Why Deep People Often Feel Alone & Misunderstood (What They Can Do About It)
Do you often feel alone and misunderstood by other people?
Believe me, you are not the only one who feels this way. There are many people out there who are misunderstood and even underestimated by others because of certain personality traits. Paradoxically, these individuals are usually much more talented, intelligent and deep than those who reject them. Still, being uninterested in popular things along with being too reserved and introspective may make you appear a sort of freak to the mediocre minds.
It’s all because human beings tend to be cautious and judgmental towards those who live, think and behave differently. So if you don’t share the interests and beliefs of the majority, you will probably face misunderstanding and rejection at some point in your life.
Some may judge you for being too quiet, unfriendly or aloof; others may believe that you are a weirdo because you are passionate about things they cannot understand. It’s not uncommon when even your close ones, such as your parents or your partner, seem to misinterpret your lifestyle and underestimate your passions. No need to say that this can be much more painful than the lack of understanding from people you are not so close to.
So what can you do when you feel alone and misunderstood?
1. Accept the fact that deep people rarely have the privilege to be truly understood by others
Sometimes, the best way to stop worrying about being misunderstood is to accept it as a reality you cannot change. You need to realize that other people have a different perspective on what’s right or wrong, good or bad, interesting or boring. Unfortunately, most of us don’t even try to actually understand someone – we are too quick to judge because it’s much easier.
So instead of holding grudges and being mad at the world, accept it as a fact and move on. Remember the quote by James Blanchard Cisneros: ‘Once you awaken, you will have no interest in judging those who sleep.’
2. Seek to connect with the right people instead of trying to become more likable to the wrong ones
It’s pointless to try to connect with people who cannot recognize the depth of your mind and personality in the first place. You will inevitably face misunderstanding and, as a result, will feel alone and disappointed.
The truth is that only a deep individual can appreciate and understand another deep individual. So seek to make connections with people you resonate with and who have a similar level of consciousness.
A good start would be to find individuals who share the same interests with you. Let’s say you are passionate about literature – so why not join a local poetry club. It may be a difficult task if you are socially awkward, but the presence of interesting people who have a common ground with you will eventually make it easier to start a conversation with some of them. You will see how many deep people you will meet and, who knows, some of them may make really great friends.
3. Follow your passion no matter what others think
The only thing that truly matters is to find your purpose in life and build your lifestyle around it. While your passions and interests may be unpopular, they will eventually help you find your place in life and will fill your existence with meaning. So don’t worry if your dreams and priorities don’t seem “cool” to other people and stop seeking their approval.
I know that it’s much easier said than done, but as soon as you find yourself and your path in life, you will realize that people’s opinion is the last thing that should bother you. Basically, it’s the need to be likable and socially acceptable that makes many of us unhappy (and especially those who are different from the rest).
Finally, remember that it’s okay to feel alone and detached from the world and people from time to time. Individuals with a deep personality are particularly prone to these feelings because modern society is driven by ignorance and superficiality. So it makes perfect sense why they may feel like misfits no one really understands and appreciates. However, it’s not like this and be sure that the right people will see your personality in all its beauty and will appreciate you for what you are.
A common way in which we deal with unpleasant emotions is to suppress or ignore them. These are normal coping mechanisms our minds uses to handle situations we don’t particularly want to deal with in the present moment. When strong emotions come into our consciousness, there is often something inside of us which says, “This is going to ruin my happiness right now and I don’t like that, so I’ll just deal with it later.” The problem with this approach is that ‘later’ never comes and these emotions get pushed further down, out of our conscious awareness.
It is a basic law of the universe that energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only change form. The same law applies to our consciousness. We can suppress emotions for a very long time, and although they leave our conscious awareness, it doesn’t mean they are completely gone. This repressed emotional energy gets buried deep within the basement of our subconscious, where it sits gathering ‘emotional dust’.
This ‘dust’ is actually emotional energy that resonates with the repressed emotion. These emotions also attract like-emotions, and they do this by bringing situations into our day-to-day life which activate and feed them with similar emotional energy. In this way, suppressed emotions (which are basically energetic patterns) begin to gain more power, until an emotional pressure begins to build.
