For headcanons, start making a collection on TikTok of actions others do (specifically some from parent TikTok’s for caregiver related hcs) or a board on Pinterest of photos that relate to the character or if the character happens to come from a comic or manga, anything with images, look it up on Pinterest and find things that seem like a personality the character has that goes with whatever the headcanons is.
For example: Alfred Pennyworth specifically from Batman the animated series.
On episode four, Alfred tells Bruce/batman that he had drew him a bath but when Bruce turned to see that the bath he thought was made, was not actually made, Alfred then showed him a picture of a bathtub as a joke. I would take this as “Alfred loves dad jokes or jokes in general!” also “Alfred likes to draw!”
I’m not sure if this helps at all since all critters do things different and this wasn’t asked for but I just wanted to share this tip even if it doesn’t work…this also works for imagines, I usually use images from Pinterest and make up my own story (hinting to my baking with cg imagine) though it only works if you have the motivation to do so at that time (which can be hard and that’s okay.)
( Content Warning: mentions of involuntary regression, “impure”/negative regression, negative feelings surrounding regression, trauma, bad people online/internet safety )
🦇 Your regression is, in fact, your own. It doesn’t have to look any particular way to be “correct” or useful
🎃 Do not feel bad if you regress a lot, especially if it’s as a coping mechanism or involuntarily. Your brain is reacting in a way that it feels is meant to make you safe, there’s no harm in that. (If you feel like your regression IS interfering with your day-to-day life, journaling could be really helpful, and I’ll make a separate post about that soon)
🦇 Regressing/age dreaming as self-care/a hobby is a-okay and shouldn’t be looked down upon; staying in touch with things you enjoyed as a child or being able to experience that sort of happiness and whimsy can honestly be very helpful in regulating stress and other emotions, just like any “typical” self-care or hobby
🎃 Feeling upset while regressed can be very upsetting; remember that you are safe, that feelings from the past cannot hurt you, and they aren’t inherently indicative of what’s happening in the present. Triggers can be bizarre and unassuming, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t real to those who experience them. Be gentle with yourself, and find ways while regressed to remind yourself that you are okay
🦇 Your regression is allowed to change ! Maybe it started as a coping mechanism, but now it’s more self-care/for fun. That’s okay, and I’m glad that you can use it in a more fun way ! Maybe it looked one way as far as your interests/age ranges/etc and now those have changed ! That is okay too ! Maybe it is constantly fluctuating — none of these are bad things (unless it’s stressing you out, in which case, journaling these changes can probably be helpful)
🎃 I’ll stop talking about journaling at some point, but writing down the ways that make your regression helpful can really be good for those who regress solo; writing out positive and negative triggers so you can manage them appropriately, writing out activities you enjoy or would enjoy doing while regressed and connecting them to a goal, writing a plan/routine so regressing solo is easier (or to give to someone who may be helping with your regression,) literally all of these can be a game changer
🦇 Do not feel pressured to “reveal” your regression to anyone, do not feel pressured to change it for someone, and do NOT feel pressured to do anything while regressed that makes you uncomfortable (I’ve read a lot of posts lately, particularly from minors new to agere, of people being interacted with inappropriately in numbers of ways because they were in a vulnerable spot to start. PLEASE be so careful online, especially as a minor and especially with something like this)
🎃 Do not feel bad for your regression, end all be all. Experiencing shame or guilt for regressing is something I experience and something I see on here from time to time, and it bears repeating that it isn’t something to feel guilty of. For many of us, it’s a coping mechanism and maybe has been for a long time. It may be confusing to others and even ourselves sometimes, and difficult conversations may be necessary to explain it and how it helps, but that doesn’t mean it’s worth feeling shame over. You are not something to be ashamed by. This is not something to feel guilty about. You deserve to feel safe, and to be able to grow in a safe environment.
Keeping the reblogs on, but N$FW/k!nk/pr0ship/@b/dl/etc DO NOT INTERACT because it isn’t for you. I will ask you to remove the post and block afterwards — this IS NOT for you.
Hellooooo !! I said I wanted to go more in depth with some of my “school”/“daycare” schedule sections, so I figured I’d start (out of order) with art class !
This is gonna include links to videos focusing on different mediums, as well as links to different craft ideas! I’m not gonna break ‘em down into ages because some folks may not follow those structures, so just pick and choose what you’d like! As you’ll notice, I REALLY like Miss Stephens’ videos, so look around her channel !!
VIDEOS !
