[ID: a screenshot of a DNI which shows the two lines, “you’re an exclusionist (aphobe, panphobe, etc.),” and “you support bi/pan lesbians (they are lesbo/bi/panphobic)”]
I see this a lot, and it’s amazing that someone can even put those two lines right next to each other and not realize that THEY are an Exclusionist? Like just write “don’t interact if you exclude these groups but also don’t interact if you DON’T exclude these other groups.”
Mspec lesbians have existed since long before I or this person were even born. I’ve met a ton of people whose attraction to women was so overwhelming next to their attraction to men they decided to call themselves lesbians and keep the bi label in their head. How is that okay, having to deny part of your identity, and of course homoflexible, anisosexual, and similar terms are too ~cringey~ and also no one recognizes it? Someone else needing more words to describe their experience than you need does not invalidate your experiences. Why don’t mspec gay men get this kind of treatment? I have never seen “mspec gay men” in a DNI but I see mspec lesbians all the time.