This internal pressure of repressed emotions is what many of us are afraid to look at. This gradually accumulates until the pressure becomes too great to remain hidden, and rises to the surface in a fit of rage, depression or an uncharacteristic emotional reaction. When this breakdown happens, we feel a temporary relief from the released energy. However, if we don’t work to bleed out all the accumulated energy, the pressure will, once again, begin to build until the next ‘external’ event releases more of the pressure.
When an emotional trauma occurs, there is the choice to either deal with it effectively or to turn away from it. When we choose to turn away from it, we must do something with the energy of the situation. We either 1) repress/suppress the emotions, 2) express them (i.e. saying things out of anger), or 3) distract ourselves with something else.
These debilitating forms of handling emotions lead to the reinforcement of an emotional pattern within the psyche, which can eventually take on a life of its own and begin to run our lives. When approached in this way, the process can continue indefinitely, or until a complete (often called nervous) breakdown occurs. The nervous breakdown, although traumatic, usually has a very transformative effect because a vast amount of pent-up emotion is released in a very short period of time. It is this catharsis, or ‘dark night of the soul‘, that is touched upon in many world myths, religions, and shamanic traditions.
The Good News
The good news is that we don’t have to wait for a complete nervous breakdown to start letting these repressed emotions go. There is a way to let out this emotional pressure, no matter how deep, in a beneficial and transformative way. It requires radical self-honesty and the courage to face the fear that played a main part in suppressing the emotions in the first place. It is not the easiest of paths, and not to be undertaken lightly, but it is one that we must take if we wish to live a truly peaceful and balanced life.
The Decompression Process
First, it is important to create a safe environment in which the decompression process can occur.
The tools for cultivating this are simple: humility and acceptance. We can become humble to the fact that everything is fine, and the emotions we fear coming up, in reality, are not going to kill us, even though at times it may feel like it. We can also cultivate an attitude of acceptance towards all the emotions that arise and just observe them, without judgment.
Second, drop the urge to label the emotions as they arise. Ignore all thoughts about the emotion and instead focus on the sensations that occur in the body. At first, this may be difficult to do, as an emotional numbness can be present. If this is the case, focus on the intention to just feel them, and eventually it will happen.
Once the thoughts and labels about the emotions have been dropped, just sit with the feelings, without trying to change them. Notice if there is a resistance to the way the emotions feel, and just be with that. If a resistance is felt, the key is to not resist the resistance.
In the space of observing the emotions as they are occurring, free of any mental labeling, they become only energies playing out across the energetic backdrop of consciousness. Since there are no labels, it doesn’t even matter if they are there or not. You can ask the question, “What if this feeling stayed in the body forever?” Then what? Would it kill you to feel this way forever? Probably not…
The Radical Step: Accepting the Emotions, As They Are
Try for just a second to experiment with the possibility of the emotion never leaving you, and being totally okay with it, without needing to change anything. Notice how this attitude feels, compared to that of resistance. It can almost feel peaceful, even in the midst of a very heavy emotion.
By dropping the mental labeling of the emotion and the resistance to feeling it, we allow the emotional energy to return into the flow of the universe, rather than keeping it bottled up inside of us. Since there is no longer a resistance to feeling the emotion, there is no longer anything keeping it from leaving; it is finally free to go.
As can be seen, there is no limit to how much you can accept what is happening, to just let it be. Fortunately, there is a limit to the energy of the emotion being let out. If we are patient enough and continue to surrender to the process, eventually the pressure of the emotion runs itself out completely, as if a fire has burned it out of us. It is this transformative fire of the decompression process that clears out all of the unpleasant feelings associated with repressed emotions. What remains is the warmth from the fire, and in it all of the lessons we were meant to learn from the experience.
“All journeys have secret destinations of which the traveller is unaware” — Martin Buber
Throughout much of my 28 years on this planet, life has always seemed like a great mystery to me. I’ve never been the type of person who has it all figured out. I was never the child who grew up with dreams of being a vet or a doctor, in fact I never really had a goal that excited me for longer than a few weeks. I was never the little girl who grew up imagining my perfect wedding day, how many children I would have, or even what my life would be like. That just wasn’t me!
