#gnc tag

[unrespectability]

Basically if you never got weird looks from other women in single as well as mixed sex spaces or went through the public humiliation of someone trying to guess your sex / be audibly flabbergasted at recognizing you as female, i think you have not earned the right to say "just be gnc!" to trans-identifying women at all bc there is nothing "just" about that

[steal-this-album]

i love you lesbian boyfriends i love you malewives i love you drag kings i love you drag queens i love you crossdressers i love you transmasc women i love you transfem men i love you beards and makeup i love you boygirls and menwomen i love you gender nonconformity

[itsyagender]

[lil-cherubb]

Im masculine in the way a woman wearing a dress is masculine. That's it that's the line. Idk how to explain it further

I genuinely don't know how else to phrase it I just feel such masculine euphoria in dressing in what is perceived as feminine clothing

[soundnotnoise]

straight cis GNC men belong in queer spaces more than cis gay transphobes and TERFs

There is actually is a cost to unabashedly supporting queer people and looking queer and dismantling the hetero patriarchy while being cis het. Yes it's not the same as actually being queer but homophobic transphobic loser don't care most of the time to check if you are ActUally queer. If you are not dressed normal you will get hurt. These folks will fight by our side and defend us before boring conformist gays.

[yrbutchgf]

what are soft butch and hard femme? i really like the aesthetics but i know that's not what butch/femme is about in its whole so i wonder if those descriptors are made up about looks or if they actually come from the culture and i know that butch/femme isn't a sliding scale of masculinity and femininity but sometimes its hard to feel that i can be femme bc i like alt styles and am not hyperfeminine so the so called hard femme label feels like it fits idk

soft butch is its own can of worms -- suffice it to say many butches, including me, dislike the term soft butch for the implications it casts on butches who don't identify themselves as "soft." there's a LOT to talk about there, though, so honestly i'll save that for another post, if anyone's interested in hearing about it. hard femme, on the other hand, is a different story!

while femme and butch are not solely aesthetic descriptors, sometimes the variants you see of the terms, like hard femme especially, can be very aesthetic-focused, even though they are from the culture themselves! from what i've run into, hard femme is exactly the kind of thing you're describing -- rough and tumble femmes who adopt alt, punkish and gnc fashion and may come off as somewhat of tomboys, but who still base themselves steadfastly in femmeness. i asked about hard femme identity in the butch/femme discord i'm in, and one hard femme, iggy (19, she/he/they), had this to say on the subject:

just note its my personal opinion/the meaning ive found in the term, i havent done a ton of research so its not the objective definition or anything lol.

For me at least its about embracing things that arent traditionally feminine while still keeping ur feminine identity. Not to say other fems have to be traditional/conformist, we're just different types of femininity. So Im not a gentle person, Im not a nurturing person, Im not a soft and tender person. I was a tomboy growing up so what someone said earlier about tomboy fem resonates too. All these things and more Im having trouble describing make me feel like i couldnt traditionally be feminine/a woman. But hard fem feels like it gives me space to be all that and still present and relate to others how I like. Its almost like having a 'butch' personality but preferring fem presentation? Thats the best way i can describe it, like yes theres an aesthetic part but its a reflection of a deeper energy.

I'm not sure about the terms coinage or if theres a more official definition. Afaik it was actually in reaction to soft butch, seeing it as being insulting to other butches and almost making butch more palatable to people outside the community. And we said ok fuck you we're hard fem. I personally think anti-assimilationist politics are another important part of hard femme. It generally refuses to be confined or made to conform.

I have more to say bc its like my whole identity but i gotta get to work so i hope that essay is enough lmfao

he also said that vander von odd often calls themself a hard femme. here's a pic of vampira/maila nurmi, another hard femme, as well as a pic of kay kaos @revoltpunx on ig, which several people in the server identified as a great example of hard femme presentation:

so yeah, hard femme means pretty much exactly what you identified it as :) to me, it sounds like you probably are a hard femme, and if you are, welcome to a long and storied history of kickass femmes that absolutely wreck house!

[momentaryblues]

petition to have this as the official gay flag instead??

credits to reveledego

[tzov]

tfw your body hair is invisibly blonde so shaving seems extra pointless (this is fully grown)