Salt Dough Fish Bowl with Miss Stephens
Origami Pets with Miss Stephens
Pet Shop Puppets with Miss Stephens
Draw a Winter Dog/Cat with Miss Stephens
Coral Reef Sculpture with Miss Stephens
Draw a Treasure Map with Miss Stephens
Clay Bobble Head Pets with Miss Stephens
Picasso Dogs with Miss Sonheim
Rock and Roll People with Miss Sonheim + Miss Moore
Nature Faces with Miss Sonheim
Foldable Surprise Drawing with Miss Sonheim + Miss Doman
Elements of Art with Mrs. Hazleton
There’s lots of videos to find! I tried finding the more in-depth/interactive ones to help engage folks while they’re watching like an actual lesson! Searching up “kids art lessons” or similar helps, and if you have a specific artist maybe you wanna learn about, you could look up the artist and see what there is (Brain Pop is great for this, too!)
SOME RANDOM LINKS !
Paper Plate Tambourine (could be good to pair with a music “class” !)
Cardboard Laptop Craft (an upgrade cuz I used to make paper ones during recess with game slots and everything ^w^)
Egg Carton Cars
Farm Animal Finger Puppets
Fake Snow (good to pair with a science “class” !)
Woven Rainbow Fish
We Built a Zoo! (could also be good for science)
Paper Plate Pizza
OTHER IDEAS !
Do some seasonal crafts !
Draw and cut out different animal body parts (paws, horns, wings, tails) and glue ‘em together to make a whole new animal ! (Pair this with writing; name your new creature, describe what it likes to do, what sounds it makes, where it lives, etc)
Make paper/cardboard food for your stuffed animals/dolls ! You can even make menus if you wanna play restaurant some time
Try and make a pop-up book, or a sensory one !
Make bracelets for different moods, or make a chart with drawings of what each mood feels like for you
Finger paint !
Make a sensory bottle/jar
Make a paper doll of yourself (big or small) and cut out some fun clothes for you to wear !
There are a whole BUNCH of ideas you can do, just think a little bit and dream bigger ! It can be helpful if you look these up before you regress (or have a CG do it for you) and print out/write down the instructions beforehand so you’re not having to use your phone/laptop to look up ideas and take you outta the zone. Extra helpful if you queue up the videos you wanna watch! Have fun !! And stay safe with any scissors, hot glue, etc!!
Okay, so in a few posts, I mentioned that if you don’t have a CG, have a hard time with routine, have a hard time meeting certain daily tasks, etc., then it can help to make a sorta daycare/school routine (which would involve getting ready for the day, exercise, recreation, meal breaks, etc)!
Of course, the “daycare”/“school” aspect to it is all up to you ! Routines can have some variation, and if you’re having a little day or your routine seems to be difficult because of sudden regression, then this is more tailored towards that !! (It’s also a li’l more geared towards the 4-5 age range, but don’t let that dissuade you!)
Me personally, if I’m havin’ a rough time, I might feel a sorta lingering regression throughout my day which I’ve been feeling lately. I don’t want it to interfere when I have to be big, though, so this is also a good way to manage big tasks and little wants!!
The routine can start like this !
Getting Ready For The Day: You gotta make sure you’re ready to take on the day! Wake up at a decent time (what works for your schedule) and try to do each of the following!
Make your bed
Drink some water
Brush your teeth/hair
Go to the bathroom (even if you’re not sure you need to! It can’t hurt to try!)
Wash your face or splash it with a little water
Get dressed (It helps to lay out your clothes the night before if you can !) (don’t forget new underwear and socks !)
Have some breakfast
School Time: These you can rearrange the order of, but I recommend keeping lunch/recess/nap in a somewhat similar place (ex. not having recess first) unless you really gotta! These are just suggestions after all and you know yourself best !
Welcome to the Day: Make a list of the Big Things you might need to do that day (tidy up, laundry, work/homework, etc) so you can sprinkle them in throughout the day or work around them! You can write this out by hand as a little goal chart—this is how we are greeting the day! You can write your name and date on it, use fun pens, make it a little sticker chart, whatever you’d like! This is just a way to keep track of the things you’ve gotta do. This is also a time to Get Grounded; make a separate list of three things that have made you happy/went well/or that you look forward to this morning! Even if it’s a hard day, it helps to try and find the littlest things (like you!) that make your day a little better (ex. “The weather is nice right now,” “I made my bed,” “I changed into different pajamas,” “I’m going to the park later,” etc!)
Reading: Set aside around 20-30 minutes (or more! I’d say about an hour max for now) to get comfy in a fun chair, on the floor, wherever, grab a book (or a couple if they’re shorter,) and get reading! No need to take notes unless you wanna, and if you really wanna make it more school-like, you can read the books out loud to some stuffed animals (just make sure you’re reading ‘em, not just saying ‘em) or write down the books you read in a reading log! At the end of the month it could be fun to look back and see what you’ve read!
Music: This was always my favorite subject (well, one of them)! Again, set aside around 30 minutes, and have some music fun! Listen to your favorite artists, learn some chords on guitar, practice keyboard/piano, whatever you’d like! Write a song and play it for your stuffed animals! Come up with a cartoon theme song, or music for a video game!