That’s not to say I wasn’t a dreamer, but my fantasies were more whimsical than realistic. Once I left high school the pressure of making it in the ‘real world’ loomed over me like a rain cloud ready to flood my life if I didn’t find some sort of direction. As a result, I dabbled in lackluster courses and unfulfilling jobs, basically anything that resembled a shred of ambition. I fumbled my way along, riding the ups and downs of life with little strategy or purpose in mind. Life to me felt like an enigma that I was somehow incapable of ever solving.
After several years of struggling to ‘get it together’, and numerous bouts of anxiety and depression as a result of feeling like a lost cause, I began to question the very idea of having it all figured out. I pondered the notion intensely, analyzing my friends and family, whose own lives I used as case studies.
What I discovered, was that even those whose lives I most envied did not have it ‘all figured out’. Admittedly they may have had more areas ‘figured out’ than me, such as their careers or relationships, but even so, they still had areas that remained incomplete.
This was a liberating discovery for me, and overtime I came to understand that life was indeed an enigma, but one that I was not meant to solve, one that I was not meant to ‘figure out’, but rather one that I was simply meant to enjoy.
Now I’m not going to lie to you and pretend that this revelation catapulted me toward my life calling where suddenly everything fell into place… this is reality, darling! I’m still figuring it out, I’m still just drifting through life on a wing and a prayer, and at times I’m still completely oblivious. This revelation did however set me on a path of guiltless self-discovery.
I no longer feel bad or broken in the absence of my ‘togetherness’. Instead, I have come to accept the fact that while I might be on a directionless journey, I am no less on a journey- to some place, to somewhere, to someone. So you see, what I have finally figured out, is that it is ok to not have it all figured out.
In case you need a bit more reassurance, here are some more reasons why it really is OK to NOT have it all figured out:
It Makes Life Interesting:
Can you imagine how boring life would be if you really did have it all figured out? If you knew exactly what career you wanted, the type of person you would marry, the exact style of wedding dress you would wear, the house you would live in, and the amount of children you would have?
In doing so you would completely bypass all the fun, all the adventure, all the improvisation, all the mistakes, all the lessons, all the little things that put life in perspective. Walking a straight line sounds like the epitome of a mundane existence to me. To hell with the straight line, zigzag your way through life.
You’ll Discover Who You Are and What You Really Want:
As human beings we are constantly changing our wants and beliefs. Half of us can’t even decide what to have for dinner most nights, let alone the course of our entire lives. In not having it all figured out, you are presented with the wonderful opportunity of discovering what it is you truly want out of life, rather than what you simply think you want.
In doing so you will also discover who you really are as a person. You’ll be forced to do some major soul-searching, and in the process you’ll be confronted with things you never knew about yourself-your wants and needs, likes and dislikes, strengths and weaknesses.
You’ll Gain Life Experience:
You might think that all those dead-end jobs, disposable relationships, mind-wandering courses, and unused degrees have been a complete waste of precious time, but think again! In not having it all figured out- you’ve experimented, you’ve improvised, and you’ve probably failed many times, and in turn you’ve gained priceless life experience. After all, it is in falling that the bird learns how to fly.
You’ll Have Fewer Regrets:
In your attempt to figure it all out, you’ll try new things, you’ll make mistakes, you’ll take chances on people who will break your heart, you’ll even fall on your ass a few times, and that’s ok. We’re all familiar with the saying “you only regret the chances you didn’t take’, well for those who have their shit together a little less than others there is great reward in your risk. You’ll be less likely to live with regrets because you would have quite literally been there, done that, and been there several times more.
So here’s to all you wanderers and drifters, all you misfits and mavericks, all you procrastinators and dreamers. We are not lost souls; we are just free spirits…. on our way… somewhere.
“Life is not a problem to be solved but a mystery to be lived. Follow the path that is no path, follow your bliss” — Joseph Campbell.
When we try to hide parts of ourselves, usually parts that we feel guilty, shameful, or otherwise negatively about, more often than not those feelings will find a way to creep up on us.
