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[gracieparkerr]

gracie’s irondad rec masterlist <3

this is a list compiled of my fave fics and writers since i've joined the irondad fandom in 2017. i have tried to link and tag as many of the creators as possible, but if i miss any, let me know so i can add them! i highly recommend checking out the authors behind all of these fics, because there are so many gems in here that i couldn't fit.

if, for some reason, any of writers end up finding this post, here is a message for you in particular:

thank you so much for all the passion and love and light you've put into this fandom. all of these works are so dear to my heart and have inspired me in ways i genuinely can't even express. you created this little space of internet and marvel culture that has been my safe haven through some really difficult times, and i'm eternally grateful. thank you, thank you, thank you.

(i will also note that if any of you wonderful, terrific people say hi, i might weep or throw up or something. i truly do mean it when i say you guys have been incredible inspirations to me)

losingmymindtonight (@losingmymindtonight )

Hush (For It Is Dark)

post-endgame (non-compliant), good father tony stark, post-traumatic stress disorder, insomnia, tony stark and his routines, tired peter parker, hurt/comfort, fluff

5 Times Peter Sleepwalked And The 1 Time He Pretended He Did

post infinity war (non-compliant), sleepwalking, stressed father figure tony stark, protective tony stark, compound movie nights, domestic fluff, injured peter parker, nightmares

Webcams and Webshooters

youtube videos, social media, peter’s intern youtube channel, legal drama, press and tabloids, paparazzi, kidnapping, hurt/comfort, torture, stressed father figure tony stark, protective tony stark

That Which Binds Us

alternate universe (star wars), the clone wars, padawan peter parker, jedi tony stark, jedi peter parker, jedi attachment, protective tony stark

And You'll Blow Us All Away

minor character death (aunt may), adoption, grief/mourning, hurt/comfort, stressed father figure tony stark, good father tony stark, kidnapping, torture, peter parker whump, angst with a happy ending

I Will Soften Every Edge

biological warfare (joke), brain chemistry and neurology, friday (ai), fluff, banter, good father tony stark, everything is nice and nothing hurts

iron_spider:

brighten up, sunshine

rhodey pov, ironbro friendship, comical misunderstandings, stressed father figure tony stark, everything is nice and nothing hurts

yes, he's very special

post-endgame (non-compliant), kidnapping, ironbro friendship, stressed father figure tony stark, banter, bamf peter parker, everything is nice and nothing hurts

stark robotics and technology conference

homecoming age!!, acting intern peter parker, company outings, protective peter parker

and stay out!

protective tony stark, kidnapping, loopy peter parker, silly ramblings, stressed father figure tony stark, everything is nice and nothing hurts

despite the yelling

patrol mishaps, silly peter parker, banter, stressed father figure tony stark, everything is nice and nothing hurts

5 times Peter is stuck with Tony

post infinity war (non-compliant), stressed father figure tony stark, banter, comically unfortunate circumstances 

spider-shaped and dad-shaped

post-far from home (non-compliant), drunk peter parker, stressed father figure tony stark, fluff, banter, high-school parties, underage drinking, everything is nice and nothing hurts

topsy turvy

patrol mishaps, buried-alive, peter parker being unserious as always, stressed father figure tony stark, protective tony stark 

delete that footage

post endgame (non-compliant), comically unfortunate circumstances, patrol mishaps, stressed father figure tony stark, peter parker being a little shit, karen’s suit footage

seekrest (@seek--rest ):

5 Times Peter Didn’t Need Tony’s Help 

hurt/comfort, pre-infinity war, bamf peter parker, protective tony stark

every new beginning (comes from some other beginning's end)

kidnapped peter parker, whump, protective tony stark, pre-infinity war

Hold On (I Still Need You)

post-endgame (non-compliant), car crashes, hurt/comfort, tony stark acting as a father figure

fotibrit (@fotibrit):

We're not trying to re-invent the backpack here (Mark 1-9)

homecoming age, patrol mishaps, loving to the point of invention, fluff, tony stark lab days, stressed father figure tony stark

same old regrets

failing to save someone, hurt/comfort, implied s/h (pinching), peter parker whump, stressed father figure tony stark, protective tony stark, blood and canon-typical injury 

eyes to the sky

drunk peter parker, underage drinking, hurt/comfort, stressed father figure tony stark, protective tony stark, references to tony stark’s substance abuse 

