#gncwlm

[finnu1223]

trope that annoys the everliving shit out of me:

when you have a tomboy character that predominantly wears boy clothes- and then changes up and wears a big fancy dress and makeup for prom/the big formal event

put her in a suit you cowards

[virago-sensuality]

when he asks for cuddles by snuggling up to you all cute and nestling his face into your neck, and so you hold him securely and give him a bunch of little kisses over the top of his head, and he makes cute little sounds after each one and does those cute little feet kicks because he KNOWS it’s your weakness and you won’t be able to hold back from pulling him closer to you and holding him even tighter and

[vili-vden]

Muscle mommy? You misunderstood. She's the muscle, he's the mommy.

[finnu1223]

something wild about watching the "men and women are not two different species, individuals should get to choose which gender roles they follow" feminism come back it fills me with hope and joy

for years i was told by feminists that my gender nonconformity, which i started showing at 3 years old, was me "emulating the patriarchy" out of internalized misogyny

at the same time, i was constantly told by both men and women that i was worthless and ugly because i wore mens clothes, because i didnt shave my legs, because i didnt wear makeup or style my hair like a girl or sit with my knees together or act demure and soft and gentle

anyway, "divine femininity" needs to die

[finnu1223]

i think, as a virago, i will always pledge my allegiance to the lesbians

to the butch lesbian literature that helped me realize i wasnt some freak of nature

to the femme lesbians who were the first to tell me that i was something handsome, that my hair and muscles and clothes didnt make me some hideous monster

to all the lesbians that taught me i didnt have to hate myself for defying societal expectations

i salute you, and will forever be in your debt. your survival is and has always been my survival

[finnu1223]

i think in terms of the rr vs hetgnc discourse

inverting gender roles, especially to the extreme, is discriminated against in society. women who have high sex drives, short men, 100s of things outside of presentation- 100s of things that arent your clothes

i say this because i have failed so horribly at most feminine gender roles that even when i presented feminine, when i tried to fit the mold, everyone could see through it anyway. my body didnt fit the standards expected of me, neither did my soul or whatever youd call it. i chose to present how i wanted to bc hiding still led to constant abuse and ostracization- both of which got worse when i started being honest about who i was, but i at least felt comfortable in my own skin

i will say that external presentation, especially being visibly gender anti conforming, has a bigger impact on material resources and how vulnerable you are to being targeted by structural systems of power

however, we're all at different points in our journey. this community should be welcoming to everyone who genuinely fits the definition, even if they cant dress the way they want. i was lucky enough not to be kicked out of my home and denied housing for who i am, and others may not be so lucky

however if anyone tries to claim that princess peach x mario is a virago/mollis couple i will tear you apart like a pack of wolves. it might fit the basic definition of rr but it is not the same as what this community is trying to do

[finnu1223]

looks like the trfs found us. i was afraid this would happen

stay strong soldiers

[finnu1223]

hey if any other viragos are worried theyre not masculine enough;

the majority of boys and men your age have learned the misogyny of boomers but dont know how to fix their car

they dont know basic maintenance and repair

they dont go to the gym or learn to fight

they dont read or watch anything other than manga and hentai

they dont even drink beer they vape and drink buzzballs

this is not to invalidate anyone who does or doesnt do all of these things, it isnt a litmus test for who is masculine and who is feminine (tho i do think its specifically funny when men claim they want a tradwife and wont even take the trash out)

but if you do something as small as pushups in your room or fix a squeaky cupboard or learn how to check your own oil, youre already doing masculinity better than most gen z men

if you open doors and pull out chairs and buy flowers for your partner, if you remember birthdays and anniversaries and favorite candy, youre already doing masculinity better than most gen z men