It is ultimately a result of our incomplete truthfulness about our feelings. When we are not acknowledging the very thing we are hiding. You see, nothing can hide from the ultimate observer – your very consciousness itself.
This conflict takes place between your eternal soul and your physical body. Your body is foreign to the nature of your soul. Truthfully you are not used to it.
That soul is wanting to live its true desires. The body on the other hand, has a fixed set of beliefs about what your desires are, based on what it has perceived and been told all around it. Like most children, you were probably told “No” roughly a few hundred times a day for many years while you were growing up, and that can have some big impacts on your psyche.
As a result of this conflict, often we then feel guilt or shame about some feelings that we have, whether they are natural or not. Have you ever experienced anything like that?
If your answer is yes, then ask yourself “Is this drive apart of me and my authentic purpose?”
Inner conflict can be seen as a way to expand one’s knowing of self through self realization and acceptance, and through the observation of what impacts you have on the energy all around you.
Sometimes, the conflict even shows us that there is a part of us that is not being seen or heard.
Your subconscious is like a child, if not given enough attention the child will try to receive any kind of attention that it can get. Even if that means acting up and bouncing off the walls, or trying to steal the life from someone or something else, and this can happen in many many ways.
This is very similar to the same strategy that your repressed aspects of self will use to be acknowledged by its creator, you.
Repressing or being unfamiliar with parts of the self can manifest as the desire to escape or get away from these uncomfortable feelings.
We are always right where we need to be, which means if you keep making the mistake over and over, you haven’t learned the thing you were meant to learn in order to transcend that cycle.
But don’t pity your actions, recognize the pattern, see how you can shift out of it. That is learning from your mistakes.
When we can release the idea that messing up is “bad”, rather than a learning experience, then we can start to shift into the solution. If you caused someone hurt and you see it, take special care of them in remedy. When we focus on the problem over and over again, all of your energy is focused on the problem. It’s time to shift into actively working on the solution in your life.
Observe the patterns of your everyday life.
To help you see where some of your mistakes lay, you can make a list of all your living patterns that you dislike.
Do you do or say things that you don’t really mean? Do you act in ways that isn’t working towards your highest joy?
Ask yourself:
Why does this choice make me feel bad?
Why might I continue to make this choice, even though it makes me feel bad?
Do you smoke cigarettes even though you know it can kill you?
Do you do things that harm you but an overriding feeling takes you and you do it anyway?
Examine where the stem of these impulses come from.
Use your mistakes as stepping stones, know that everyone makes them, it’s apart of our growth and it always will be.
Make the mistakes that you have to make, do it with integrity and the intention to learn from them. Do not dwell in them, rather, use them to expand. You are never alone.
Are you feeling down because a door closed that you had wished was open? Do you have difficulty letting it go? Sometimes closed doors can be your biggest break in a world of conscious change. Looking back, you may discover the closed doors were part of a greater plan and was actually designed for your highest good. Without those closed doors, you may not be where you are today or where you are meant to be tomorrow.
When you can experience closed doors as a positive that is leading you to something even better, your perception of closed doors will change. Open doors have closed doors to thank. Learn to love the doors that close as much as the one’s that remain open. When a door closes, it is an awesome opportunity for another to open. Be thankful, as the next door could lead to something even better than you had hoped for or expected.
Here are seven tips to assist you with viewing closed doors from the higher perspective of conscious change:
Conscious Change Tip 1. If someone betrays you, lets you down or ignores you, the door is closing for a reason.
Allow it to close. Although it may not feel good at the time, it is an opportunity for you to grow, change and evolve. Trust that this is part of a plan. It’s an opportunity for you to align with new people that will enjoy and love your friendship. It is an opportunity for you to move in another direction.
Conscious Change Tip 2. Let go of trying to control outcomes.
Amazing things happen when you go with the flow of life. Know that everything that is meant for you will find its way to you. Let go of the reins and release control. The only outcome to expect is goodness and happiness.
Conscious Change Tip 3. Be present in the moment.