TheOceanIsMyInkwell ( @theoceanismyinkwell ):

Te Amo and All That Jazz

post infinity-war (non-compliant), phone calls, awkward father-son dynamic, peter parker being a little shit, fluff, banter, familial declarations of love 

The Eighty-Seventh Folder in FRIDAY's Blackmail Footage of Peter Parker

may-tony coparenting team, domestic fluff, loopy peter parker, patrol mishaps, banter, everything is nice and nothing hurts

I Promise You It's Worth It

college professor tony stark, alternate universe (no powers), college-age peter parker, trans peter parker, struggles with grief, hurt/comfort, father figure tony stark

The Patrick Carmichael Series

Should’ve Stuck with Bed, Bath & Beyond by whumphoarder (@whumphoarder )

patrick the nurse, outsider pov, sick peter parker, fainting, stressed father figure tony stark, emergency contact tony stark, banter, humour

Of All the Nurses’ Offices in All the High Schools... by sahiya

patrick the nurse, outsider pov, patrol mishaps, dislocations, stressed father figure tony stark, humour, hurt/comfort, good kid peter parker

Ultimate School Pick-Up by coconutknightshade , whumphoarder

patrick the nurse, sick peter parker, crack treated seriously, humour, banter, emergency contact tony stark, patrol mishaps

everything else:

Five Time Faculty Members Had to Call Peter's Emergency Contact + One Time He Shows Up Anyway by kingdomfaraway

homecoming age, outsider pov, anxiety, panic attacks, stressed father figure tony stark, emergency contact tony stark, may-tony coparenting team

5 times Midtown School of Science and Technology interrupts Tony's day + 1 time he interrupts theirs by Grace_d ( @reachingforaspark )

homecoming age, banter, phone calls, stressed father future tony stark, emergency contact tony stark, anxiety, panic attacks, tony stark is a busy guy, may-tony coparenting team

È La Loro Cosa by kimchi_writes (@lotusarts)

tony and peter’s non-colloquial language, polyglot tony stark, polyglot peter parker, geniuses doing genius things, banter, silly antics 

and when you get there, is it perfect? by hailingstars (@hailing-stars)

homeless peter parker, pickpocket peter parker, tony stark and his habit of adopting strays, homecoming age (non-compliant), found family, secret identities 

Switch in Habit by jelly_pies (@jelly-pies)

post endgame (non-compliant), infamous irondad hair ruffles, peter parker growing up, platonic cuddling, fluff and angst, good father tony stark

MTBI by thwip--thwip

homecoming age, concussions, sensory overload, stressed father figure tony stark, protective tony stark, peter parker whump

Gone Kid by Jen27ny (@jen27ny)

secret identity, blood and injury, hurt/comfort, peter parker whump, tony stark has a heart, canon-divergence, homecoming age

occupational hazard by imoticon

banter, patrol mishaps, stinky the garbage baby!!!!, dramatic tony stark, peter ignoring his various medical maladies, sick fic (supposedly), stressed father figure tony stark

To Be Better by autumdragon

adult peter parker, no way home compliant, heavy angst, good father tony stark, sui thoughts and s/h, slow healing process, touch starvation, stressed father figure tony stark, angst with a happy ending 

Growing Pains by Scarlet_Ribbons (@silk-scarlet-ribbons)

canon divergence, homecoming age, identity reveal, protective avengers, peter parker whump, kidnapping, panic attacks, blood and injury, stressed father figure tony stark

If You're Going Through Hell, Keep on Going by baloobird

unfinished, alternate universe (no powers), therapist tony stark, post traumatic stress disorder, rape recovery, post-skip westcott, kid peter parker, whump, anxiety attacks, panic attacks 

The Simple Life by niniblack (@niniblack)

alternate universe (the game plan film), post civil war (non-compliant), kid peter parker, peter parker is tony’s biological child, referenced alcoholism, pepperony getting back together, stressed father figure tony stark

a drunken ode to peter parker by orphan_account

ironbro friendship, uncle rhodey, alcohol, stressed father figure tony stark, drunken rambling, banter, protective tony stark

tony stark’s long-lost lizard baby by robinbuckley

homecoming age, the sokovia accords, texting, banter, dramatic tony stark, equally as dramatic peter parker, let’s play 8-ball!

