asexual people are asexual. they experience no sexual attraction. grey & demi people are not quite asexual. they have similar yet different experiences from asexual people wrt sexual attraction. so they use different words. I never said graces & demis couldn't call themselves asexual. that's actually the opposite of what I said. I said that I don't feel that asexual (on it's own) should be used as an umbrella term that includes graces & demis because there are other inclusive terms to use.
look at it this way. people who don't experience sexual attraction have one word that means "does not experience sexual attraction". graces & demis have a few to describe their experiences. grey-a, demisexual, greysexual, asexual w/ exceptions, on the asexual spectrum, even asexual if they really want. there is also more than one term that is all inclusive. the one word that means "does not experience sexual attraction" has no need to also mean all those other things within educational contexts.
"I never said graces & demis couldn't call themselves asexual." Then what is the point of these asks? Because literally, I have said the same thing as you re: labels and what they mean, BUT I am saying grays and demis can call themself asexual if they want. You seem to be arguing that this isn't semantically correct when it is. Demis and grays have periods where they do not feel sexual attraction. That is asexuality. The definition of asexuality is "not feeling sexual attraction". That is open ended. It doesn't say "never ever feels sexual attraction". It just says "doesn't feel sexual attraction". We have words like demi and gray in order to have more explanatory labels, yes.
And I can see where it may be easier for demis and grays, when coming out, to simplify and then add details later along the way. Demis and grays have a unique experience among asexuals but this doesn't disqualify them from identifying as asexual. That is all I am saying.
I am a part of the queer community, but I am also queer. Demis and grays are a part of the asexual community, and they are also asexual. It's not the same asexual as you (I assume?) or I, but it is asexuality. That is all I am saying. I know the words are more specific, but that doesn't make them not asexual.