Feel the wind on your back and sunlight on your face. Let go and let GOD. Let go and trust spirit. It’s easy to get caught up in planning for the future and that you miss the ride. Did you ever drive somewhere and not remember the scenery along the way? When you are present, you experience what is happening now. Let all of your senses come alive and embrace the moment.
Are you feeling down because a door closed that you had wished was open? Do you have difficulty letting it go? Sometimes closed doors can be your biggest break in a world of conscious change. Looking back, you may discover the closed doors were part of a greater plan and was actually designed for your highest good. Without those closed doors, you may not be where you are today or where you are meant to be tomorrow.
When you can experience closed doors as a positive that is leading you to something even better, your perception of closed doors will change. Open doors have closed doors to thank. Learn to love the doors that close as much as the one’s that remain open. When a door closes, it is an awesome opportunity for another to open. Be thankful, as the next door could lead to something even better than you had hoped for or expected.
Conscious Change Tip 4. Release others from having to live according to your plan.
Wish them well on their journey and go about yours. There is no need to judge or place blame. If something is bothering you about someone or a situation, the only thing you can do is change your perception. Trying to change the other person is futile and a waste of energy. Put your time and energy in becoming the best you can be, and everything will fall naturally into place.
Conscious Change Tip 5. Realize that every situation is an opportunity to learn, grow and evolve.
Life is perpetually changing. Everyone is your teacher, as you are his or hers. People teach by example. You can discover what you’d like to be or aspire to, as well as what you do not.
Conscious Change Tip 6. Do the best you can with what you have at the time. When you know better, do better.
Conscious Change Tip 7. Today is a new day.
There are wonderful opportunities and experiences waiting to magically and miraculously unfold. Some of the best days of your life haven’t happened yet. Be confident and bold in your expectancy. Know that everything happens for a divine reason and it is always for your highest good.
Think of closed doors like a message or a sign of conscious change, indicating that something better is waiting for you down the road. Some doors open for a short period of time, and then they close. Other times, doors open out of nowhere. You could be asking for one door to open and be pleasantly surprised when another one appears offering an even better opportunity. It could be something you hadn’t even thought about, but are thrilled when it arrives.
Closed doors are not only opportunities to move gracefully in a new direction, but they give you time to reflect, adjust and set new intentions. By consciously changing the way you perceive closed doors, you allow yourself to walk with hope and expectancy that something wonderful can happen at any moment. Adopting this mindset will enable you take life as it comes with a greater sense of happiness and joy, as you are keenly aware that the next door you open could actually be the best door!
"I now release and am released from everything and everybody that is no longer a part of the divine plan of my life." - Catherine Ponder
Many years ago, I heard a spiritual teacher say, "99 percent of spiritual growth is about letting go." This was surprising and good news to me because I still thought that it was about me getting more information, becoming more this or that, doing more and taking on more rituals and spiritual practices. What a relief, to realize that just the opposite is true.
The sage isn't one who knows so much more than we do, but is one who "knows" far less, in a certain sense. Most of our minds are filled with meaningless nonsense from cradle to grave, put there by a world that is not particularly interested in our well-being but, rather, in selling us stuff or trying to get us to fit into some societal mold. By the time we are adults, it's often much more useful to spend time "unlearning" than learning.
The farther I go in my life, the more I realize that it really is mostly about letting go, releasing, undoing and unlearning. In the past few years, I've developed a habit of regularly questioning my thinking, beliefs and actions, to see if they are in alignment with my vision for my life. I always tell my groups, "Don't believe everything you think!" As we question our thinking on a regular basis, we can see where we have taken on beliefs that only increase our stress, suffering and struggle. Whether it comes from a religious upbringing, things taught in school or by family, or from TV commercials is not the point. The question is, "Is this serving me, in living the life I choose for myself? Is this contributing to my peace and joy, or taking me farther from it?"
No one can answer these questions for us. We can have help and support, but it is ultimately up to us to clean out our lives, of that which no longer serves us. Something that was very good and helpful 10 years ago, may now be an albatross around our necks. Just as it would not be enough to clean our physical house once a year, our mental/spiritual/emotional homes need cleaning on a regular basis too, if we want to enjoy our journey through life.