5 Times a Villain Was Nice to Peter by brittanyisart, censored, CyberSleuthCat, GreenPencil, LilacsAndLilies, and Maya_Di_Angelo

villains, protective new york city, fluff and humour, non-compliant, electro, mysterio, venom, scorpion, vulture, kraven the hunter

Damaged At Best (Like You've Already Figured Out) by JolinarJackson (@jolinarjackson)

post civil war (non-compliant), sokovia accords, avengers fallout, secret identity, peter parker is tony’s biological child, tony stark’s alcoholism

the sky collapsed but the stars remain by ciaconnaa (@ciaconnaa)

post infinity war (non-compliant), alternate universe, college age, tony stark & harley keener, angst, good father tony stark, grief/mourning

How We've Changed by ambivalentangst (@ambivalentmarvel)

time-travel, bamf peter parker, protective peter parker, adult peter parker, apeshit peter parker!!!

the kids are alright by turtle_bean

homecoming age, outsider pov, acadec team, crack, humour, identity reveal, good father tony stark, peter parker is a dumbass, fluff

[gracieparkerr]

have you seen the final bnd trailer? if so, what are your thoughts?

ok so actually i have a sick disease where i can’t watch any trailers of marvel movies anymore because i start twitching like a rabid dog that needs to be euthanized. like i get so hyperactive so fast that it ends up stressing me out the entire day. don’t know what this disease is called but it troubles me

tldr: no i have been avoiding new content bc i am insane. everything i see is against my will

[gracieparkerr]

What’s your favorite thing to write Irondad or otherwise?

- Curious Anon

hurt/comfort 🥹 specifically with whump peter, and tony trying to balance between acting like he doesn’t even care too much/wanting to scoop peter up and fix all his problems so he’s always gonna be okay forever. so instead tony ends up with awkward hovering hands and some poorly made jokes and sweat pouring down his face. and peter of course, shaking from blood loss and the paranoia is starting to kick in, but he’s pretending he’s actually super fine, he’s great actually. so he attempts to banter back with tony regardless. yeah. I like writing that

[gracieparkerr]

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am i in danger. who is this

[gracieparkerr]

If you get this, answer w/ three random facts about yourself and send it to the last 7 blogs in your notifs. Anon or not, doesn't matter, let's get to know the person behind the blog!

(p.s. hello, my sometimes-nemesis :3)

i have an annotated copy of the spider-man: homecoming script

i am allergic to carrots

i’m currently level 1351 on tetris

[gracieparkerr]

do you think tony would be adhd or autism ( possibly both ) a as a kid but howard didnt really care to check it out so he didnt send him to a psychiatrist or test him for it so tony grew up thinking the things he did was what everyone else did so steve or pepper or whoever his wife is would be like

'tony do you have adhd'

and he would deny it so much or no

I think tony stark was taught to mask at such a young age that he genuinely doesn’t deign an official diagnosis as necessary. so many behaviours of his are listed off as “quirks” that nobody bothered to look into, rather than symptoms, because he purposely swerves them into a different direction. he has a lot of control over his image.

tony’s carelessness toward his company and general blasé attitude towards specific tasks people tell him to do could just as easily be a nasty combination of rejection dysphoria, oppositional defiance, lack of motivation, executive dysfunction, or just simply a lack of interest— and he never had to bother with accountability for that because he could hire people to do things for him. that’s why he prefers pep being the ceo. that’s not what he’s good at, and he knows it.

he spends most of his time in the world hyperfixating on things that keep his hands and brain busy. he spends hours and hours in his garage, he often neglects his own physical needs (sleep/bladder/hunger) in favour of whatever his brain has decided the more important task in the moment. i’m sure a lot of these things are only exacerbated by external factors, like his ptsd-driven paranoia keeping him awake and wanting to look for more problems to solve via invention, or perhaps self-medicating for a large portion of his life with alcohol or other substances when alcoholism already ran in his family.

i think if anybody did ask him if he had adhd, his answer would be something along the lines of: “probably. who cares?”

he’s smart. smarter than the average joe. he knows that. counts on it, even. and his ability to focus really hard on the things he deems important (inventing missiles, upgraded weapons; and then inventing armor, defensive systems, relief programs) has only made him a benefit to other people, which is all that matters to him at the end of the day.

