10 mind hacks to use on people
1) First Impression - When you first meet people, try to notice their eye color while also smiling at them. It might be because you look for a second or two longer, but I can tell you that people really respond to it. 2) Control the Frame - When people are angry at you, stay calm and it’ll get them even angrier. When someone insults you, either ignore or mock them. Never lose temper. They’ll be ashamed about it after. 3) Turn your Torso - As you are listening to someone, you can make them feel valued by keeping your toes and torso pointed at them as they speak. It’s kind of like nonverbally telling them that you are interested in what they have to say. And that is the best compliment you can give someone. 4) Use a Triple Nod - When someone finishes their statement, look them in the eye and nod three times as if to say, “keep going.” They often will continue and you end up having a much deeper conversation. (And if they don’t it’s no big deal, just take a sip of your drink and ask your next question). 5) Silent Treatment - Nothing is worse than a silent listener. People will go to any extent to break your silence and while talking or negotiating and sometimes they even give up their key point just to make you interested. If you ask someone a question and they only partially answer just wait. If you stay silent and keep eye contact, they will usually continue talking. 6) Parental Wisdom: If you want people to take your words more seriously just say, "This was what my father/mother taught me when I was a kid". People tend to believe in parental advises. 7) False Attribution of Arousal - When you take somebody out on a first date, take them somewhere exciting that will get their heart beating such as a roller coaster or horror film. This gets their adrenaline up. It makes them think they enjoy spending time with you rather than the activity. 8) Remember their Name - Refer to people you’ve just met by their name. People loving being referred to by their name and it will establish a sense of trust and friendship right away. 9) Add some Embarrassment - When you are lying to someone right to their face and don't want to get caught, just add some embarrassing detail to it. People tend to believe those lies because no one likes to share embarrassing details unless they are true. 10) Story first, then Data - Although data is always accurate, people tend to believe in stories and overlook data. So when you are giving someone some data, give it with a story first.