Heather Monahan: How to Develop Self-Confidence When Times are Tough
Mr. Alex Mau
June 16, 2018 • Last updated: July 17, 2020
in Mind • 05 Minutes Read
"The most important voice and opinion in your own life will always be your own." - Ms. Heather Monahan
In this episode of "The James Altucher Show" podcast, Mr. James Altucher interviews Ms. Heather Monahan. She is an author, life-coach, and speaker. In her book "Confidence Creator," she offers personal stories of how she turns defeat into triumph and gradually develop self-confidence along the way.
Interview Summary with Ms. Heather Monahan
"When you're going through difficult times, keep an eye out for the silver lining. It might not be obvious at first, but there is always a way to learn from a difficult situation and grow." - Ms. Heather Monahan
Confidence is a skill that we can learn. No one was born with the ability of confidence. No one is perfect.
We own our failure. We are honest with ourselves and take full responsibility for our lives. We shine-a-light on our shame, and failure will help us to develop self-confidence in the long-run.
We find silver-linings in life. When you face fear, train yourself to flip your story upside-down from negative to positive. It boosts our self-worth and motivates us to move forward.
We start a daily journal. A daily journal shifts our mindset from scarcity to abundance. We write down three things that you are grateful for about each day. We take time to notice and reflect on things we are thankful for, and daily journaling reduces depression and increases happiness.
Our daily journal services as a reminder of how far we have come. It creates a sense of self-confidence and prepares us for what lies ahead.
We always make ourselves a priority. We do what makes us feel good and congratulate ourselves often.
We visualize our best future daily. Being confident is a discipline, and it is a choice. We look for opportunities and take action each day.
We have a 30 days plan for each fear and self-doubt.
We track daily progress.
We cross each day for our accomplishments.
We evaluate our daily progress on how far we have come and how do we feel today.
This 30 days plan gives us a sense of self-accomplishment, which produces self-confidence. We take day by day, one day at a time and one month at a time. There is no rush.
We set tasks and goals. The secret to building self-confidence is to set specific tasks, and goals then track progress. Self-accomplishment builds self-confidence.
Be present. We take action. We visualize our future. We practice confidence every day.
A book is a self-marking tool. It is not the most efficient medium compared to video and podcasts, but it is still worth celebrating and proud. The best marking for the first book is the second book.
An author must be on most popular social media platforms, Linkedin, Facebook, Twitter, and Youtube, with an Amazon link for each.
[You can listen to this full interview at the "James Altucher Show." Link]
Further Read and Resources on How to Develop Self-Confidence
You can find more information about her book “Confidence Creator" and her courses "30 Days -Accountability" on her website at HeatherMonahan.com.
"Confidence Creator" by Heather Monahan is available on Amazon.
Heather Monahan's weekly podcast "Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan" is available on Apple, Spotify, Stitcher, and other podcast platforms.
If you enjoy this interview, please visit the website The James Altucher Show for more in-depth conversations with authors and thinkers. The James Altucher Show is available on Apple Podcasts, Google Android, Stitcher, Spotify, Youtube, Tunein, and most major platforms.
Our Mission.
The writing Behind the writing.
This was my first "serious" blog post written on June 16, 2018. This post was intended to be a part of the self-development series.
I want to be a writer. I have tried writing for years but mostly for fun and pleasure. After years of trial and error, I started to look for topics that I would enjoy writing about.
It was during the beginning of my life's self-development period, so I looked for life-lessons that I could apply to my life. I listened to podcasts, Freakonomics radio, NPR radio, ESPN 30for30, and others.
In the end, I found that interview-based podcasts work well. I listen and take note of an interview. I summarize and reinterpret the lessons I learned into writing. I have difficulty reading and comprehending words and numbers, so I often listen to a podcast many times. It is the masterful way for me to understand and apply these life lessons into my life.