[gracieparkerr]

Hey sorry for bothering you, but I really like your writing, and it’s really good. Feel free to ignore this, I know this isn’t the type of thing you normally do, but I think the way you do it is really good.

Could you possibly give me some tips on how to write an unreliable narrator? Like how in “once bitten twice shy” We’re seeing through Peter’s eyes, and so details like “Ben” talking to him, or when he’s on the phone and starts referring to tony as phone (or how even before that he didn’t realize it was Tony) aren’t accurate to what’s really going on?

I’m trying to do something similar in my own fic, but can’t get the incorrect details to be both clear they’re incorrect, and clear what’s actually going on without saying exactly what’s going on.

Sorry for rambling I know you’re probably busy, and get a lot of asks.

- anon

anon, firstly--

THANK YOU. please never ever feel as though you are bothering me about writing questions. i love writing. i love talking about writing! the processes, the technicalities, this is all my favourite stuff in the world. seeing this in my asks was genuinely so exciting.

(additionally, i hardly ever get asks about my writing process and related questions! i wish i did. i would love to talk about it! so thank you thank you thank you for leaving one!)

okay. tips for unreliable narrators. i'll use the example that you gave (one bitten, twice shy) to do a breakdown of the process. apologies in advance if this post ends up being really long and boring. i wasn't kidding, i love talking about this stuff!!!

tip #1: understand your narrator.

so, this fic is a sickfic. why is peter an unreliable narrator? peter is an unreliable narrator in this fic because he's got a crazy high fever, and lucidity is something that comes and goes. okay. first question down.

tip #2: understand your scenario.

now we get to set up the environment. this is where you get to do the actual writing part. what is the scenario? the scenario is peter parker is sick, at home. but he must be sick enough where the reader has to question his reliability, and we do that in a few different ways here:

emphasis on exaggerated action. it's ridiculous to drink from a comically-large sized glass. peter admits that he's doing this because he doesn't want to keep getting up, which implies that he's having a hard time caring for himself and making shortcuts to avoid doing so as frequently.

unorthodox usage of/lack of coherency with ordinary constructs. peter can't tell the time. his brain is so melted with fever, and instead of just saying "yeah, his fever was really high", i'm instead describing how he can't focus on the time of day. using the measurement of tv show episodes, which people generally understand the length of, helps people understand just how dazed he is. it also paints good imagery imo. my personal experience being sick features a lot of watching media and zoning out because i can't actually concentrate on it, or i'm half-asleep watching it.

tip #3: rely on figurative language/literary devices to do the heavy lifting.

okay so i'm sure this is not at ALL surprising to anybody who has read anything i've written before, but i am a massive fan of figurative language, and a bigger fan of literary devices. both of these can play a really big role in effectively writing an unreliable narrator.

in this example, i use the repetition to create a feeling of dissonance and confusion. i'm overloading one sentence with several different details to convey the same 'fuzziness' and hyperfocus that's happening in peter's head. whoever is speaking on the phone is the last thing on peter's mind.

in this example, i use an idiom to describe peter's internal processes and sensations. this is mostly just to really drive home that he isn't fully in control of his body, isn't able to function at top capacity the way he usually would. his words are slurred and don't make all that sense.

in this example, i use personification. personifying the device itself as if it's the one speaking to him only emphasizes how completely muddled peter's mental state is, in this moment. he doesn't seem particularly bothered that he can't fully recognize who he's talking to.

this is a very long post already, so i'm going to cut it short here. i really hope that it's even slightly useful. if you have any questions, or even if you want specific advice on what you're writing, please feel free to send as many anon asks as you'd like! my dms are also totally open.

[gracieparkerr]

if you were a grocery store isle, which one would you be and why

Pasta aisle bc no matter what I do I’m just same shit different style

(and because I like pasta😊)