At the start of every one of my classes, I do a guided meditation. Part of the meditation is always a process in which I ask the students to consider this: "What did you come here to let go of today? What no longer serves you? Is it some old, limiting belief, a worry about the present or future, a grievance toward self or another? Guilt, shame or blame? A behavior, or addiction, or condition? An attachment? What is it time to let go of today? What do you choose to surrender to Spirit today?" I let them ruminate on that briefly, and then we take a deep breath and breathe it all out on the exhale, releasing it to the Universe to dissipate and dissolve in the Light. It begins the process that starts with awareness. You may want to take some time this month, to write out a list of what no longer serves you in your life and what it is time for you to release to Spirit.
There is no need to go into blame or anger about where these old ideas came from or to get dragged down into the past. Getting upset at the dust and dirty windows in our house is a waste of time when we could simply use that same energy and a little elbow grease to patiently clean one thing at a time - remember, it's progress, not perfection, that we are after.
By: Jacob Glass
Full Moon in Gemini – Finding Clarity in the Chaos
As the energies on earth are rising to new heights, their polarities are creating more tension than ever before. Frustration, anger, conflicts and crises are being evoked during today’s Full Moon in Gemini, and it will be wise to practice techniques to stay centered and grounded, and not be pulled into opposition.
While these energies may feel unusually intense, they only flow in opposing directions to allow a higher consciousness to be experienced and felt. In our dualistic reality, this is how consciousness experiences itself, through our experience of duality. And right now, the collective evolution of humanity and the planet itself is moving into even higher frequencies, pushing and pulling us to extremes we have never experienced before, and inviting us to experience the polarities of heightened chaos and clarity all at once. Navigating the energy of this Full Moon requires clarity, focus and flexibility.
Planetary Alignments Reflecting Our Evolution:
Mars and Venus in Libra Opposite Uranus in Aries
Today’s Full Moon and the alignment of personal (inner) planets Mars and Venus opposite Uranus (“the awakener” planet) bring with it extremely powerful cosmic energetic patterns. The most recent event in the external world that brings this huge internal shift into our awareness (remember, as above so below) is the 7.5 magnitude earthquake that just happened in Peru.
The energies of Uranus and Pluto are directly linked with earthquakes as they reflect the release of tension and the sudden (and shocking) shift in our collective blueprint, which we are undeniably experiencing right now. Pluto splits matter (Earth) and Uranus fractures it. What is happening here, in alignment with the Virgo/Pisces Nodal shift, is that we releasing the collective trauma and working through huge tension and stress aspects within the collective psyche. These aspects of our galactic and cosmic karma are occurring as a reaction to the state and direction in which humanity has been moving.
This is a heavy aspect of ourselves that most certainly can create massive anxiety and feelings of futility. But understanding the nature of our dualistic reality, we find opportunity to gain ever more compassion for ourselves and others, and to tap into the incredible healing potential for that is available to us at this time. Each of us who feels pulled by our compassionate awareness to be present and to do the purposeful work that needs to be done right now, must embody that healing in these times of massive universal shift in earth’s timeline. By bringing into this world more of what you know to be true and shining your lightinto the darkness is the greatest gift you can give yourself and the planet.
This is crunch time. It’s time to truly rise and shine, not just through our inner work but how we manifest our will in the outer world. The energy reflected by Gemini helps us out here — it asks us to explore what we feel innately drawn to, and prompts us to take up new tasks and goals.
Cardinal T-Square with Mars and Venus in Libra, Pluto in Capricorn Square Uranus in Aries
With this alignment we are dealing with some extremely volatile energies. This is a time in which we are under energetic pressure to release deep unconscious and unresolved emotions. We would recommend during this time to keep a very acute sense of awareness around your inner space. Observe the thoughts and feelings that arise for you at this time.
In the Vedic philosophy, unresolved pain and emotional wounding is known as “samskaras”, or rites of passage. Each of us carry with us these aspects and when we experience situations that are stress inducing — like aspects of Pluto/Uranus — we find great potential for deep emotional release which can be extremely powerful and extremely volatile at the same time. Due to the personal planets of Venus and Mars being in Libra, there will be a tendency toward projection, so be mindful of this during the next two weeks.