Work Time: Set aside around 30-60 minutes to do some work! If you have school work, you can chip away at that. If you don’t, you can use this time to do some of your big tasks (start a load of laundry, wash some dishes, etc) and, with whatever remaining time, maybe find some things to stimulate your brain! Word puzzles, math problems, researching a subject you like—anything!
Recess: Set a timer for 30 minutes and go have fun! This depends on the weather, naturally, but it’s free time! If you can get outside, go for it! Enjoy the sun (or snow,) lay/sit in the grass, take a pet for a walk or just go for one yourself/with a friend, run around if you can! If there’s a park nearby, that could be fun! Or if you have outdoor toys (ball, hula hoop, chalk, etc) you can use those! Even just reading or drawing outside is nice to get the fresh air. If you can’t get outside, do some indoor fun! Try and stay off of screens, but you don’t have to (you could find some fun kids games on the computer,) and play inside! Play with your stuffed animals, whatever toys you may have, color, anything your heart desires! Maybe you just want 30 minutes to meditate wherever you are, go for it. Just stay safe, and keep stuff handy in case you get too excited playing!
Lunch Time: This can be 30 minutes to 60, however long you feel you need to make/have lunch and settle down afterwards! It’s not helpful to rush during a meal, which I know sometimes folks struggle with (me too,) so this is the time to slow down. You’ve had a busy day so far, you gotta make sure you’ve got energy to last you a while longer! Try incorporating fun stuff into lunch if it’s daunting; fun shapes, a color scheme, a theme overall, etc. Have a stuffed animal have lunch with you if you wanna (just don’t feed ‘em your food, they like their own!)
Art: We don’t wanna get right into anything too exhaustive after lunch, what better idea than to create? Set aside 30 minutes to do something creative! Paint, color, draw, use clay, make bracelets, make a fun craft, whatever you can think of. There’s loads of posts about agere craft ideas, and plenty of kids’ art ideas on Pinterest and in books—check those out for some ideas! Remember, you’re not making things to be the best, you’re making things to make them!
Writing: For 20 minutes, it’s time to write! Assess how your day’s going—if anything’s changed from the morning, what fun stuff you might’ve done, etc. Maybe you just wanna write a silly story, or you have one that you’re already working on, go ahead and work on it! If you’re feeling particularly little, those handwriting workbooks are very fun!
Gym: For 30 minutes, we’re gonna get our bodies moving! This is all dependent on your mobility levels, so I won’t get toooo specific here (I will in other posts)! Clear some space in your living room, a rec room, however much space you need, and get your blood moving. This can be things like yoga or simple stretches (which have lots of seated options,) Pilates, or a full-out routine! It’s important to get your body moving as best you can, it keeps your heart healthy and can help if you’ve got low energy (I can confirm)!
Quiet Corner: Now we really step away from the screens. For 20-30 minutes (minimum, if you can do longer go for it,) turn off your phone, the TV, the computer, and try to relax. This is another good time to journal, to meditate, or even take a nap if you feel like your body needs it (try not to take too long a nap though, keep that to 12-30 minutes so you don’t mess up sleeping later). This can just be any quiet activity that is more hands-on to help keep you grounded. I like to read in the little corner in my room, or to play with my sensory bin! (This is also a good time to bust out the “clean up” song and maybe tidy up stuff as you start wrapping up).
Goodbyes: The day isn’t over yet, especially if you’ve gotta work closing or have late classes, but the school routine is sorta wrapping up. Grab your journal yet again, and write down something about the day that you’ve enjoyed, something you’d want to do tomorrow, or maybe something you wanna do later in the day! This is also a good time to clean up as needed, as you say “goodbye” to the more organized schedule and carry on with your day!
Dismissal: The “daycare”/“school” day may be done, but the day isn’t over yet! Have another check in and see what tasks you’ve still gotta do for the day. It’s a good time to get crackin’ on those so your evening can be more restful!
If you have work/class that interrupts your schedule, just try and pick up where you left off (unless you’re gettin’ home real late—adjust as necessary). Once you’re done with all your tasks for the day (it’s okay if you can’t do ‘em all,) it’s time to settle down, have some dinner, have a nice bath, and get ready for bed however you’d like!
This routine is great because of how flexible it can be; don’t wanna do gym every day? That’s fine! Switch out gym for science (go outside and collect some rocks or fallen plants, look ‘em up, watch some Bill Nye)! Don’t wanna do writing that day? Okay! How about history? Brain Pop is great for all sorts of subjects, and it’s a good way to try finding some new books!
This is a VERY long post, and it’s all just suggestions, but I hope some folks find it helpful (I love detailed posts like this personally ^w^). I might make some more as far as routines go (morning/night routines, different daily routines, etc) but I will definitely be making follow-up posts to this one with links and resources for every subject (as I find them!)
