but be sure to express it out loud too. Stop searching and start finding: Some people are so identified with being a seeker that they are stuck in that mode of being. It almost becomes their identity - to seek enlightenment, seeking truth, seeking money, seeking the next high, seeking answers, seeking happiness, looking for anything. If you become a seeker of any part of your life, just stop, and become a "finder" instead. Begin to identify and recognize all the great stuff you find every day. Exercise: Our bodies were made for exercise. They evolved that way for millions of years. If you do not exercise you disrespect the laws of nature and the miracle of your body. On the other hand, exercise is one of the best cures for depression, with all its many advantages such as increased sales, positive hormone generation, stress release, etc. Find some way to exercise that you enjoy and you get more joy out of it. Laughter: Hang out with funny people. Watch funny movies. Do yourself and others laugh. Need I say more? It is what it is: Most people live their lives in some sort of argument with reality. They think things should be different than they are. Favorite things should be different: other, themselves, circumstances, life itself, our political leaders, the weather, their mood that day, their parents, their children, is how someone behaves, you name it. This is the cause of suffering. If you want to learn to be at peace with what is, read the book "Loving What Is" by Bryon Katie. Learn to recognize Enough study: Lack is a perspective that many people have been permanently adopted. There are what they are wearing sunglasses scarcity and therefore probably never see no matter how much it is. Not enough time, not enough love, not enough energy, not enough fun, not enough sex, not enough money, you name it - is not enough. Recognizing "enough" is a choice, a skill, a habit, and a new way of seeing things. Start looking for enough and you'll find it, and sure feels good! Revel in Satisfaction: Learn to slow down and enjoy the moment. I have noticed that many people have an unconscious limit to how much pleasure they will allow themselves to experience. They hit their limit and quickly move on to the next experience. If you enjoy something, slow down, sink into it, let yourself enjoy it even more. You can keep expanding your ability to feel happiness, joy, pleasure, love, ecstasy, gratitude, contentment and peace. Make it your practice. Learn to recognize Happiness: Happiness is basically to feel good. There are endless variations on feeling good. Here are some: laughter, gratitude, peace, satisfaction, warmth, love, generosity of spirit, passion, purpose, communication, creativity, release, aliveness, joy, playfulness, contentment, centered, complete, giddy, triumphant. Your body is a finely tuned instrument can experience the great symphony of life's subtle emotions. Happy Moments: Even the happiest people in the world are only happy sometimes. Happiness arises in happy moments. The trick is to recognize when you have a happy moment. Tags can help you appreciate it more and even expand it. Let the ambitious target to be happy all the time and just work on getting more happy moments. If you are depressed and you have just a happy moment all day, celebrate it! Then begin to create the next. Be a happy person, a happy moment in time. The Happiness Challenge WARNING: Take 5 minutes to do this work could result in you being happier for the rest of your life. Step 1: Make a list of everything you think would make you happy. Be sure to include some great long-term goals. Even things that you would like to get rid of or change to be happier. Step 2: Now recognize and explain that you do not need any of these things to be happy. In fact, you can be really happy without any of them. Step 3: Make a commitment to yourself that you will never allow any of the things on your list to be the reason you are not satisfied. Step 4: Stop waiting for something to be happy. Day to day, moment by moment, realize that happiness is what you are, and let it expand and radiate out from your center. Be happy for no reason.