What is actually occurring here, from a pure healing perspective, is that we are on the road to healing collective trauma, reflected and amplified during this time by the Nodal Axis of the Moon moving into Virgo/Pisces. Many souls over the last 2½ years have awoken to this and are actively working on this. As we become more open to these aspects of ourselves that have been wounded, individually and collectively, the vibration of this alignment offers us the opportunity to learn about balance and wholeness — something that is vitally important.
Embodying unity consciousness truly means doing active work on your own energy field every day, remaining balanced in the left and right hemispheres of the brain, and living from the balance of masculine (logical, willful and expansive) and feminine (creative, nurturing and receptive) principles. This is the route to healing the samskaras in the collective and individual energy field. Please see the video below for a deeper understanding of this concept.
Full Moon in Gemini Opposite Saturn, Mercury and the Sun in Sagittarius
Due to the energetic tensions of the current planetary alignments — a mirror of the the tensions we are seeing and feeling around us — this conjunction and opposition is (in our view) actually helping us keep grounded… although it does require work on our end. The sun’s alignment with Saturn is bringing a collective sense of futility and absence of the creative spark we sense we need to move forward. These elements, when combined together, bring an intensely powerful outward flow of energy, and demands we operate from a truly grounded and balanced state, or we will suffer feelings of detachment and futility. You may also naturally feel that everything is moving extremely slowly but, at the same time, time and events are racing at electric speeds.
So, as Saturn aligns in opposition to the Moon, it is important to remain grounded and aware of your thoughts and actions — which will definitely take some work. A grounding technique I suggest is to bring your awareness into your inner space. Then, connect to the image of the trunk of a tree aligned with your spine. Now feel the roots of the tree expanding into the ground, and allow yourself to feel the sensations of being firmly grounded. Imagine the branches of the tree expanding through your arms and extending through the top of your head, connecting to the great cosmic aether. Now, bring in your awareness and feel both polarities — the feeling of grounding and the connection to the aether — until your state of mind and body is in alignment with the fully extended tree, firmly grounded but still open to infinite growth.
New Moon Message: Balance and Totality
There is a space within us that is neither good nor bad. It does not love nor hate, fight nor flee. It is the space where the feminine and masculine, the yin and the yang, meet. This space is our center where everything comes together. It is from this center that everything is created, and it is also here that our free will resides.
Desire emanates from our center and is perpetuated into motion by our will. Our true power lies in this understand; that our will is the starting point for all of creation. Our will is the place that is manipulated the most in our distorted reality, through conditioning and the trauma of disconnection, and it is from here that the distortions we feel are manifested into reality. This is how we have come to perpetuate a world we know must change.
In a balanced state, we receive inspiration from Source — from love — and then feel a desire emanating from our soul. This desire is then put into motion by our will and grounded into our reality, reflecting inspiration back to our hearts and propelling more energy into our center.
A distorted version of this feedback loop leaves us disconnected from Source, as our desires and will are formed by the conditioning of our outer dualistic world, leaving us vulnerable to make choices out of egocentric love and fear. For example, motivated by a competitive scarcity consciousness, we perform jobs that don’t make us happy just so that we can survive, thereby supporting the distortions by manifesting them into reality. Our heart’s energy is diminished to its most minimal existence — survival — despite the abundant world we live in. In this distorted reality, we manifest more scarcity — scarcity of time, of money, of satisfaction — and it is very difficult to find our center as our whole energetic field becomes unbalanced. It is like being swept up by a tornado and then trying to navigate yourself back into balance through the chaotic currents.
The greatest lesson we can master in our Universe is to find that center within ourselves, the core of our Being, and to begin making choices that our aligned with it; to not allow ourselves to be swayed by the opposing choices we see around us but to look deep within. We are all complete and whole at the core and we all have the free will to project that wholeness into our reality, by finding our center and breaking through our fears and conditioning.
