It doesn't feel very "uplifting transmasc voices" if you're taking submissions from everyone but transfems and only about transfems. The transfem voices project was lifting up stories of people in a marginalized community being harmed by people who don't share that identity. I get wanting to have a version of this that uplifts transmasc voices. The way to do this would be to take submission from transmascs about people who are not transmasc, rather than to take submissions from non-transfems about people who are transfem. If you're just taking the TMA/TME binary and flipping it around then your project isn't supporting transmascs it's just existing in opposition to the transfem voices project. Calling it the transmasc voices project feels like using our names to put down our sisters. I don't agree with the way TMA/TME is typically used but I think transfems should be able to speak about the harm people who don't share that identity with them do to them. I don't think a project existing in opposition to that goal, even on the basis of "they're using the wrong words," is good for the world. And I think transmascs should also be able to talk about the harm people who don't share that identity with them do to them. I am myself a transmasc genderqueer & intersex lesbian. I have been harmed by people who don't aren't transmasc. But compiling stories like mine ONLY when they're about transfems, and combining them with stories from cis men and women regarding transfems, will not serve to benefit transmascs, only to harm transfems. It's a bit difficult to believe that you don't understand that. It's a bit difficult to believe that you aren't doing this on purpose. But nonetheless I want to give you the benefit of the doubt. I want you to take the opportunity now to get out of this and not make the world worse for our sisters if you genuinely aren't doing it on purpose. And if you are, idk. Fix your heart and all that. I will tell other blogs I sent you this ask so they will know if you do not answer it. I just want to know if you're doing this intentionally or if you're making a big mistake that you might still have time to walk back.
"i will tell other blogs i sent you this ask so they will know if you do not answer it" yeah... totally normal, totally non-threatening behavior. definitely not an attempt to corner me or blackmail me into compliance. you love to see it.
but sure, let us go through this for the one trillionth time since you claim you want to "give me the benefit of the doubt."
the basic premise of your argument is completely backwards. you are saying that a space for transmasc survivors is only allowed to exist if it strictly polices itself to never, ever talk about harm committed by one specific demographic. you want us to edit our own trauma to make sure it doesn't make anyone uncomfortable, or worse, you want us to just sit on our stories if the person who hurt us happens to be transfem.
we aren't "flipping the binary" just to be contrarian. we are addressing a massive, screaming void. the transfem voices project exists to talk about harm done to transfems by people who don't share their identity. okay, cool. but the second transmascs try to talk about the harm done to us by people who don't share our identity—which includes transfems—we get told we are committing "violence" just by opening our mouths.
you say this blog only compiles stories when they're about transfems, but that is literally because this is the specific type of abuse that gets completely buried, excused, and protected under the guise of "community optics." if a transmasc person is abused by a cis person, the community generally agrees that is bad. but if a transmasc person is abused by a transfem person? they are told to shut up, stay quiet, and protect the abuser so they don't "further the stigma."
this space doesn't exist in opposition to our sisters. it exists in opposition to abuse and the absolute culture of silence that protects it. i refuse to tell a survivor that their trauma doesn't count or that they aren't allowed to heal because the person who hurt them has a certain identity.
i know exactly what i am doing, and it isn't a mistake. i am giving people a place to speak the truth about what happened to them without being forced to edit their own lives for the comfort of others. if standing up for survivors means i don't fit into your neat little boxes of what is "good for the world," i can live with that. go ahead and share this with whatever blogs you want. 💙