Most of the time, it is great to have a large group of friends. You will always have someone to hang out with and group activities, in general, appear to be more fun and more balanced. The problems arise when the group starts to become incestuous…to the point of cheating. Jen and David, one of the couples in the group, have been dating for a few years now. But, for the past six months, Jen has been sleeping with Owen, David’s best friend. As the story goes, Owen met a girl and told Jen that it was time to end the affair. Jen, however, didn’t want to. Upset with Owen, she decided that she would be the “first” to tell David….except she decided to tell her own version of the truth. Jen told him that it had only happened once, a few months ago. That is when things got awkward. David wasn’t talking to Owen and refused to be in the same room with him which, as you can guess, didn’t really help the group dynamic. The group (minus Owen) had breakfast a few weeks ago and you could cut the tension with a knife. It was just awful sitting around the same table with Jen, knowing full well what happened when David didn’t. Once the couple left, the remaining members of the group decided to plan an intervention and to confront David with the truth. I mean, think about it. If you were in David’s shoes, you would want to know. And if you found out later that your friends knew and didn’t say anything…Anyway, the intervention didn’t really happen. All the guys chickened out and it came down to one friend breaking the news the David. He admitted to having his suspicions and he said that it would be really hard to trust her again no matter how much he loved her. That brings us to today. David decided to confront Jen with the truth and what happened between them, we may never know. What I do know is that they are staying together…which is frustrating for everyone involved.
Maybe my ex-boyfriend made me extra-sensitive, but I personally believe that cheating in a relationship is simply unforgivable Time did allow me to forgive what he had done but I will never have any type of relationship with him again. It may have been a mistake, but that mistake erased any chance of trust in our relationship. What I went through was awful but it wasn’t nearly as bad as what David went through. And yet, David is sticking by Jen’s side. I guess I just don’t understand it. She cheated on him with his best friend for six months. Who does that? I don’t think I’ll ever understand David’s decision to stay with Jen. Who knows, maybe she won’t cheat again. Or maybe, David is just setting himself up to be a doormat for the rest of his life. I guess only time will tell.