We are witnessing the suffering of the duality around us in this world, and while we undoubtedly need to enact change, we cannot balance duality by choosing sides, judging or fighting. That just further feeds the opposition and perpetuates the cycle of distortion. Instead we must align our desires and our will with the impulses emanating from Source. Live and act from our soul. Look within. Hold space for yourself and others, and lead by example.
Choose A Door…What This Choice Means Might Reveal Things About You And Your Life!
Whether or not you are someone who believes in psychics, horoscopes, or even Nostradamus’ predictions for the future, we think this fun test is a great way to reveal a little more about your personality.
Pick the door that looks the most appealing to you (remember to pick the door FIRST before reading).
Go ahead and pick which door you would like step through, then keep scrolling down.
Once you’ve picked your door, remember your number and scroll to find out your future.
Door Number One:
You are longing for the simpler things in life. You are seeking quiet, solitude, and you enjoy large periods of time alone. When you are in the company of others, you prefer it to be homey — perhaps just with friends and close family. Your future is a happy one because you know what you like. You enjoy authenticity and simplicity. You are destined for a life free from the drama of others, though be careful of getting too bored.
Door Number Two:
You are destined for additional wealth — but you know it’s only if you put in the hard work. By choosing the door with the stairs, you are inclined to want to climb. You are seeking the nicer things in life, and you understand that to get those things, you’ll just have to work hard and take it, literally, step by step. You’re not afraid to climb to the top. In fact, you find pleasure in the journey up there!
Door Number Three:
You must be very cautious. You have an inclination to venture into the unknown, and while your sense of adventure could eventually pay off, you’re going to walk right by warning signs. The fire hydrant is a symbol of the possibilities of danger, but what’s on the other side of the door is anyone’s guess. If you have felt the repercussions of taking too many risks lately, maybe it’s time to proceed with a little more caution. The number 26, hanging over the door, is an important number for many Judeo-Christian people as it symbolizes God. Even though you’re taking a risky path, and whether or not you believe, take comfort in knowing that someone will watch out for you.
Door Number Four:
If you chose this door, you are prepared to go to battle. Whether it’s a legal battle, a struggle for power, or you’re looking for a promotion at work, you have taken the steps to prepare yourself, and it will pay off. The red symbolizes power, as do the castle walls. Not even iron and sharp edges will frighten you away from claiming what is rightfully yours. You have been locked out from what you wanted for too long, but now that you have crossed the moat, you’re ready take the whole castle.
Door Number Five:
If you chose this door, don’t worry. Things are about to quiet down. You are seeking something comfortable and calm. Perhaps you’ve been going through a rocky time professionally or personally. You are seeking to be surrounded by those who will be loyal and love you unconditionally. If times have been hard lately, find contentment in the fact that you know what you want. Aim for people and activities that will be consistent, and avoid those that will rock the boat.
Door Number Six:
I know you have been feeling burdened lately, but the good news is that you have enough optimism to pull yourself through! The dark times will soon be left behind you, but you have just a little bit further to go. You haven’t reached “the light” yet, but it’s in view. If a brighter future still seems too far away, you can’t give up yet. Think of all that you’ve left behind you. The worst is through, and as long as you keeping working, you find get the freedom you are seeking.
Door Number 7:
Get ready for some chaos in your future — but it’s nothing you can’t handle! You’re almost more comfortable with not knowing what your next step will be. You like to keep your options open and every door is a door you’d like to step through. Things may come flying at you from all angles, so prepare for some unexpected surprises, but that’s nothing new for you. When that unexpected hurdle comes your way, just get ready to open another door.
Door Number Eight:
You’re definitely the curious type, and while “curiosity” might have killed the cat, your curiosity is going to pay off. There’s a big gap between careless and curious, and you know the difference. You know that it’s good to take unexpected risks, but you have to have some idea of the repercussions. This curiosity and sense of adventure is going to pay off. You know that one thing you’ve been thinking of doing, but haven’t been sure if it’s the right thing to do? Do it. There’s no time like the present to try it.
Please SHARE if you think this is accurate! Did you pick the door that looks the most appealing to you? I did and I was quite surprised because in the end some of these words describe my inner me! Scary?!? Let us know what door you picked and if the answer was accurate for you!
